(Closed) Well SIL screwed us out of buying a house

posted 2 months ago in Legal
Post # 2
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Busy bee

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@ladyvk:  I don’t understand… why does she think she deserves $15K under the table? Did she help the mother purchase this home? Is your Mother-In-Law agreeing to her “terms” that she’s proposed? 

Post # 3
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Bumble bee

I’m also not sure I understand either.  Could you elaborate?  $15k “under the table” and staying with you?  Does she have any rights to this home?  Why does she get a say?

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Busy bee

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@ladyvk:  You SIL sounds awful and entitled. I can’t believe your husband would pass on purchasing a home just because his sister is being completely unreasonable. It also sounds like you guys buying this house would help out your Mother-In-Law quite a bit if she can’t afford the mortgage, so SIL is just being super selfish. I would be livid with my husband in this scenario.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee

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@ladyvk:  So now what’s the plan? Is your Mother-In-Law going to sell the house and pay the broker 3-6% Where will she move after? Your sister doesn’t have a leg to stand on and certainly wouldn’t have one if your mother were selling the house to a stranger. Buying your MIL’s house saves you both money. Also, it’s incredibly irresponsible of your SIL to buy a house with a boyfriend three hours from her own workplace and then insist her mother provide her free board.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

Wash your hands of this and look for a house elsewhere, this is messssssy.  Nope nope nope.  What Mother-In-Law does when you don’t buy the house is quite honestly not your issue.

Post # 11
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Busy bee

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@ladyvk:  Is the house really worth way more than what she’s selling it to you for? If that’s true, I wouldn’t mind paying extra to help my mom out but I’d handle that completely with my mother and not involve the sister. It’s not her house, she doesn’t get to decide what’s fair and what’s not when it comes to your money.

That being said, it sounds like is a huge family affair if the dad is giving you money as well… I’d work on saving my own money for a downpayment and buy when you guys can afford to without anyone elses help, that way you can truly make all of your own decisions and not be guilted into anything.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
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@ladyvk:  Deleted. Just saw your update. Run. 

If Mother-In-Law wants to sell her house to you, she can figure out all this mess on her own and clear the air. I would plan on saving and buying a house on your own instead. 

Post # 14
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Buzzing Beekeeper
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your OP paints a different picture than described in the text message.

she is not demanding.  it sounds like she wants to discuss how to make this work for all involved and is upfront in laying it all out on the table what works for her.

if you are buying the house and it doesn’t work for you, tell her no.

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