Post # 1
I am now terrified for my own! My husbands co-worker got married and we had only been invited because her family bailed on her and she then sent out a mass email to other people in the office. The woman is my husbands supervisor so even though they work with each other religiously we aren’t very close…..We first showed up and there was barely anyone present. Four rows of emoty chairs were on the left side of the aisle and we decided to sit in the back because we figured closer friends and family would take up the front. Three more coworkers showed up and joined us in the row. Nobody else came and the ceremony went on with a whole side completely empty! The bride was visablly upset when she came to talk to us later. The cocktail hour and leaving the ceremony was confusing and unorganized. We all sat there very awkwardly when the MOB came out pissed because the venue forgot to bring out the appatizers. There was a photobooth that we took advantage of (poloroid camera that printed two pictures right away!) and then dinner started. After everyone finished we watched the dances and I cried during a few (the couple was very in love). Later dancing started and NOBODY danced! My husband and I said if it was are wedding we would hope someone woulf take use of the DJ we had paid for (the DJ was terrible…). So we spent the whole night on the dance floor (mostly by ourselves) and tried to keep the reception alive by requesting songs that would encourage people to join us (macarana and electric slide).
ANYWAY, the wedding concerened me because it was obviously not what the bride wanted nor the groom….I just keep thinkng that MY OWN wedding may end up lke that….The bride and groom told us how thanful they were that we participated in everything and didn’t just abuse the free food or drinks (some people showed up after the ceremony and left once they finished eating). We became closer to the couple and they are positive that the honeymoon will be better but I sure felt bad for them…..I am crazy anxious now….and here I was hoping that the wedding would make me feel more at ease!
Sorry just stressed once again! At least I know what NOT to do right?
Post # 3
@Payless: That is SO sad for the couple! But a pretty good guide of what not to have at your wedding!
We also had a friend with a TERRIBLE wedding (well, reception, the ceremony was nice). We just kept going “We’ll have a good DJ” and “We won’t have a 2 hour cocktail hour with no food and a cash bar”
Post # 4
@Payless: Out of the last 4 of my cousins weddings that I have been to only one of them had a full dance floor and it wasn’t filled by my family. My Fiance and I know our families are not dancers, and therefore we are not having a dance for our wedding. Instead we are having lawn games and card games available and we’re toying with the idea of hiring a string quartet to provide background music. If you know your crowd likes to dance I wouldn’t worry so much about an empty dance floor.
Post # 5
How many guests were at this wedding?
Post # 6
- Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo
Well, you never know what kind of circumstances there were around their wedding to have so many people bail out, maybe it was just extreme bad luck, so I really hope that this one experience doesn’t over-worry you! And it was super awesome that you and your husband did what you could to make the evening more lively!
Post # 7
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
Aw what good friends you are! Hopefully you know your friends and family will be excited to attend and make a fun evening out of your wedding. Besides that, nothing you can do but plan ahead so you ensure things run smoothly and everything is welcoming / fun for guests, and don’t worry about the rest.
Post # 8
You are referring to your husband as your husband, which implies you’re already married? I’m confused.
That’s so sad, though. 🙁
Post # 9
@Payless: Shame poor couple! I wouldn’t worry though, if loads of her family bailed and she had last-minute guests maybe people didn’t feel they could cut loose and have fun at a wedding because they didn’t really know the couple? Similarly, maybe guys who pitched after the ceremony and left after the food were just not respectful as they don’t really know the people.
It’s a tough call, but I am sure your wedding will be fine.
Post # 10
I have this fear too. My friend was recently in a wedding and she said everyone but the bridal party left immediately after dinner, but they’d booked the venue till 1pm. She said around 9pm, they ended up just ending the wedding and then they sat in the hallway and drank beer. So sad. I saw some of the pictures on facebook and it’s clearly like 12 people dancing in a room meant for 200. She mentioned that there were very few friends invited and most of it was older family members, so I bet that’s a big part of it.
Post # 11
Well my cousin was doing the photagraphy for my sisters wedding and bailed 2 days prior. There was a death in the family (great aunt through marriage) and they decided to have the funeral the same day and time as my sisters wedding. Also, the funeral home is family owned, so that type of thing can cause a family to bail at the last minute.
Post # 13
Ugh this is one of my worst fears.. this story is only making that fear worse because this probably happens more often than not. 🙁
Post # 14
- Wedding: June 2014 - DD born 2015 DS born 2017
Yup, definitely happy I won’t be having dancing at my wedding. This is my worst nightmare! OP, I think that was really nice of you and your husband to try to keep the reception alive!!
Post # 15
Ouch! the truth is you can plan as carefully as you can, and things still might go badly! But try not to let the anxiety get to you- at the end of the day, you’ll be married! It sounds like the couple have the right idea trying to focus on their honeymoon 🙂
At our wedding I was so worried about nobody dancing that I designated some people who PROMISED to stay on the dance floor all night long. Basically everyone in my bridal party, ha.
Post # 16
We are military and were pressured by community to have a courthouse reception. Our wedding was already planned out and people were already aware of the planning when we went to the court house. We had gone through a short deploment and realized that it was better to get legal things out of the way. There are people who will call it a wedding and people who will say it is a vow renewal. I guess you never understand until you are in anothers shoes….Long story short we are legally married and I never call him husband unless on the wedingbee because I ran into a lot of rude judgements when I didn’t call him my husband in a previous post. We just feel that it isn’t a proper union until it is done religiously and with our families….You may understand or you may not but that it what it is 🙂