(Closed) Well, maybe this isnt happening after all…opinions please?

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Aklove:  I thought the condition was just the ring, not also his proposal? if it is just the ring you don’t need to worry about him “waiting to propose” … I donno, as far as I am concerned/what it seems- you ARE engaged but he just wants you to have a ring… bring it up, maybe send him a link with some ideas and see if that gets him going? Guys are slow….

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

why don’t you just ask him about it?

 

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

My Fiance went out on his own and designed the ring without input from me.  It took months!

I wouldn’t worry just yet!

Post # 8
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Helper bee

I just read your original post.  It sounds to me like he really does want it.  I think he had a genuine response (although, granted, it’s hard to say with a written account).

If the PP aren’t right about him already working on the ring and it taking a while, then I don’t think it means too much.  I’d probably assume that he is just being a guy and not getting around to do it.  Maybe he doesn’t think there is a rush because you’ve already established your plan to get married?  Unless somethign else happens that heightens your doubt, I’d probably wait a little longer (as much as that sucks!) but don’t leave it in his court too long!  After all, you’ve already shown the strength of proposing to him!  If he hasn’t proposed by your b-day or V-day, it couldn’t hurt to ask about any progress.  Maybe it’ll be a little reminder for him, or maybe you’ll find that he’s trying to keep it a secret to surprise you and you’ll know to let it be.

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@MrsWBS:  THIS x10000. Just ask him, no biggie. You can tell him you don’t want to know when/where/how etc, that you just want to know it’s in the works. He may be waiting for you to mention it? Congrats on the engagement! 

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I would just ask him. Guys don’t move as quickly as we do when it comes to these things. 

Post # 12
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Bumble bee

@Aklove:  Thats what my SO did when I proposed. Said yes then took it back and said he wanted to propose. Soooo here we are five months later with his proposal dealine coming up. Perhaps get his timeline for getting you a ring and making it official?

edit: my proposal was spur of the moment and not planned or …good =0p

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2019

I would wait and see why Vday and your Birthday bring (you never know, maybe he has something planned) and if there is no ring maybe just be honest and talk to him. Just say, I can’t believe it has been a month already! When can we go and look at rings, I am too excited to wait any longer!

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I think a month is too soon to be worrying just yet. 

Possibly scenarios:

He hasn’t looked yet but has full intent, it’s only been a month!

He has been researching the 4 C’s and where to buy etc before asking what you like.

He has gone off on his own to look already

He has something in the works (it will take longer than a month!)

He is saving for a ring and doesn’t want to look yet because it’s a ways away.

Wait until after these special days so that it gives him more time. Who knows, he may want to take you ring shopping on V Day to make it special! But after that, just talk to him about the next step and how much input he wants from you.

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