Post # 1
Hi all, been lurking for a while. I just turned 25, and I think since I have so many friends and aquaintences getting engaged, I’ve gotten a little wedding crazy. My boyfriend and I have known that we’re “it” since pretty much the beginning. We’ve been dating for almost 2 years, and we moved in together about 6 months ago. I really feel like we’re ready to get married, and he says “I can’t wait to marry you.” But, I’m finishing grad school, and he just started a demanding new job so we know the timing isn’t right and the finances aren’t there. We’ve talked about it alot and have a pretty concrete timeline for our near future, but we don’t have anything planned for the next year at the earliest. I was wondering if any of you have ever felt like you are both waiting? What can I do to stop feeling like I’m just waiting for the next step and enjoy our relationship the way it is?
Post # 2
Remind yourself of this: marriage is not the end-all, be-all. I see that a LOT on the waiting boards, that people are waiting to “start their lives” with their significant other. Marriage is wonderful of course, one of the best decisions I’ve ever made, but it doesn’t change who I am. Sure it is the “start” of our lives, but at the same time there is so much more I want to accomplish and that I will accomplish. Marriage is just another step in the journey.
Post # 3
Both of us in my relationship are waiting too, because we feel that if something is worth doing, it’s worth doing a way we will remember for the rest of our lives. Luckily, we d have very long to go anymore, but we’ve been waiting about tw years at this point. What I’ve done to keep myself sane is focus on the concrete things that I can plan, like the budget for the engagement trip.