Post # 1
I know this debate has been hashed through more times than anyone would like to count, but I had to share a conversation I had with my grandma the other day. We were eating lunch and talking about nothing in particular when. . .
“So your mom said you’re not walking down the aisle with your dad.”
“Nope. Wasn’t planning on it.” (We don’t have much of a relationship and I frankly don’t want to honor him in that way)
“Well then, what are you planning? Are you walking down alone or with your mom or with your brother?”
“FI and I were going to walk down the aisle together, I think.”
::Silence:: . . .::More crickets::. . .”well, that’s different.”
I just couldn’t get over how she went through just about every combination, but when somehow walking down the aisle with Fiance was just so surprising. Oh Grandma. . .
Post # 3
I think that is awesome!! I have been thinking about how I will do this and I really enjoy the idea of walking down the isle with SO. You do whatever you want to do. It may be different than her era but who cares!
Post # 4
His grandparents are really traditional so when telling them about certain aspects of the wedding I get that reaction a lot. Once I explain why, they seem to come around and give me kudos for being so creative.
Post # 5
Gotta love the generational gap. This is the same group of ladies who gasp when they see us wear colored shoes! Just gotta do what feels right to you! (btw, I’ll be walking down the aisle w/ my Fiance and wearing colored shoes, so shhhh, don’t tell your grandma! hehe)
Post # 6
@jldown2: Classic case of Old School versus New School… I think it sounds peachy 🙂
Post # 7
You know you are going to love… is how much your g’ma will gush about how wonderful your wedding was!
I got SO.MUCH.GRIEF. from my family about the decisions we were making for the wedding … and come the day of – you would think THEY orchestrated everything, the way they gushed on and on and on….
Hang in there and continue to roll with the punches…. everyone will give you their opinion about EVERYTHING!!
Post # 8
@FutureMrsBondo : I’m not only wearing colored shoes.. . .but colored flats. Heaven’s above, am I being unique.
I do think I genuinely caught her off guard–she’s seemed okay with the idea, just had never heard of doing such a thing. I *loved* the idea of walking down the aisle together when I first ran across it and it really seems right for our situation. But boy, if this is surprising, our interfaith ceremony should be a treat!
Post # 9
@oracle: I am really blessed that for the most part, the family has stayed out of the planning process (as far as the ceremony goes at least). More than likely, this is due to the fact that we’ve told them very little about the choices we’re making ::smirk::
It’s FI’s grandma I’m learning to ignore. We went to his cousin’s wedding, which was “too orthodox.” (Ours seems like it will be “too secular.”) At the reception, the music was too loud; we found her a place across the room and she couldn’t hear it. FI actually wrote me a little note to look at that says “I can’t make her happy. You can’t make her happy. Work on making us happy.” The rest of the family though has been great. (At least to our faces, which, right now, is all I need.)
Post # 10
@FutureMrsBondo: My mother CRINGED when I told her I am wearing pink shoes. She brought it up at a picnic expecting everyone to agree that it was tacky but not one person (all my age) agreed with her and loved the idea. One friend wished she did it. I’m also not carrying white flowers (you can imagine how that went over when you can’t even see the shoes).
Post # 11
My Grandmother was shocked we are getting married by a woman. Seriously, she couldn’t believe it. A WOMAN officiant! God help us all!
I am crazy close with my grandmother, so it doesn’t bother me that she is from the smallest town ever and is southern baptist and I am agnostic. I don’t beat around the bush with her on anything, and she ultimately resepects all the decision I make, but I definitely get the ‘oh, you’re doing what?‘ with lots of decision.
God forbid I have wood cake stands and not a shiny silver one! ha
Post # 12
haha at least she was polite about it 🙂
Post # 13
It is kinda different but in the end if you guys feel like it is something you want to do and it is important to you then do it! When I told people my father was going to walk me down the aisle AND officiate alongside FI’s rabbi I got all sorts of funny looks from my family. But I CAN’T WAIT!
Post # 14
*laughs* Yes, the older generations seems to think we do quite a few things strange with our wedding.
#1 – I can’t wait until my ultra-conservative extended Catholic family finds out that my Fiance has been married before. 😛 I’m fine with it and my parents are fine with it. Nobody else matters in my opinion 🙂 Heck, even the priest is fine with it!!!
#2 – Periwinkle Colored Heels anyone?
A dress with pick-ups will raise eyebrows where I am from. . . so I must be a bit of an oddball around here. *Grins*
Post # 15
My husband and I walked down the aisle together, and people were a little weird about it leading up to the wedding. We got the “that’s different” comments, and the “I guess I’m just traditional… (implied: and you’re not)” comments. We even had people at the rehearsal (who knew about it in advance) forget about it and have us explain all over again the night before the big day. But the day of, it was great!
People make comments because it *is* different from what many people do nowadays (at least in the US, where I’m from)- so they’re usually just surprised. Nobody had a problem once we explained it (for some people, many times over), and if they had, I would have ignored them. They can walk separately from their husbands when they get married.