Post # 1
Hello beehive!! First time posting- long time lurker. You are all so helpful!
I’m starting my wedding day timeline, however the last few weddings I have been to have started significantly later than planned. I’m hoping past brides can share their reason(s) for a delay, and future brides can be better prepared. This isn’t meant to embarass or judge anyone, just simple advice to learn from and what to be on alert for 🙂
thank you all for your wisdom!~
Post # 2
I wasn’t late, we were actually an hour early since we were supposed to meet for our first look, but were unable to do our first look due to the blizzard we had.
My advice is to give yourself plenty of time, and time to yourself before the ceremony. You’re going to have SO many people buzzing around you all day that you will appreciate a little alone time.
Post # 3
I was in a wedding where the bride was an HOUR late, partly because she got out the door too late, partly because there was a subsequent 45 minute drive to the ceremony site, partly because set-up took longer at the site than expected and she wanted to help, partly because her family wanted to help her get ready/dressed at the site but they showed up late, and partly because it then took grandma 5 times as long as a normal person to walk from the dressing room to the actual ceremony site. Then they had a 5 minute ceremony and everyone had to drive BACK to their house to have (by then cold) BBQ food… Yeah. Don’t do that!! At least it was overlooking the ocean, so people who were waiting had nice views, and it was a really small wedding so everyone was close enough to them to not say anything, but it was bad. I kept trying to hustler her along, but if I had been a guest, I would have been upset to wait an hour in the sun only to watch a fast, 5 minute wedding and then have to drive back to cold food.
Post # 4
GloryandGlitter: I was late. I felt bad about it, but not bad enough to not be late. Lol. I was married in August and it was soooooo hot. Our guests were seated in the shade, and where I would be standing at the altar would have been directly in the sunlight and I would have melted. The ceremony was about 20 minutes later than scheduled. It all worked out, and after spending as much money as I did on hair & makeup and photography, it was well worth it. No one suffered and everyone seemed to have a great time. 🙂
Post # 5
I was actually ready to go before Darling Husband, about half an hour early! It was my mom that made us late. She showed up, not dressed and hair not done 15 minutes before it was supposed to start. I was planning to start 5-10 minutes late so that any straggling guests couls get there (it was a really obscure location). But it ended up being closer to half an hour late when I actually walked down the aisle! Make sure that your family and other important people know to show up with plenty of time.
Post # 6
I was only 15 mins late, due to initially running 1 hr over time with my hair, which then put the photographer behind schedule!! My huisband missed a few pre wedding shots probably because of this!
Post # 7
I’ve had to sign a legal contract with my celebrant saying that I won’t be more than 20 minutes late. If I am more than 20 minutes late, she reserves the right to leave (mainly just if she has another wedding to officiate afterwards) and we forfeit our fees. Oh, and my Fiance is ALWAYS on time and would probably kill me if I were more than 10 mins late!
I had a friend who was an hour and 20 minutes late for her ceremony. She’s notoriously bad for being on time and badly misjudged how long it would take to have her hair done, and how long the drive to the ceremony would take. As a guest it was pretty awful. When she finally arrived, it felt very rushed and they missed out on a stack of photos.
We’ve actually listed our start time as 5:15pm but our ceremony doesn’t officially start until 5:30pm. I’ve planned our hair/makeup/car as if we’ll be at the venue at 5:15. If we’re early, we can always do a few laps in the car!
Post # 8
I was late, about 30 min. I was waiting for my Maid/Matron of Honor who was a makeup artist to do my makeup and when i realized she wasnt going to show i did it myself. At the church she apologized and told me she took a nap…. and then went straight to the church so she wouldnt be late…. Needless to say w are not close friends anymore…
Post # 9
GloryandGlitter: I ended up being so early that the church was still locked when I got there! haha! Luckily, someone came and let us in. The groom also arrived about five minutes after me, probably because he knows that I’m a stickler for time.
Since I can’t talk about being late, here are some tips for being on time:
1. In your timeline, buffer in extra time as you go, so that when things do take extra time, it’s okay in the long run. E.G. if your hair stylist says it will take 1 hour to do your hair, budget 1.5 hours.
2. Don’t forget to buffer in “transition” time – driving to/from the salon, or time in between bridesmaids appointements. It usually takes a hairstylist or makeup artist a few minutes to clean up and get reorganized in between clients. If you book everyone back-to-back, this will inevitably lead to running late.
3. Drive your route from where you’re getting ready to the ceremony a couple of times; once the same time/day as you will on your wedding, and at least once in rush hour. Use the slowest time as the amount of time you budget in your timeline. This is the reason we were so early – it normally took 30 minutes to do the drive, but on the day of the wedding, the stars aligned and it only took 10 minutes!
Post # 10
My cousin was late over an hour at her wedding. We went to her house for happy hour and to see her for the first time (this was in Italy) so she was ready to go but poor thing was a nerve wreck. She was hyperventilating and did not want to leave. We all went to the church before her and her poor hubby kept wondering if she was ever going to show up.
This was in August so it was really hot and humid but luckily the church was somewhat cool.
Post # 11
I haven’t had my wedding yet, the bride and us girls were late to a wedding I was Maid/Matron of Honor in. The bride got her dress from DB and had that bra/corset thing sewed into it. Well the clips started busting off as we were trying to get here into it. Like, so many. After failing to find a sewing kit, we did our best to get the remaining clips put together, although most just unclipped or completely broke off. Well her dress had a corset back as well…what is it called, the vanity panel? Whatver it is, we couldn’t get that clipped either cause she wasn’t totally cinched in from the bra thing. We’d get one clip done, do the second, and the first would pop open. We eventually just let it be, and tied her up and we hoped for the best.
Lessons learned: I don’t care what a seamstress tells you, your dress shouldn’t be tight enough that you can’t freakin breathe (my friend went on and on about how not being able to breathe was standard for a wedding gown fit-well that backfired). Bring a sewing kit.
Post # 12
scarlettbegonias87: I’ve never heard the not being able to breathe thing. My dress was very fitted, but I could still walk, sit and BREATHE. I was super comfy in my dress and didn’t want to take it off!
Post # 13
I was Maid/Matron of Honor in a wedding this year and she was 30 min late. It sucked for the guests because they had been waiting outside in 90 degree weather. All of us Bridesmaid or Best Man were actually ready and so was the bride. What made us late was that there were 3 flower girls that were running late. The hotel was about 35 min from the ceremony. The bride really wanted us to take a picture with all of us in our robes which happened and pushed back the time of our pictures. We ended up not taking a whole lot of pictures.
Post # 14
The last wedding I attend as a guest the bride was 30 minutes late. It was raining heavily and there was a accident on the highway. Lesson is do everything in your power to keep your travel distances as short as possible…to salon, to church, to photos, to reception…the shorter the better.
Post # 15
GloryandGlitter: Ok so, I’m a wedding photographer and I’d say honestly about 80% of the weddings we’ve done have run late. Typically it’s because hair & makeup is not started early enough or because of some sort of emergency. Give yourself a TON of wiggle-room before the ceremony! I got married at 2pm and we started geting ready at 7am. I totally thought that was safe but I was still 30 minutes late! Have a point person who will check in on the time every hour or so and remind people what time it is – I find that s super helpful! Also, the smaller the bridal party, the less likely the wedding will be late (just saying!).