(Closed) We're engaged!

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Congrat’s on your engagement; but I don’t see the Bees responding well to this thread :/

Good luck!

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Beautiful Bluegrass:  Congrats on your engagement!   But yeah, I agree with @Artificial-Sweetener:  The title of the thread doesn’t sound good.  I think you are trying to say your feel their pain, but it does not come off right. 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

Congrats on the engagement! I agree with the PPs though. Ouch.

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

congrats and good luck with the responses!

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I would DEFINATELY change the title of this thread.. Just sayin

Post # 11
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Bumble bee

Oh honey – I am in that situation right now. He promised he’d propose before my birthday on 4th September and he wanted to get my ring custom made. This was last year. In January he bought himself an iPad, and a couple of months later admitted that he had no money saved for a ring.

So then I found moissanite and showed it to him because I thought it was a great way to get the look I wanted for less (and thus ensuring he could afford it by September). That was in March. I told him they were running low on Amora stock on BetterThanDiamond for the 1ct I wanted, and he promised he’d keep an eye on it and buy one if the stock got down to 2 (from 4 – because he didn’t want to spend his money ‘straight away’). Of course, all the 1ct sold out and he had to spend more to get a 1.25 – which is good, don’t get me wrong, but I originally wanted the 1ct.

The stone arrives in April and sits in his office, doing nothing. The middle of July rolls around and he’s looked at no settings for the stone whatsoever. We worked together and I always knew where he was and not once did he have the chance to go into town to the jewellery district. Unless he got the ring made at the beginning of August, it wouldn’t be ready in time.

So finally I had to take over, and we went looking at settings. I found a gorgeous platinum setting but wanted it in yellow gold. We spoke to the jeweller and he said the designer didn’t make it in yellow gold but he could make it in store. Perfect – my SO would get a unique ring and I would get the beautiful setting I loved.

The day after he got a call from the jeweller – the setting was a little pricier than expected and it he’d only be able to afford it after 2 more pay packets – at the end of August. It would take 4 weeks to get made, so it wouldn’t be done by my birthday.

I was gutted, but accepted this because it was the setting of my dreams.

The other day he made a joke about my ring and how much platinum cost. This made me question – why is that an issue when we’re getting yellow gold? So we talked about it and realised he’d made a mistake. The jeweller was making a platinum setting.

WHY he didn’t ask questions about it is beyond me. WHY he didn’t question the price is also beyond me. And then when we found out they could switch it to gold, I said he’d most likely get a refund for the difference.

Oh I haven’t paid for it yet – was the response. He said they used the moissanite as a deposit.

WHAT?! He could have used the moissanite as a deposit back in July and paid for it at the end of August when he had the money. There would have been no mistakes with the metal if he’d ordered it after we’d gone in, because the sales guy didn’t recognise him 2 months later.

He didn’t think about any of this. It absolutely broke my heart to think that all of this could have been avoided if he’d just thought about it.

Wow – that was long. Sorry – I really needed to get that off my chest. It’s been bubbling up inside me. 

But what I should have just said was CONGRATULATIONS!!! Cannot wait to see pictures of that beauty 🙂

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Congrats!

Post # 13
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Helper bee

Something bothers me…Just my opinion-

As a waiting gal when I ask my boyfriend if he’s thinking about our future, he just tells me, “Stop asking, I got it under control love” and I’ll be quiet about it, I trust him.

What bothers me and (this is just me every couple is different!) Where is the surprise and specialness?? He gave you a deadline, and when it didnt work out you said you were upset, and then he says by by September 18th you”d be engaged.

Isn’t a proposal supposed to be this great surprise? I’d be kinda upset if my boyfriend took me ring shopping and then gave me a date of when to expect things.

I don’t know. Thats just me! But nonetheless! I am happy for you, CONGRATS!!! 🙂

 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee

@amberdk:  being in the same situation, it’s devestating to know that he gives you a time, wants you to be surprised (in which case you think he’d do it sooner) and then passes it either a) not mentioning it or b) because he didn’t think earlier on in the process.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee

@Beautiful Bluegrass:  i got it! i didn’t think it sounded bad at all. i thought it meant ‘oh ma gawd the wait was awful!’

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