Post # 1
I don’t know what I expect to achieve from this post. I am 10weeks 1day pregnant and went for a private scan for reassurance today. I have already had two scans and was reassured that MCs are less than 5% at this point. I was trying to get pregnant for 8 months and will be 35 early next year. I can’t imagine going through TTC and the first 12 weeks again… I never in my life imagined how stressful it would be. I know there are people in a way worse position than me but on the other side at least 50% of my friends got pregnant on their first cycle. On top of all this, I have an issue with my Throid which my doc knew about while TTC and in the first weeks of pregnancy and assured me it wasn’t that much of an issue. When the hospital found out they freaked out and put me on meds straight away. They told me again and again that it can cause MCs. Now that’s all I can think about. I guess I’ll never know for sure but I’ll never be able to look at that doctor again.
Sorry, I guess this is a rant.
Also, how did others get through it and move on? I’m thinking we may need counselling and I’m wondering if anyone did this. It’s not just the mc but also the TTC that I need to find ways of dealing with.
Post # 3
I’m so sorry that you have to go through this. I dont have any advice on how to deal and move on from this, just internet hugs from a stranger.
Post # 4
@phoebephoebo: I’m so sorry:( I wish you and DH strength in coping with this difficult time. *hugs*
Post # 5
im sorry – i hope turns out ok xx
Post # 6
I’m so sorry to hear this. I wish I had words to help comfort you. Grieve as you need to and lean on each other to get you through. Hugs being sent to you!
Post # 7
@phoebephoebo: I don’t want to give false hope, but was there any chance they just couldn’t find the heartbeat? I tried googling for when you’re first meant to hear the heartbeat, and there was a huge range of answers. ((((((((Huge hugs))))))) whatever way this goes.
Post # 8
I’m so, so sorry. I have no words that will comfort you…but I just wanted you to know my
heart goes out to you. I’m just so sorry. Take care of yourself. xoxox
Post # 9
I am so sorry you are dealing with this.
(( HUGS )) to you & your Hubby
May you find comfort & strength in the love you have for each other in this hard time
Post # 10
@phoebephoebo: I’m confused. im not sure if I’m saying sorry for your loss? Or if you just aren’t sure yet about what’s happening ?
Post # 11
@This Time Round: Thanks so much for your kind words. I’ve been terrified from the beginning of a missed miscarriage as I will have to have a D&C. The support means a lot.
@BellaDee: Unfortunately, no hope. I went for a scan at 8 weeks and saw the heartbeat. I knew as soon as she started scanning this time that something was wrong(no movement or heartbeat) . Poor DH was wondering why I was hyperventilating!!! I went for this scan for reassurance as symptoms were waning . Maybe it was mothers instinct!
@jivet: I’ve my fx for you and all the June ladies. My friend told me last night that she’s pregnant and feels so guilty now. But, you know what. Im praying even more for her now because I know the stress of this roller coaster that is pregnancy!!
Post # 12
Sorry, I wasnt very clear in my OP. I was all over the place writing it. Basically, I had a scan at 7 & 8 weeks and heard/saw the hb. At this point I was told mc rate reduces to 1/20 so thought all was ok. However, as soon as I saw baba this time I knew something was wrong. They are supposed to move like crazy at this point, and nothing. Also, no hb even though baby had developed quite a bit (which was heartbreaking) since last time. I reckon baby stopped developing at the weekend as my nausea stopped early this week.
Post # 13
I am SO sorry to see this. Sending our virtual hugs to you!
Post # 14
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i am so sorry for your loss… Counseling sounds like it would be a great idea to help you through this time and like you said, learning how to cope. know you’re in our thoughts and hoping time will heal the hurt.
Post # 15
im sorry thats an awful thing to happen. i think counselling can really help in situations like this
there are a lot of bees who had the same thing happen and went on to have healthy babies/get pregnant so it might be worth looking for the rainbow baby thread
Post # 16
I recently went thru a similar experience. At first I felt like I wanted to die. I couldn’t function for days. I even told my husband that I don’t want to try again because it hurt so so bad. It’s been over a month now and I’m feeling much better. Time heals all wounds. I won’t ever forget this experience, but I’m deffinately doing much better and more hopeful for the future. Just give it time and I promise, you will smile again.