Post # 1
Long story short (cos I’m using all my patience up with waiting!): we’re both ready, ring will be here in the next 2 weeks, it’s going to happen before September.
He’s waiting for a certain date to propose. I don’t know what the date is apart from the fact it’s not this month and it will be on a weekend. I just don’t get why he’s waiting for some aribitrary date – there are no dates that are special to us for 5 more months! He *tried* to explain but all he said was “I don’t know why but that day ‘feels right’ to me”
AHDKJLHGJLHG! I totally got it when he said he was waiting to start work and save money. He’s done that now. I am just frustrated that he’s picked some date for goodness knows what reason that just doesn’t make sense 🙁 I’m gettin’ real tired of waiting, we’ve been living together long enough and his parents (who used to disapprove!) have told him to “hurry up and get married!”
He wants to “do it right” /”do it properly” blah blah blah. I don’t want an elaborate proposal ad it sounds like he’s gearing up for one. (I REALLY don’t want an elaborate proposal!)
Just so over waiting for something we both want. I love him and I’m sick of hearing “not yet” 🙁
And as I said before, patience isn’t something I’ve got much of atm, I’m looking for some sympathy not “oh stop being so *insert adjective*”. None of my friends are in LTRs and thinking about marriage – I can’t talk to them about it 🙁
Post # 3
Breathe…. in… out… in (repeat)
Out of all the Wedding Stuff that us gals know so well
From the time you played dress up as a tiny girl… right thru to today and ALL the visions you have in your head (or pinned on PINTEREST)
THIS hon, is the ONE & ONLY thing a man gets to do.
Let him do it as he sees fit…
He LOVES YOU, he wants to make it special for you…
NOT A BAD THING !!
(Infact it is frickin’ amazing, as you probably won’t be one of the many woman who get a “Non-Proposal” like soooo many of us do)
So put it out of your mind…
It is gonna happen (Yipee !!)
And soon (Yipee !!)
And on a Weekend, no doubt in some special way (Double-Yipee !!)
Try to stay calm, try to relax
Keep up your health & beauty routine (manicures)
Read Mr Bee’s Plan if you need encouragement thru this time…
It is GOING TO HAPPEN (Yipee !! some more)
Breathe… in… out… in (repeat)
😀 *BIG Grin*
Post # 4
I’m in an extremely similar situation, so I know exactly what you mean. Wating definitely sucks, but it sounds like your SO is planning something really special for you. How exciting!
@This Time Round: I needed to hear this right now, so thanks 🙂
Post # 5
@WannaBeeMrsB: So agree with you. This Time Round, you always say the right thing!
Post # 6
I’m trying to grow my poor nails, they’re horribly cracked and flaky 🙁 I’ve been trying to work on my “looking after myself” routine lately but exams are getting in the way
Post # 7
TO @WannaBeeMrsB: & @alsgirl: lol, glad my words were good for both of you.
TO alsgirl: You said… Not in June, and BEFORE September.
So that means July or August. That is exactly 22 Days from now (first of July) and then just a short window of 62 Days (31 + 31)
Which means in a maximum of 84 Days… you will be an ENGAGED LADY
(Altho to be fair, I’d give the guy Labour Day Weekend too… as it is a long weekend… and overlaps… so add on another 2 Days = 86 Days)
Hon, think of it like the BEST CHRISTMAS PRESENT EVER…
Get yourself some markers, and a couple of calendar pages, and start crossing off the days !!
Lol, could be your “secret” bit of fun.
AND you can use the squares to also plan out things you want to do during the countdown… to pass the time quicker.
Check out Pinterest they have these really cool lists such as “100 Things to Do this Summer”
Read a Book – Sleep Outdoors – Catch a Firefly – Run in a Sprinkler – Go to a Fair – Eat Cotton Cady… anyhow you get the idea.
Post # 8
@This Time Round: Lol I wish it was summer here – alas I’m in Aus and it’s a particularly cold winter!
