(Closed) "Well, you obviously don't like Indian people then."

posted 7 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 17
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

What??  How weird.  I’m not a big fan of sushi – that does not mean I have anything against the Japanese.  Oh and my Hungarian neighbours made me try their delecacy – fried calf brain once.  I tell you what that is the most revolting thing ever – but they are quite nice.

 

 

Post # 18
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2024

Wow what an asshole and super rude to say.

Post # 19
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

By that guy’s logic, I must hate my fiancé. (I literally can’t eat Chinese food/soy sauce because of the wheat) …

Idiot. 

Post # 20
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Busy bee

@MrsPanda99:  

 

I’m very allergic to nuts and they can be hidden in many curries and indian cuisine.  Does saying this food doesn’t agree with me make me racist?  No, it means I don’t want to get badly ill.  Sounds like that guy was using the racism card.

Post # 21
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

What an ignorant thing to say. I love Indian food as it happens but simply can’t do Japanese. Sushi in particular! It has never occurred to me that my dislike of Japanese cuisine should extend to the Japanese themselves, however.  

Post # 22
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’m going to be the outlier here, and say that in some cultures, declining a lunch invite is incredibly rude. Some parts of India share this culture. there is an incredibly high value placed on hosting your guests; it’s not uncommon for some Indian folks who work at my company to offer to have a traveling co-worker stay in their home instead of a hotel, even if it’s an extended stay (more than a week), even if it’s a complete stranger. It’s not about saving money for the company; it’s because there’s a certain level of honor associated with providing for a guest, even moreso if it’s a business guest. 

Im not saying you don’t like Indian people because you didn’t want to have Indian food for lunch, but it may be worth re-examining the invitation to see if you’ve inadvertently snubbed someone. Offense is in the eye of the beholder and while you might only see it as having different culinary preferences, you may have a co-worker who doesn’t agree.

Or your co-worker who made that comment may just have been talking out of his ass! But it’s always good to understand the diverse values in our multi-cultural world. Worst case scenario, you just learn a little more about a different culture, and that’s not a bad thing at all!

Post # 23
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@MrsPanda99:  I would have just said, “No, that’s not it at all….I LOVE Indian people…my colon on the otherhand…hates them intensely.”

Post # 24
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

That’s the silliest thing I ever heard! I don’t care for Mexican food, but that doesn’t mean I don’t like Mexican people… I’m marrying someone of Latin descent!

Post # 26
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Bumble bee

omg I just had Lamb Vindaloo for the first time the other day at work, boxed from Trader Joe’s. Holy shit…there was steam coming out of my ears. If someone asks me out for Indian food within the next 2 weeks, I’m punching them in the face. How’s that for racist?

Post # 27
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

@QuirkySocialite:  Chicken Vindaloo is considered a spicy dish in India. Most Indian food is not that spicy – you just happened to pick one of the dishes that is purposefully spicy. Indian restaurants can usually make the dishes to any level of heat upon request. Giving up on one of the largest cuisine families in the world because you tried one dish is like someone trying a horrible hot dog and swearing off American food for the rest of their lives.I’d recommend ordering Chicken Tikka Masala, plain naan, and basmati rice if you ever go eat Indian again (order it mild).

@MrsPanda99:  Canada does all kinds of gross stuff to Indian food, including putting bell peppers in the Chicken Tikka Masala. I lived in Toronto for 3 months last year, and was pretty horrified at the bastardization of the dishes!! If you’re ever in New York/San Fran/Asia, etc i’d really recommend trying it again!

Post # 28
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I would’ve probably said, “I’ve never eaten an Indian person so I wouldn’t really know how to answer that..the spice on the otherhand, I cannot tolerate, in any cuisine.”

Post # 29
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

What an awkward HR nightmare! It’s one thing if he was joking (although still awkward from an HR perspective) but to be serious, that’s crazy!

I think it’s absurd that he assumed you are racist simply because you are not a fan of the cuisine. I have a lot of friends that are picky eaters but are otherwise non-judgmental, liberal people. Some people are just more adventurous eaters than others.

Post # 30
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@MrsPanda99:  I’m of Italian background and I personally know of 3 Italian born people who hate pasta…… Under the assumption of your ignorant work colleague they must be racist towards themselves!!!

Some people in the world are just jackasses!! don’t let it bother you….your colleagues will judge him more harshly for being an ass than for you being honest that you dont like the cuisine!!

Post # 31
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Bumble bee

@crayfish:  First…I have never, nor would I ever punch anyone in the face. I was actually joking and saying I need two weeks for my mouth to heal because the Lamb Vindaloo was very spicy. I’ve eaten other Indian dishes and enjoyed them immensely, I’m marrying a diplomat to S Asia for gosh sakes, I’d better like the cuisine or I’ll have a hard time of it lol. My point was to lighten the mood of the OP because she was feeling confused by her coworker’s comment…which was completely out of line.

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