(Closed) We're fighting about photography and it's bumming me out

posted 7 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 47
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3419 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Manhattan Church Rec Center

Go over his head. Executive decision

Post # 48
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149 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I would just tell him that your mom already put down thousands for the deposit without telling you and it’s nonrefundable so it would truly be a waste for her to break the contract and still be on the hook to pay the guy.

Post # 50
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I think you should just book him. I also think your Fiance will appreciate it once you get the pictures back afterwards. Photography is one of the most important parts of the wedding in my opinion. Our photographer is $5,500 but we love his work and that includes a bunch of extra stuff. 

Personally, I wouldn’t book a cheap photographer. If you are going to prove to Fiance that you were right all along, you need to have beautiful and share-worthy pictures at the end of it. 

Post # 52
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

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@Kir32:  i agree…although i think booking it behind is back isn’t the right thing to do either.

if someone else wants to pay for it though and book it as a surprise….hey what can ya do 😉

Post # 53
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I had a similar problem he just felt like it was a waste of money since we would never watch the photos so i switched game plans and started to mention a videographer. He didn’t want to spend the money on that either and so I said we had to compromise because we were not going to not have someone… In the end he felt like he made a grand gesture by agreeing on a photographer and then we would video ourselves with a camera on a tripod, his gopro and my bloggie. I know it sounds sneeky and well it is but he felt like he made this grand sacrifice in compromising and I really just wanted photos.

Post # 54
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@mousepeach:  Drop the subject for a few days then inform him that you will have a professional photographer that day and that you expect him to act like an adult and pose for pictures like any other groom.  Show him photos of his parents’ wedding, your parents’ wedding, grandparents’ weddings, etc….to get the point across that photographs are worth having.  I am guessing he has no issue forking over a couple of grand for videography though.  Tell him videography is great but you want a photo album to pass down to your kids and grandkids too.

Post # 55
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

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@nyCheesecake:  I totally agree. I guess I would say don’t say “ok, we aren’t booking a photographer” just say “i’m doing it. It’s done.”

Honestly, everything about the cost of a wedding is a shock. Photographers are expensive but they are one thing you can look back on. Don’t skimp.

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