Narrowing it down, it’s either 6, 7, 13, 14, 20, 21, 27 or 28 July, or 3, 4, 10 or 11 of Aug – he’s also said before mid August, not sure I believe him as it was originally going to be in April! I have a feeling he’s waiting for August because he finishes probation at work in the first week.
Post # 9
Well the date isn’t aribitrary if it means something to him. It is his engagement as well. Chill out and relax, it will happen.
Post # 10
- Wedding: July 2017 - Bristol zoo
Your waiting is almost over! This is exciting! I’d download a countdown app for my phone and put in the last day is could possibly happen – see how soon it is! And then watch as it becomes less and less time, lol. And the best part is that you’ll know it’s going to happen /before/ that end date, so whatever the countdown says you actually have less time than that :3
(I did this and put in for my next anniversary, which is currently 301 days away :3 somewhat less exciting XD)
I’m sure your guy knows that you don’t want an elaborate proposal but that doesn’t mean he isn’t arranging for it to be special in some way! Perhaps he’s booked to take you somewhere or there’s another event or anything really. Or maybe it’s just a day he feel comfortable with – engagment is big for him too 😀
Anyway I definitely don’t think you’re being so *insert adjective here*, I can imagine it’s massively frustrating, but it’s also super duper exciting! Best of luck to you ^^
Post # 11
Here is my stance on the situation… from the moment we get engaged us women plan everything. Sure, we ask our fiance for their opinion, but we have our own specific vision for our big day. Guys get this one thing to have control over and he has his own vision for how he wants it to go. Trust me, if he is putting this much thought into it then it is going to be awesome. Just sit back and breathe. You have the rest of your lives ahead of you.
Post # 12
@echapman: I’ve never really thought about my one-day wedding til about 3 months ago! All I’ve thought about is the colour scheme, venue and flowers (seeing as the venue’s a garden). I know the woman planning everything is generally the case, but he’s put more thought into it than me – we don’t conform to gender stereotypes much in our relationship! 😛
I think if it involves him, me, a ring and the words “will you marry me” it’ll be awesome anyway 🙂
Post # 13
@alsgirl: You’ve only been dating a year and a half. He is only 22 & just finished school, just got a job. He told you a just few months ago that he didn’t feel mature enough to get married! You’ve shared in a prior post that his parents think you are “pushy”.
You kept asking for a ring so he finally ordered a ring. However clearly he isn’t quite ready to give it to you. He’s trying to slow the train down a bit… obviously!
Think backing off him a bit will serve you better. You’ve been posting a bunch about this over the last few months, he’s not quite on the same page. You don’t want to end up married and have him say later that he married you because he felt pressured. Which seems like a real possibility! Sorry hon! Best wishes.
Post # 14
I know exactly how you feel, except my ring has been hiding somewhere in the house for over two weeks, our anniversary is the end of this month, so that better be the date he’s waiting for. Or I’m going to find that ring and wear it when he isn’t home. I’m going insane!
Post # 15
@gemgirl6: I don’t know if you read the title of this topic. We’re both ready – because I backed off a few months ago and he realised he was ready 2 months ago, and ordered the ring soon after. His parents now approve of me, in fact just yesterday his dad was teasing him to “hurry up and get married” because they want grandkids one day! I read what you said to me to my SO, and I’d quote him verbatim but it’d get moderated. Has it occurred to you that while he wasn’t ready a few months back, he is now??? The nastiness is unnecessary and so is the rude, bolded font. And the insincere “best wishes” – yeah, only say that if you actually mean it. And P.S: he finished 5 years of uni, bit different to ‘school’
@iiiEllie: Hehe I would probably try to do tht but he’s gettting it delivered to his work so I can’t 😛
Post # 16
Also to follow up a little more, my dad flew back to my hometown after visiting for the weekend, they shooed me away for “secret man’s business” – so obvious what they were talking about, and SO confirmed he’d ‘re-asked’ for permission 🙂 silly thing, my dad thinks the world of him 🙂
GemGirl, don’t talk down to me. “You’ve only been dating a year and a half”. Um, your point?? I’m just blown away by your rudeness.