Post # 1
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Helper bee
I went into my first fitting excited and couldn’t wait to see my dress and put it on. Since I bought it I have lost almost 30lbs, at 195lbs currently, and I felt great! Now I still have a lot of work to do and I know that but I am comfortable with this weight for my wedding and afterwards I plan on losing the rest. But anyways, I went in, and was helped into my dress by one of the girls who worked there and they commented on how beautiful my dress is and how beautiful I looked. I’m waiting for the seamstress to come and everything and just on cloud nine. She comes over and didn’t say “hello” or anything just started fixing the top, her first words to me, “Are you planning on wearing any type of shapewear or anything to make your stomach slimmer? I’m only asking because I would want you to look beautiful for your Fiance that day.” I couldn’t believe she said that to me and after moment of shock I did a polite smile and just said “no”, which she then made a face about, and said “your choice”. After a mintue I then asked about the bustle and cost and she just said we do the one type and that’s all, though she didn’t say the price. Then when she was done I asked if I could put on my mother’s veil and take a pick to send to my sisters and father who are up in Michigan. She said I couldn’t and unzipped me then and there and told me to get changed. I just couldn’t believe it. Just the whole experence was horrible and I truly couldn’t wait to get out of there. After my Fiance picked me up and I got home, I had my first really breakdown involving anything to do with the wedding, it was hard enough to find a dress and everything because I am not a dress type of girl plus my mother pass when I was 16 and I had no one else down here who I would want to go with me, and then I found this beautiful dress that I know my mother would have loved, and this woman made me feel horrible in it. I was just so upset with it all.
Sorry for the length, I just really needed to let this out.
The shop was great for picking my dress and was very helpful with that part of it. Also for anyone who asks, yes I am getting married in June but I got my dress down here and I will not be up in Michigan until mid-May so I won’t have time to be fitted up there and all.
Post # 2
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Honey Beekeeper
rmrsln2010: I am sorry you had to deal with this woman and her poor attitiude. Try to remember to not let one surly person take away your joy. Do not give her the power to do that to you.
I would phone the store and ask to speak with the owner or manager and let them know about her behavior. There is absolutely no reason that you shouldn’t have been allowed to take your pic. You have already bought and paid for the dress. It’s your dress. It’s not like you are doing comparison shopping before your purchase.
Post # 3
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Helper bee
- Wedding: June 2010 - Christmas Tree Farm
You need to find a new seamstress ASAP.
Post # 4
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Helper bee
julies1949: Thank you for your kind words, and I am trying, just a little hard at the moment After I wrote this, I felt a little better to get it a bit off my chest I told my Fiance, I would normally just go and talk to him but I felt like if I was saying it out loud I would end up breaking down again. But after I did took my phone and called them and spoke to the manager. He had it on speaker phone so I could hear it and everything but she apogolize and told me that she would talk to her plus my next appointment she will handle it instead of the one that I had.
AccioShoes: I really wish I could but they are giving me an amazing discount because I bought the dress there and but I was promise that the seamstress I worked with won’t be working with me at my next appointment.
Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
rmrsln2010: That’s great. You won’t have to deal with her again.
Post # 6
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Sugar bee
- Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa
rmrsln2010: I will never in a million years understand why people who work in the wedding industry seem to enjoy messing with brides who could be in a potentially fragile state (and I don’t mean just you, I mean all of us- wedding planning is stressful, and they don’t know what we may have going on!). At least you know so you can warn any of your friends in the area to ask to work with the other seamstress when their time comes.
I’m sorry she was so rude!
Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
rmrsln2010: Wow, what a bitch! I’d take your service elsewhere.
Post # 8
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Busy bee
rmrsln2010: that is terrible! what a sour puss (I have a different choice word in mind)! but 1) Amazing job you lost 30lbs! that deserves congratulations in its self if you feel beautiful and better about yourself that’s all that matters! 2) Good for you sticking up for yourself and calling the manager. she deserves to be told she is wrong even if you’re having one bad day you need to leave it at the door when you walk into work. putting other people down is never the way to go. especially standing in your wedding dress!
Post # 9
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Sugar bee
I’m so sorry that happened, and I’m really glad you called the store and won’t have to work with her again. Her behavior was unacceptable. I’m a person who is okay with the upcharged costs of wedding related things, but ONLY if the vendors treat the bride with kid gloves and the knowledge that for many brides, this whole process is a very fragile one. (I also think it’s fine if anyone is NOT the kind of bride that takes the wedding and wedding planning Very Seriously.) In my mind, that’s what brides are paying for when alterations are so costly, etc etc – Amazing Customer Service.
Post # 10
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Helper bee
julies1949: +1… Talk to a manager and tell her EXACTLY what you told us. My heart broke *for* you. My seamstress wasn’t the most endearing, and she ruined the entire dress experience for me. However, she was not even this bad. Take your dress and go elsewhere. What an awful woman to make a bride feel that way!
Post # 11
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Sugar bee
That lady is a bitch! I’m really sorry that happened to you. If I were you I would go straight to the owner & just go off! No one deserves to be treated like that, no one. I’m sure that you’re not the first person to be treated like that, and you won’t be the last, unless you talk to the owner. I wouldn’t be a complete nightmare to the owner but don’t be quiet or meek either. Go in there with confidence and strong and let them know that this is completely unacceptable. I bet they will take care of you somehow, which you deserve after being talked to in that manner. And, even better yet, you won’t have to go back to that bitch! Seriously, please stand up for yourself.
Post # 12
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Sugar bee
I just saw that you said you did call, I’m sorry.
Post # 13
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Helper bee
rmrsln2010: First, huge congratulations on your weight loss! With that in mind if you feel beautiful in your dress that’s all that matters. Why do we need shapewear to make our bodies look more like how they’re “suppose to look”. You’re suppose to look like you, not some fake version of you. And if you feel comfortable and beautiful that’s what your Fiance will see on your wedding day. If the seamstress does her job correctly then the dress will look good on you, however your body is. I’m glad you called the stored and you won’t have to work with her again. Don’t let her bring you down. People like that are miserable and want company.
Post # 14
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Helper bee
gingerkitten:
wanabeabee:
Jijitattoo: As much as I wish we could do that, we are on a budget, mostly because we are making several trips to Michigan where the wedding is and we are currently living in Flordia. Plus we already put down the $100 deposit down
Soon2bmarried123:
Peanut-Sue: I am usually pretty confident about things and have had things said about my weight before and all but I was just so stunned and it never affected me like that did.
ralessio:
Thank you all so much for your sweet words they got me to smile. And the owner called me after she was told and told me that if I like I may come in on Monday and re-try on my dress(their head-seamstress) with my veil and they will also do a webcam so I can show my father and two sisters.
Post # 15
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Buzzing Beekeeper
Sorry this happened to you! I hope you complained, you don’t deserve that treatment.
I looked back at your previous post, your dress is gorgeous and you look fantastic! I would never even guess you were plus size at all. Screw the seamstress, you look great!
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