(Closed) We're firing our wedding planner today…

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1606 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Good luck as you move on. It sucks being put in this situation but – these things need to be planned already. You don’t know how many other brides are using your same vendors. This isn’t just rude its unbusinesslike. YOu need to review her ona  few sites so people can be warned next time.

Post # 4
8817 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

sorry to hear what you are going through. i’m sure everything will work out fine and you will have a beautiful wedding.

take the original wedding planner to small claims court if you need to. you don’t need a lawyer for that.

Post # 5
496 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

She sounds terrible, I don’t think firing her makes you a bridezilla at all. You’re paying her to make your life easier, not stress you out and badmouth your ideas. She had her chance and she blew it, it’s time to try someone else who will actually reply to emails.

Post # 7
629 posts
Busy bee

@RunnerBride13:  As a certified wedding planner (in Canada, currently inactive), I think you have every right to fire someone who’s doing this to you. You should always be able to contact any vendors, and she should not be pushing you into things you don’t want. It sounds like you definitely have grounds for breech of contract, IMO (not legally binding advice). Good luck with your new planner.

Post # 8
1671 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Don’t worry, I’d do the same thing.  If you feel bad about it, not writing a negative review is plenty generous. Or write one. It’ll be ok. Have a happy wedding day! And good luck on your dissertation defense. 

Post # 10
29 posts
  • Wedding: September 2013

Good choice! So glad you changed. The whole point of a planner is it makes your workload less, not more!!

I’m on the same date as you and we’ve only just really started planning as we’ve had to more our wedding forward (see other post from me) and, with a different season, totally change our plan. I’m sure this other planner won’t have done any lasting damage to your planning and your day will go off without a hitch (well except for you actually getting hitched).


Have a lovely wedding!!

Post # 11
3300 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Do it! Firing my coordinator (and finding another) was one of the best moves I’ve made in this entire process. I wound up having to dip into another part of my budget to pay for this new lady, but I’m so happy to have her. Also, she’s not the absolute greatest with speedy communication (an issue I actually didn’t have with the first lady) BUT, I’m so confident in her work and her vision and she has been so professional and accomodating that I don’t even mind. If I haven’t heard from her in awhile I think “oh she must be busy, let me give her a gentle reminder.” With the first lady I immediately thought the worst whenever there was a problem because I had no confidence in her in general.

Post # 12
2204 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@RunnerBride13:  so she responded quickly when you fired her but not when you needed something from her, that’s annoying.

noone should call your ideas “boring and cheap”.

oh well, at least you got the new planner and she’s already being responsive. Now focus on your dissertation! And good luck!

Post # 13
3400 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@RunnerBride13:  Firstly, I’m really sorry you are going though this! In this process, anything that goes wrong we, as brides, are very sensitive to, because we know this will (hopefully!) be our only planning and wedding experience for the rest of our lives. It’s not wonder we are such perfectionists about the details and our emotions along the way, because we want to remember it with only fond memories. So, know that we around here can totally relate and definitely empathize.

I also wanted to say that, there is a good chance that you could actually plan your own wedding (it has been really simple for me, pesonally) and just hire a day-of coordinator to keep you for doing all the little things on the day-of that the bride shouldn’t have to worry about. I think your ability to plan your own wedding depends upon how many details you want (my wedding admittedly doesn’t have a whole lot, just typical decor).

Post # 14
1491 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Sounds like firing her was a good move!  She wasn’t holding up her end of the contract and was causing you MORE stress in the end.  Not worth it!     


Hope you have a great wedding!!   (and less stress!!)

Post # 16
11271 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

sounds like you made the right move.

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