(Closed) Welp, my FMIL bought her dress for the wedding…

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 31
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I SWEAR you are like, living my nightmare right now! My Future Mother-In-Law likes to try to “act dumb” about stuff too. I will just make her return it. She will see the daughter in law from hell at that point. That would be my breaking point with her.

Post # 32
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

It is like monster in law!! I think it is great advice not to say anything and let her make a fool of herself with the small caveat of seating her at a table or notorious red wine drinkers!

Post # 33
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

@julies1949:  I feel the same way.  The joke about the MoG is that her job is to stand there and wear beige, so I don’t think it’s that terrible if she’s wearing a beige-ivory-champagne color dress.  She definitely won’t be mistaken for the bride.  Not if the dress is so light ivory that it’s what most of us think of when we think of a “white” wedding dress, then, OP, you may have some reason to be a bit annoyed, but it’s not worth the emotional response you’re giving it. There are so many other things to stress about with a wedding.

Post # 34
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I wouldnt say anything, although I’d be fuming pissed.

Everyone there will see it and recognize the faux paus that she pulled…so let that be your secret satisfaction.. 🙂

I hate when people have ‘motives’! She totally didn’t go shopping with you so she could do this!

Post # 35
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317 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I reiterate, seat this monster in law at a table of notorious red wine drinkers and hope for the best/worst.

Post # 36
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Blushing bee

There used to be an old saying that, when it came to wedding planning, the Mother of the Groom’s role was to “wear beige and shut up.” I think there are plenty of people who still think that applies, and aren’t up to date with the latest ‘rule’ of not wearing white (or anything close to it). Now, I don’t know your Future Mother-In-Law, but could it be that she thinks this is what she’s SUPPOSED to do?

Post # 37
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

Ugh. Why do they have to be like this??  My mil went out of her way to ask me if there were any colors she should avoid and I told her red because dh was wearing his uniform which is a bet strange red and hard to match and black because in my culture the mog wearing black means you hate the bride and view the wedding as your sons funeral and wish sterility upon he couple as it would be an offense to your genetic line to have a child born by the bride. She showed up in head to toe black and what can best be described as bedroom mocassins. My family was horrified. 

Post # 38
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

@soyjoy222:  this.

She is going to look like a fool, so in the end, you win. I’ve seen pics from TWO weddings where the MOB wore white (full-on no mistaking white!) and I thought wtf? I’ve never seen the MOG do it, but if I did, I would think she’s a real piece of work.

I agree with a PP – my Mother-In-Law asked what color my mom was wearing and what the wedding colors were so she could avoid them. Just a simple courtesy.

Post # 39
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Blushing bee

Are you sure she knows? I never heard of the “no white rule” until I found weddingbee.

The moms wore beige/ irory at the majority of the weddings I’ve attended.  Most of the bridal shops in my area feature beige/ivory/ gold MOB/MOG dresses.

Maybe Fiance can chat around to see if she’s aware.

Post # 40
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

im trying to figure out what three mothers are suppose to wear without it looking like a bad… my mom i want in silver or gold. dad is wearing army uniform–so red color is out cuz christmas isnt happening in june. lol. fmil i think a shade of blue will be okay. and fstep mil a light purple– fil will be wearing grey suit purple tie(he is the best man)

 

i will be taking each mom out on a seprate trip to find them a dress.. no way in hell will all three moms and me will be out on one trip.. i can handle my mom and future step mom fine( we done dinners and lots of get togethers the three of us just fine… its fmil that i cant handle.. lol

 

 

Post # 41
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

If I was in your situtation I’m not sure if I would be able to let it go. However, she WILL look like an idiot for wearing it to the wedding. Everyone knows she is the MOG and I’m sure they will think it’s strange that she chose to wear it to the wedding.

Post # 42
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1627 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Both moms wore beige to ours… 

Post # 43
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63 posts
Worker bee

@MrsBroccoli:  Whew.. this ended up a lot longer than I meant. Why do FMILs have to suck so much?

I know, right? Ugh. I can’t wait to see what my Future Mother-In-Law comes up with. (heavy sarcasm…)

Post # 44
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Worker bee

@Tayylin:  I think that she will just look like an idiot. Smile and move on. Everyone knows it was not your choice and she will look like the crazy one here. 🙂 You will completely outshine her anyway.

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