Post # 1
I have been a worrier my whole life, but lately my anxiety is getting out of hand. I have trouble sleeping, worry about ridiculous things, etc. So I finally decided to seek treatment. I have never done anything like this so I had no idea what to expect. Today was my first appointment and before the meeting even started, I began to cry. I was mostly just scared and a little overwhelmed. We talked a lot about my childhood so she could understand me better, which also made me cry because it brought up a lot of things from my past.
Anyways, she said she thinks I am depressed. I was pretty surprised because although my family members suffer with depression, Ive never thought of myself as depressed. Maybe I just dont understand the symptoms but I dont feel sad all the time, or have lost interest in things.
Do any of you ladies have experience with this? She wants me to go back next week and mentioned Zoloft. I feel embarassed and ashamed to talk to anyone in “real life” about this. I know I shoudln’t, but I do. My Fiance is amazing of course, but I dont think he really understands either.
Post # 3
Anxiety and depression often go hand-in-hand. As I am sure you know from the depression history among your family members, depression is not just… well… depressing. It’s a lot more than a big ball of sads. Anxiety can be a result of your systems trying to deal with underlying depressive causes. It can stem from being too worried about the things that are depressing you.
May I ask what kind of doctor you saw? My general practitioner gave me Zoloft and then tried Prozac for depression, neither worked. When I saw a psychiatrist for the first time, she immediately diagnosed me with Type 2 Bipolar disorder and put me on a mood stabilizer instead of an anti-depressant. I have an anti-anxiety medication I take as needed. The right diagnosis made a lot of difference! I find that my sad times often manifest themselves in anxiety, and years of good therapy and understanding my condition make me very attuned to my changes in mood and I have a good grip on how to handle it.
It takes time.
DO NOT BE ASHAMED. It is hard! But more important, DO NOT GIVE UP. I used to think something was really wrong with me, especially when anti-depressants didn’t make me a superhero like they do the people on commercials. I felt like I was just a hopeless mess.
Be open with yourself and with your doctor about how you feel. ALWAYS be open with your doctor, pretty please, even if you don’t breathe a word to anyone else.
Best wishes to you – I think I know where you are coming from, and it’s a rough place to be. Hang in there!
Post # 4
Nothing to be embarrassed about. Since none of us know everything you’ve gone through, it’s impossible for us to diagnose what it is you have. The interesting thing is that both anxiety and depression are treated mostly with the same medications. So no sense in worrying about what to call it. It’s a good thing you’ve gotten help. Between that and counseling, you should feel a lot better! Good luck!
Post # 5
As a random aside, exercise does wonders for depression, both medicated and unmedicated.
“Another exercise and depression study found depression had improved after participants had walked on a treadmill for thirty minutes a day for only ten days. (2) Antidepressant medication usually takes at least two to three weeks to begin improving mood.”
And do not feel ashamed or any negative feelings about beind diagnosed. If you had diabetes you change what you eat and may take insulin. If you have depression you see a therapist and may need medication.
Post # 6
Thank you ladies. I saw a therapist, but she wants me to see someone else in her office who can perscribe medicine. I have that appointment in 2 weeks.
I do exercise regularly, and if I miss a few days (which I have for the past 5 days because of a bad cold) I can feel a huge change in my mood. The exercise, even just walking, is a huge help for me.
Thanks again ladies, I appreciate it.
Post # 7
I’m sorry you’re going through this. A few years ago, I was in the same boat–anxiety through the roof. I went on Wellbutrin, which stabilized my serotonin and it REALLY helped (along with counseling and exercise). Wellbutrin doesn’t affect libido as much as some antidepressants. Obviously, you can discuss this with your doc, as I don’t know what Zoloft does in that area.
You’d be amazed at the number of women who deal with depression and/or anxiety. When I started opening up about it to people, I was shocked by how many of my friends and acquaintances said they’ve been on medication or been struggling. You don’t have to be ashamed.
Post # 8
Don’t be ashamed. My worrying keeps me awake and causes me to make myself ill but I am too scared to go to the doctor to talk about it. I respect those with the courage to go. I mostly do not go because I worry about what they might say!
