Well it happened…he called me a b!tch

posted 2 months ago in Relationships
Post # 16
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4954 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

hellokittyxo :  amazing people don’t have to tell you how amazing they are 🤮🤮🤮

Post # 17
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409 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Somewhere in the world, probably near you, there exists a man with all the good qualities of this one and none of the bad. Raise your standards, the guy you’re with now has literally no redeeming qualities. 

Post # 18
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95 posts
Worker bee

Yea. We all know these guys. They’re called abusive assholes and honestly, Bee, you need to run. There’s so many better men out there and this is not the hill you need to die on. 

Post # 20
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272 posts
Helper bee

hellokittyxo :  

he puts on a show in public – he reveals who he is with you by how he acts in private. It’s abusive and you deserve better. I’m sorry Bee, I rarely would say ‘dump his ass’, but he does nothing to build you up and share in your burden. I hope you find the courage to break your ties to him and meet the man you deserve.

Post # 21
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4954 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

hellokittyxo :  are you going to wait his mandatory two weeks and then contact him?

Or will you take the out he’s given you and do some soul searching to figure out why you want to be with someone like this?

Post # 23
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

 Is his name paul? Dated someone that sounds exactly like him/sketchy as hell and was the biggest cheater about 10 years ago. Biggest waste of my time. Don’t waste yours.

Post # 24
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

hellokittyxo :  Girl, don’t you get it?  The sweetness and light show is for other people’s sake!  Its an ACT!!!!!  Its a fake persona he puts out so he looks good and is perceived as a great guy…..  I bet when that evil side comes out its when you and he are alone right?  He’ll never let the outside world see his real side…you know the side that only comes out behind closed doors.

I need you to comprehend this…..He ENJOYS belittling you.  He gets off on hurting you.  He loves the power he has over his toy.  He can make you do whatever he wants and you’ll never fight back because he has near total control.  And just when he thinks he may have gone too far…..love bombing starts. 

Dear bee, I’m no psychiatrist so take what I say with real grain of salt, but this guy sounds like a Sociopath.  There is no love because he’s incapable of it but he can sure put on an award winning act and fool everone in his path.  He may never lift a fist towards you but he really doesn’t need to.  He’s done plenty of damage to your psyche and self esteem.

I beg you to get individual therapy.

Post # 25
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4954 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Seriously though, if I had to sit and listen to someone tell me how awesome they are, I would throw up in my mouth a little.

Not contacting him is the best thing. You aren’t going to move on from this overnight, you need to give yourself some time to figure yourself out. Cutting all contact with him is the first step

Post # 26
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1447 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

hellokittyxo :  Cut him off completely.  He should have zero access to you for a while if you’re going to get some perspective.  Block him from you phone and all social media and when he knocks at your door, don’t answer it.  

Post # 29
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459 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2019

Bee, I’m not quick in saying something like this, but I think this is just not meant to be.

You’re relationship sounds so toxic. He projects all of his insecurities, the anger/guilt and shame he feels for himself on to you. So he takes it out on you and you LET HIM.

I think the two week timeout he gave you, is the best thing that could have happened to you. Take a step back and look at the dynamics of your relationship and ask yourself the following questions: Are you the person you want to be right now? He told you he wants the perfect girlfriend; Do you want to be in a place where you’re never going to be good enough? Do you want to be called names or to turn into a snooping, clingy person because you don’t feel secure or loved enough?

Post # 30
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: City, State

hellokittyxo :  YOUR BOYFRIEND IS A FUCKING PIECE OF SHIT.

He was probably talking to whomever he thinks will suck his dick appropriately.

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