Post # 1
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Newbee
hi, I’m new to this site…this is my first post. Me and my bf went engagement ring shopping in October of last year and it’s now January 2016 with still no ring? It’s been 3 months and I’m just wondering is it normal to wait this long for others? he did pay a portion for my wedding dress which was a chunk (I found my dream dress) in December…but he says money isn’t the issue…I love him a lot and have kind of stopped even talking about wedding plans cause it’s been A bit of a wait. I’m ready to be engaged and have prayed for it to happen, I love him very much and want to move forward with this next joyous time in our lives. Above all, I know God answers prayers and I have faith.
Any advice or personal experiences?
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
bree90: Hmmm, did he actually buy the ring or was it just looking?
With me my fiancé did it cheekily, where we were doing general things or day trips and only did quick browses. He used those to determine what I liked and what I hated. Then he said it took him over 6 months to search and find the ring that felt like me. When he found the ring I think he had it for like 6 weeks before proposing.
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
We didn’t ring shop (he surprised me with a ring he had made by a local jeweller without my knowledge) but later he told me he picked it up one week before he proposed
Post # 4
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Newbee
it was important to me to pick it out, so we actually chose a ring that day; he didn’t purchase it that day though
Post # 5
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Worker bee
We went ring shopping together and decided to have a ring made. So it took a few months for it to get made and for Fiance to pay for it (About 5 months in total I think). I wouldn’t worry too much yet – I know it’s hard waiting but I’m sure it will happen for you soon 🙂
Post # 6
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Bumble bee
I can only tell you what I think I would do in this case, which is take my partner someplace special and tell him that I want to marry him, I’m ready to be engaged, and I’m wondering if he is too. Best case scenario, you leave officially engaged. Other option, you have a real talk about when it will happen.
Post # 7
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Busy bee
If you’ve already purchased a wedding gown, aren’t you kind of already engaged?
My situation is a bit different because when we ‘shopped’ we were obviously not in a place to get engaged and my Fiance held onto a link to the ring I wanted for 3 years before proposing. If you guys are already planning a wedding I think it’s reasonable to expect that a proposal will come anytime now, but if you’re concerned why don’t you ask him for a very loose timeline?
Post # 8
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Helper bee
We went ring shopping in April of last year and he bought the ring right then. However, he didn’t propose until August (4 months later). He was waiting to plan a proposal and was still try to surprise me somewhat. He was also waiting for a good time to ask my parents, who live two hours away. We actually booked the venue the day after he asked my parents, and he proposed six days later. I considered us more or less engaged, so the proposal was definitely just a formality at that point. However, I know it was frustrating to have to wait, because I couldn’t tell everyone! If your boyfriend was on board with buying your dress, I’d say you are in the same position that I was six months ago. Be happy that you know it is coming and enjoy this time as almost secretly being engaged? I’m sure it’s coming any time now!
Post # 9
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Helper bee
My Fiance bought the ring in December and did not propose until August.
Post # 10
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Blushing bee
I agree with beachbumm105–since he is helping to pay for your wedding dress aren’t you already engaged? You don’t actually need a ring for that. Plus it sounds to me as if you and your BF? are in seperate places with timing. Are you sure he is ready or wanting to get married? I am not accusing you of anything, but sometimes girls get more caught up with the idea of a ring, and a beautiful dress, and the wedding itself more than the actual marriage. Maybe he is just feeling overwhelmed–but I do hope it all turns out exactly how yoi want it to be😃
Post # 11
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Busy bee
We went ring shopping and chose a stone and setting in early May, I think it was. He proposed on Christmas Eve. So over 7 months in between. He was waiting for the perfect time, and also we didn’t finance, so the ring had to be paid off before he could take it.
Post # 12
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Busy bee
Went shopping in February but didn’t get it until December.
Post # 13
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Sugar bee
Hmm well we went ring shopping multiple times over almost a year and a half. But when we finally did pick “the one,” it was probably 3 months after that when he proposed.
Post # 14
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Newbee
Hey there! I’m in the exact same situation as you, we went ring shopping October 16th, I chose one, and it hasn’t happened yet. In casual conversation, it seems like it’s only going to happen after April/May, because he doesn’t feel like it’s the right time for him yet. It’s definitely frustrating because I’m at a good place in my life and I feel ready, but he’s not there yet and I don’t want him to feel feel pressured to propose, so I’m willing to set it aside for now. I think the most important thing is that since we went ring shopping, I know we’re on the same page about getting married. It’s tough to wait but it’ll be so worth it in the end! Hang in there bee! 🙂
Post # 15
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Honey bee
We went ring shopping the first time to get ideas in July, he went back by himself in October to design a ring himself, and he actually had it in his possession in January. He then proposed in March.