(Closed) We’re Calling Off The Wedding!!!!

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: What should we do?
    Go on cruise and surprise everyone by coming back married : (34 votes)
    20 %
    Go on cruise, get married and not tell anyone until ceremony in September. Our little secret. : (22 votes)
    13 %
    Tell and invite family and close friends to join us on cruise for wedding. : (101 votes)
    58 %
    Other. PLEASE tell me... : (16 votes)
    9 %
  • Post # 3
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    1370 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I wish I would have cancelled my wedding and had a private ceremony/eloped. The wedding was so much drama and nothing like I wanted. I basically caved to family pressure. Meh.

    It’s really up to you and what is best for your situation.

    Post # 4
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    270 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2001

    I would invite my parents, and my siblings, but I wouldn’t invite my friends.  I would call the wedding next year an vow renewal, and invite everybody to that.  I hope you have fun!  I’ve always wanted to go on a cruise!

    Post # 5
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    4803 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Glad to see option 2 has no votes so far because I really hate the whole “Let’s get married now just because, keep it a secret, and pretend we’re getting married for the first time in front of our friends and family when really it’s all for show!” I know that my viewpoint tends to incite some hate on the boards because there are brides here who have done it, but I will never understand it. If you’re going to have a big wedding anyways just wait and get married then – isn’t that the point of the wedding? To get married?

    If you want to get married on the cruise that’s fine – but it doesn’t sound like you do. It sounds like you’re just wanting to be married NOW (many planning bees feel this way, I did too), but you really want your nice wedding with your family. Good things are worth waiting for, so wait till September and have your nice wedding. In some cases the sooner legal ceremony is necessary for insurance reasons, military family, etc. But I don’t think wanting to be married now and not wait is a reason to keep something so huge from your family.

    Post # 6
    Member
    1093 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Can you have a small ceremony with family and close friends at someones house? or a small chapel and dinner at a restaurant and then use the cruise as the honeymoon.

    Post # 7
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    1697 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    my sis had just fam at their ceremony cause they didnt want to wait. they had their big wedding a year later. everything is diff for everyone. sounds like you really want your parents with you, why not just hv them there?

    Post # 10
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    4803 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    @MrsDiddles: Alright well obviously it’s up to you two, but if you are concerned about your parents’ reaction, think about how they’ll react if you do keep a secret and they find out you lied about it and never told them about your actual wedding…I’m sure that conversation would be a lot more unpleasant than one where you tell them about it ahead of time.

    Post # 11
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    775 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    My friend did something similar to this and once she told the family…..both families were PISSED. They wouldn’t even talk to her and made him publicly appologize at their actual wedding. I understand every wedding is different. I would tell them there is a change of plans and invite them to the cruise as well and those who care enough will come and later on have your big wedding. 

    Post # 12
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    1855 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Another option is to do the cruise wedding and invite everyone.  Pay for your parents to come, and great for whoever else can make it.  This will naturally cut the number of attendees, helping with budgetary concerns, and you get your big wedding sooner.  

    Post # 14
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    464 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2016 - Beck Rec center

    @MrsDiddles: me and hubby eloped, our familes flipped out… now that we are in a sort of decent place, im planning my vow/wedding ceremony. people are not at all thrilled with this, they are so annoyed w/us wanting attention. Do what your heart desires and dont worry about the nay-sayers

    Post # 15
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    7403 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    Just tell them of your revised plans. In this economy I doubt if your family can fault you. You can have the ceremony and quick reception on the ship with family and then then they get off the ship and you guys sail away on your Honeymoon. Sounds like a great plan to me.

    Post # 16
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    4803 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    @bklynbridetobe: Well, they’re still planning on having the big wedding as planned in September, so I don’t think they’ll be as understanding of the financial aspect because of that.

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