(Closed) Were friends w/ a divorced couple….and will want them in wedding

posted 6 years ago in Grooms/men
  • poll: How to keep the couple in wedding?
    keep both people in ceremony( obviously not walking down isle together) : (10 votes)
    50 %
    keep the guy( since he'll be on my man's side and I have friends of my own) : (6 votes)
    30 %
    keep the girl since we are both friends with her : (1 votes)
    5 %
    nix them both :( : (2 votes)
    10 %
    Other, I'll explain below : (1 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
    9955 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    Honestly, the easiest thing here for all involved, would be to choose just one of them, or neither.

    Having both of them in your Bridal Party will be a NIGHTMARE (especially for them… there is another post here on WBee where a Bridesmaid is going thru that exact scenario now)

    As your SO was their friend before they were yours… I’d let him decide if he wants the guy as a Groomsman.  IF that is a no go, then you can choose the lady as a Bridesmaid.

    Hope this helps,


    Post # 5
    8439 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    I think you should just forget all about this until a lot closer to the wedding. Relationships especially with those who are not family can change a lot. You may not be friends with both or one of them by the time you are getting married. A great saying I heard today was “why buy yourself worries” which means why worry about something that isn’t going to presently affect you or may not even be a worry in the future.

    Post # 6
    1274 posts
    Bumble bee

    Ditto to a PP. Forget about it until you are a year or less out from the wedding. Friends and relationships change a lot so it’s best not to worry about the situation until you are faced with it…

    Sidenote: one of my bridesmaids and one of FI’s groomsmen used to date and lived together. It was 3+ years ago now and they are totally friendly and civil towards each other now. We were a bit concerned as he does still have some feelings towards her but they both assured us of zero drama/conflict and have both stuck to that rule. I hope that if it comes down to it, and you do want both of them involved, they can be mature and either remain civil for 1 day. Just don’t pair them up for the walk down the aisle. 🙂 

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