Post # 1
Fiance are eloping, so while I am all for having a stagette I didn’t want to have a shower. I thought it would be tacky to be asking for gifts when we’re not even inviting people to a wedding.
One of my best friends offered to plan and host the stagette for me, and I really appreciate all her effort. I told her I didn’t want a shower but she insisted. She just sent out the invitations by email and it says very clearly that there will be a shower at her place before we all go out.
What would be the right thing to do here? Talk to her and say that I really, really don’t want a shower? Reply to the email chain myself, asking everyone not to bring a gift and just come ready to party? Or shut up and be grateful that I have such an awesome friend who is planning a super nice party in my honor? What would you bees do?
Post # 3
this is my vote: shut up and be grateful that I have such an awesome friend who is planning a super nice party in my honor
you already told her you didn’t want or expect….now just enjoy it!
Post # 5
i agree with sassy! you’re stressing yourself out over nothing!
Post # 7
If my friend or family were eloping I would definetly have a shower!! I don’t have any petty friends or famiy though that would find it tacky to not have a wedding to be invited to. They would be doing what a shower is – showering the bride to be with gifts to make her married life easier/better! 🙂
The thinking that you should only be happy for/go to a bridal shower if you get to go to a paid ceremony/party is tacky, if you ask me. Shut up and enjoy, lol!
Post # 8
Yes, the invitation is out and it’s a done deal – be grateful and let yourself enjoy it!
Post # 9
I’ve been to a shower for a friend who was eloping and I didn’t have any problem with it, we had fun. It would be rude of you to demand a shower but since you’re not, enjoy being spoiled for a night!
Post # 10
Enjoy it, your friends will probably have fun.
Post # 11
Alright, the answers seem to be unanimous. Thanks all!
Post # 12
Another vote for enjoy it!