(Closed) Were fighting…. :( vent

posted 9 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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972 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Im sorry! Sometimes men just get into their moments and speak out of anger. Im sure he didnt mean it, me and Fi fight alot too, well alot more before but it only made us stronger over the years.  We learned from each other’s differences and learned to understand and accept each other more.  This was our New Year’s resolution to each other, to give in and understand one another and it helps when you can meet in the middle and compromise. If he doesnt like the fact that your bro doesnt knock, then just tell your bro to knock just out of respect for the Fiance.  Meet in the middle and you will get good results, good luck! 

Post # 4
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4023 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’m sorry. I hate how stress in one area of your life affects all the others. But don’t worry, it will get better! Since you aren’t working try to be like SUPER house wife! Make sure everything is spotless and cook him dinner. Tell your brother to make sure he knocks when he comes over for a while at least. Maybe try to do something really fun, inexpensive and sweet for your man to help relieve some stress. Maybe even just a bath and massage! 🙂 Try not to worry to much though.

Post # 5
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2640 posts
Sugar bee

I’m sorry.  I’m thinking this is centered around his job troubles.  That makes every little thing stand out.  If he has a hard time being an objective supervisor, he might want to learn how to get that figured out.  Maybe some books on leadership will help, or perhaps a class or two.  Maybe his employer would be willing to pay for him to go to classes.  If he can’t get these employees to do their jobs, he’s going to have to fire them. 

Good luck finding a job.  Hang in there.

Post # 6
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6661 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

Sorry you guys are fighting, happens to the best of us! 🙁

When you both calm down, think about what he said (even though he was angry) and ask yourself if it has any merit. Unfortunatley, our little annoyances come out when we’re angry which isn’t the most productive moment. But take it as an opportunity to analyze the things that have been bothering him and figure out if you owe him an apology or if you need to fix it. For example, it is your responsibility to speak to your brother and ask him to knock. That would bother me a lot! And I have asked Fiance to speak to his family about respecting our space, specifically overstaying their welcome. And the candle wax may sound dumb, but if it bothers him it would be really nice of you to tell him you’ll make an effort not to do it anymore.

I’ll bet once you come forward and apologize, admit to being stressed and insecure from unemployment, he will apologize for getting angry too. And you can pick up from there and fix the things that have been bothering both of you.

Good luck, feel better!!

Post # 8
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3252 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

awww you guys will be ok….sounds like he’s going thru a lot

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