(Closed) well the shit has finally hit the fan with my fi and his best man!!!

posted 8 years ago in Grooms/men
  • poll: how do i handle this situation?
    let it go..what happens happens... : (15 votes)
    41 %
    try to fix it (my fi is thickheaded and doesnt care to) : (3 votes)
    8 %
    mend whats left of the friendship no matter how rude and condescending he is : (3 votes)
    8 %
    end the friendship..its been a long time coming anyway : (16 votes)
    43 %
  • Post # 3
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    1986 posts
    Buzzing bee

    Holy Ellipsis! Surprised

    Post # 5
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    11325 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    ellipses = …

    It is kind of hard to get through a giant block of text when you’re trying to understand something. I think she just meant that a lot more people would probably read/understand your post if you used whole sentences and paragraphs 

    Post # 6
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    1629 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    That’s crazy.  So sorry things are turning out this way for you.

    Post # 8
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    1986 posts
    Buzzing bee

    Ok. I tried to get through all though. You have a lot going on. There seems to be some jealousy towards them, and their lack of..tact? You also seem to just dislike them which is fine, but why continue to try to work on maintaining a relationship with them if you both don’t like them?

    Post # 9
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    1986 posts
    Buzzing bee

    @julieandjaiden: heh, in my english class we call it Ellipsis Happy. I’m Comma Happy, personally.

    Post # 10
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    389 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I don’t know, maybe they are just excited about their own wedding and want to discuss the details with their best friends who are in the same situation?  Have you ever told these people that you feel like they’re trying to steal the spotlight, or that they’re being condescending jerks?  Maybe they don’t know how their actions have affected you.

      I think you should to try to mend what’s left of the friendship.  And if you’re going to do that then you will need to hear them out as well.  Don’t just assume that you and your fiance are the only people who have been hurt by this ordeal!  I really hope that you can work things out because it sounds like you have all been friends for a long time and it would suck to let something like a wedding come between you…

    Post # 12
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    870 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I would just end it. They want all the attention when it should be shared. I have had someone get engaged just because we did and someone else got pregnant just because we found out I was expecting. It hurts, I know. If it bothers you that much just stop the friendship.

    Post # 16
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    2829 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    This was really difficult to read & understand.. Block text is hard to organize and define :/ usually it turns into a tl;dr;

    If you feel like the relationship is one sided or toxic I would end it. I know it sucks to end a long standing friendship, but sometimes it is for the best (I have had to do it, and am happier now without the outside stress & condescension).

    Good luck, hope you can find a solution that works.

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