(Closed) Went on an interview and was asked about my ring!

posted 7 years ago in Rings
Post # 17
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

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@atlbride2013:  +1

They can’t ask you any of that sh*t. I wouldn’t want to work at a place like that–if they are already overstepping boundaries in the interview, what’s going to happen when you actually start working there? It will only get worse.

Post # 19
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Eww. I would be very turned off and would not accept a job offer from them no matter how good it is. They’re very unprofessional and it would only get worse from there. 

Post # 20
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

The grabbing your hand was inappropriate.. however the rest seems normal to me that they would want to know if you have a big event coming up that requires a lot of work and time off.. just always put a positive spin on it.. after all you are the one applying for a job…

Say something like you are organized and possess great time management skills and you are confident that you will be able to juggle work and wedding planning without a problem.. 

Don’t be on the defensive or evasive.. being honest always pays off.. after all they have to trust you first before letting you in their workplace… 

Whether you would want to work with them that’s another story..

Post # 21
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Busy bee

I wouldn’t have even gone so far as explaining that you haven’t set a date. I would say that you do not have any plans that would affect your ability to carry out the duties of this position nor plans to take extended time off from work.

This wouldn’t be an issue if you got engaged the day after your start date, so don’t let it be an issue in their hiring decision. It’s not within their rights to inquire further, so best not to make it seem like there’s something they should suspect.

If there’s any chance you’re fidgeting with your new ring during an interview, I would urge you to consider not wearing it. Your body language gives a lot more away than you might think (excited bride-to-be versus settled, married young woman).

Post # 22
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

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@blushpinkbride:  +1

 

As many have said, your interviewer’s comments were extremely inappropriate.  I would not want to work with or for these people, however, I realize I might feel quite different if I were job hunting and needed a job.  Marital status should never be questioned – or even implied, such as the woman was doing by asking about “big plans” and eyeing your ring – in an interview.  I’d really be wondering if this is how they were in an interview, what would it be like actually working for them!?  Others had great tips on how to deal with these questions if they ever come up again.  Best of luck, OP!  

Post # 24
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

While it is all well and good to say that it is illegal to ask questions of a personal nature, we all also know that people notice things like engagement rings. Rest assured, they might well be thinking similar questions even if they don’t voice them. And that is why people recommend you don’t wear your rings to an interview. Shoudl you HAVE to remove them? No. Should they ask you personal questions? Of course not. But you can’t go to jail for what you’re thinking, and this interview has made it very clear that something about your ring is catching attention and might be making people think about your upcoming wedding.

If you very much want a job, I’d leave the rings off. Ring indent or not, it would be unusual for someone to try to ask or even notice it. It is much easier to notice an engagement ring than a small indent or tan line from where one was, and even if they did notice, they might just assume you wore a fashion ring that wasn’t appropriate for an interview. 

Post # 25
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Helper bee

I bet a lot of drama and office politics take place at that office from the immature comments they made. Honestly, I really wouldnt feel bad if I didnt get the job….everything happens for a reason. 

Post # 26
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Ketchum, ID

@ButterflyButterfly:  I think the boss and the coworker were ridiculous, but I don’t think the one was over stepping their boundaries at all when she asked when the big day is. That’s a very natural question after you find out someone is engaged. 

Post # 27
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

They aren’t allowed to ask you questions like that.  Things like marital status are completely off the board as interview questions. 

I was job hunting for six months and wore my e-ring and then my whole set to every interview and never had anyone comment on it.  That’s extremely unprofessional.  I hope it doesn’t affect their view on you, but it would certainly affect my view on them!!  I hope you are able to get an interview at a place that has a better environment.

Post # 28
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Seconded to everyone who said they absolutely cannot ask you that stuff.  I have my management textbook sitting next to me, and any questions about marital status or children are completely prohibited by the EEOC.  They are prohibited from using that information to make a decision about whether or not to hire you, and should never have asked it in the first place.

Post # 29
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

That is so illegal. I think you handled it fine, I suspect you don’t want to work for a company like this anyways. I would write a letter to their HR department to be honest. 

Post # 31
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@ButterflyButterfly:  They are not supposed to ask. So I wouldn’t wear it next time. Did you think you got the job though. 

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