Post # 1
i don’t know if this is proper ettiquite for this site, but i figured i’d say, “hi!”
i decided last night i needed to join the boards to have some sort of outlet for all these thoughts on rings and dresses and venues and planning. my boyfriend and i (hate that word.) plan on being engaged by the fall holiday, but due to some happenings with his working situation, it looks like it might be closer to christmas before he can get the ring in his pocket. then again, he’s been known to pull a few monetary rabbits out of his hat when it comes to making things happen.
i don’t really have girlfriends to spill details about with, because we kind of want to keep it a secret until we are “officially” engaged. a few of our close friends know we have established a timeline, but i feel a little uncomfortable talking about it with them a lot because i feel like the wishful thinking girlfriend i guess. is that weird? on top of that, these particular girlfriends are in new relationships, and i don’t want to bog them down with my incessant ring talking.
so i figured, why not go somewhere there’s people entrenched in the waiting game, too?
how do you ladies do it? i’ve been excited up til a month ago, but now i’m excited AND maybe losing my mind a little. haha.
what makes the waiting days go by for you?
Post # 3
Welcome to the hive!
I am not a waiting lady so I don’t have much advice there but I just wanted to say welcome.
Post # 4
Welcome – waiting was always just a matter of keeping occupied to get by, but lately I have been lapsing as I think I have reached the stage of losing interest/tired of waiting.
Unless it’s just my time of the month – haha!
Post # 5
@Wonderful: Ahh, welcome to the Hive!! I joined for the same reasons you did, to post every worry and anxiety over rings, dresses, venues, etc. Like you, I don’t have too many close female friends to talk to this stuff about, so it helps to be on here, surrounded by people who are as obsessed as I am!!
Waiting is definitely not fun lol, but the days go by quicker if you try not to dwell on it (easier said than done, I know). I occupy my time by lurking the boards, commenting, voting on polls and then trolling the galleries for ring and dress pics haha. It bides the time, I have to say!
Hopefully your wait will be shorter than expected. Keep us updated!
Post # 6
Welcome! Waiting is sooo hard! Keeping hopeful was what got me by (sometimes easier said than done)! Look forward to seeing you around here!
Post # 7
Hey, Wonderful! Welcome to the Bee!
I just joined the hive for the same reason you did! Waiting is quite tough.
It sounds like you’re guy’s serious about engagement and trying to make it happen. In the meantime, doing things that make you happy’s the best medicine. Hanging with friends, doing things that make you feel spoiled. And doing things w/ur bf that bring out the best in both of you. It can do a lot to put your mind at ease.
Post # 8
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I talked to friends about it, but I wouldn’t really advise that. It was a lot more “finally!” than suprised “oh my god how awesome’s.” The best thing you can do is focus on your relationship as a whole (NOT on engagement and how you’re not engaged yet) and make things as good as they can be. Once you’re engaged, things change and it really is a bit stressful and can be overwhelming. So I’d say, enjoy the calm before the “storm.” Aka the flurry of “let me see the ring!” “when’s the date?” that starts 2 seconds after you change your facebook status.
Post # 9
Welcome! 🙂 The Bees will definitely help your waiting!
Post # 10
Hey guys! I know I posted quite awhile back, but I forgot my username! Fail. I always keep my emails and usernames the same, (firstnamelastname format) and out of trying to be anonymous, I forgot!
Thank you for your kind replies! And SherryBerry, you make a good point. 🙂 I definitely enjoy the relationship now. I didn’t even factor in the rush of “let me see the ring!” and the Facebook thing! I think (know, actually) I tend toward anxiety by nature. I’m the type of person that at my own birthday party, thrown by my zealous and romantic boyfriend, I was very uncomfortable with all the attention! Haha!
im really looking forward to being more active in this community. 🙂
Post # 11
Hello from a waiting bee!!! Hopefully you won’t have to wait too much longer 🙂
Post # 12
I’m not waiting anymore, but I was absolutely BATTY whilst I was.
To pass the time… I did my nails… constantly. And, I still do, so there ya go, wasn’t THAT bad of a habit.
Post # 13
Hello and Welcome! I, like most of the ladies on the waiting boards, joined for the same reasons you did. I am going absolutely insane thinking about this! When I first joined, SO was still paying off the ring. Now that’s done and I think all I/we are waiting for is for the ring to come in! I don’t know if being that close makes it harder or easier though!
Like kimbean, I do my nails a lot too! And I have started watching a few new TV series to try to take my mind off of the pending events too. It’s not easy waiting. I have found that some days aren’t that bad and some days I just want to scream because I can’t take it anymore.