- 4 months ago
- Wedding: Malibou Lake Mountain Club
If he doesn’t want to listen to your feelings or you feel that your feelings towards moving the relationship forward don’t matter, it’s not a healthy situation. Either you guys get some couples counseling to work it out, if you think it’s worth it, or you move on. You are never too old or never too invested to leave a relationship.
Sending you love.
You deserve so much better than this asshole. What an embarrassment he is. Do not stay any longer than you have to. Dump him like you should have done the first time he said anything along the lines of “bitch make me a sandwich”. Because that’s disgusting behavior. Do not for one second think he is normal, or what he says or how he treats you is ok. It’s not. Nothing he is doing or saying to you is ok. Stand up for yourself. You will find someone better. Leave. Today.
What clarification could he offer? He could pretend to walk back his comments and say he’ll get engaged to you but when you put his recent words in context of how crappy he’s been to you then the evidence is clear. Everything in his life is him him him. You deserve to be with someone who thinks of your needs too– and not just as an afterthought.
I remember the past post where he was being disrespectful and calling you out of your name. Now, he’s giving the excuse that he can’t be engaged while living in an apartment? That’s one of the stupidest excuses I’ve heard of a man giving.
You should have already left. Not sure why you even want to be engaged to someone who treats you so horribly.
What a loser. We got engaged when we were living in an apartment, got married while we were living in an apartment and had a baby while we were living in an apartment, and purchased a home together after.
Don’t fall for his excuses. Think long and hard about your future.
Thank you all for the words of encouragement and reaffirming that I’m right in what I need to do. I know I deserve better than this and I have a servant heart so it gets me in these messes and it is hard to untangle myself.
He’s shown you he only cares about himself and that, to him, you’re not in this together as a team. Take this precious gift he’s giving you by showing you what a subpar partner he is and how little he thinks of you and of your wishes – and reclaim your freedom! Find your own voice! Follow your dream and take the trash out. Yes, he’s the trash.
From all your posts this guy sucks so much
If you don’t break up now, you never will. Take that beautiful car of yours and leave this guy in the rearview mirror.
I feel like this is exactly the reason you SHOULD live with someone before engagement. Then you can see the ugly before you commit to that person.
Doesnt make the situation any less rubbish – but at least you got a test drive before buying the whole cow (as people like to say).
There are all kinds of women in relationships where they joyously serve and/or are served and they aren’t putting up with some piece of shit calling them names and being hella disrespectful.
You need to get your tolerance of that foolishness worked out before your next relationship. That is unacceptable.
Most women go into a living together situation already committed. They know what their partner is like, it’s not like living together is a litmus test.
In OP’s case I’m sure that her boyfriend gave her plenty of clues to his personality.