Post # 9
Please don’t be ashamed. There are so many women, people who deal with this. I have taken wellbutrin for almost 2 years now. It’s not really recommended for people with severe anxiety, because it can cause an increase in anxiety for some people. I added a small dose of Lexapro (10mg) in November, and it’s also been a big help. I was against trying medications for so long, but I’ve been through a lot (Dad passing away suddenly, Mom just diagnosed w/ terminal cancer)… so whatever helps you to feel better, you should do. You only have one life.
Post # 10
Don’t feel ashamed at all! Anxiety and depression often go hand-in-hand. I’ve been on Lexapro since middle of last year for my mild depression and high anxiety and it has been wonderfu for me!
Many people deal with these same issues and it is absolutely nothing to be embaressed by.
Post # 11
@PeaceLoveLaughter: That’s been me for as long as I can remember. I actually sat in the parking lot yesteday in a total panic becuase I didnt want to go in. But the therapist was so nice and I feel a sense of relief today that I made that first step.
@MCC919: &@Mrs.KMM: Thanks for the encouragement ladies. I am feeling a bit better today about everything. Yesterday was emotionally exhausting and overwhelming. I’m not sure what to expect in the next few weeks, but I am glad that I at least made the first step, that was the scariest part.
Post # 12
This happened to me before I was diagnosed with ADD. I saw my a regular DR. and mentioned my concerns and she listened for all of 10 minutes max and then I left with a presription for Zoloft. I KNEW I wasn’t depressed, and she basically told me she thought I was bi-polar. I have a fam member with Bi-polar disorder and I just knew it could not be that. But of course when she told me this I cried, well b/c I just didn’t know what to do haha. So I made another appt and saw a great Dr. who diagnosed me with mild ADD and started me on a low dose ritalin regimine. It’s been great! I told the new DR. how my previous DR just gave me a prescription for Zoloft and he said that many times general practictioners just don’t know how to handle these sort of issues and are fast to blame depression. He did say that anxiety and depression are often partners but that is not true all the time. Talk with your new Dr., and definitely voice that you don’t think your depressed, you could easily be suffering form plain old anxiety.
Post # 13
There’s a lot of great advice from the PP. I’ve suffered from depression and anxiety nearly my whole life. I was previously on different medications for depression, now I’m on Effexor for Anxiety. It’s a low dose and it really helps.
Therapy and talking to someone can also really help. A good support system can really do wonders. Don’t be ashamed of this. You are completetly normal. If you need to talk, you can PM me any time 🙂
Post # 14
I completely understand. I’ve had anxiety for as long as I can remember and put off going to see a dr about it for years because I was so anxious about seeing the dr (I even went through the worst-case scenarios in my head and still couldn’t bring myself to go. Worst case… the dr will judge me, or won’t give me meds, or won’t believe me. They don’t even sound that bad… but picking up the phone to make an appt would make me panic). I finally made an appt and went in.
I was less than thrilled with the dr but maybe she was just having a bad day. Anyhow she told me I was depressed in addition to my anxiety and was convinced there was some childhood event that sparked my anxiety. It was weird, and I was irritated that she was more concerned about me being “depressed” when I was just so freaking anxious all the time!
She prescribed me Wellbutrin which is an antidepressant and off-lable for anxiety. Suprisingly, I have been happier since taking it and can see now that I was struggling with depression as well. I think my anxiety will always be present, but Wellbutrin has helped take the edge off and I can function a lot better. That said, Wellbutrin is known to make anxiety worse for some people too so I guess it just depends. For a couple weeks I had worse anxiety right before bed but I’m glad I stuck with it and that has gone away since. (Also, bonus… I’ve lost weight while on it. That was one of my huge concerns with the wedding coming up because I know some people have trouble with weight gain and antidepressants).
Don’t be embarassed, depression and anxiety are very common…. and try the Zoloft, even if you think you’re not depressed. It might surprise you. Best of luck! 🙂