(Closed) We're going for a low key wedding – what traditions should we include?

posted 4 years ago in Traditions
Post # 3
Hostess
23785 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

@sweet5k:  I think it’s totally okay to skip the things you don’t want, since you want to go low key. Those are things that nobody will really miss.  In regards to seating – it’s okay if you guys just want to sit with your family/friends!  🙂 Best of luck to you in your planning!

Post # 4
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279 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’m the same way as you! I really hate to be the center of attention! I’ll be watching this post for sure!

What we’ve decided to do for the cake cutting is to serve the cake to guests ourselves instead of a receiving line. We’re having only about 60 guests, so we’ll actually cut the whole cake ourselves instead of doing the ~cut the first slice~ hulabaloo. With a party your size, it would probably be easier to have someone else cut it, and you could just hand it to your guests as they walk past the table.

Post # 5
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3260 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

How formal is your wedding going to be?  What general type of reception do you have planned?

Post # 6
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922 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

This is your wedding!  You can do or not do whatever you want.  If you are shy, then don’t let wedding traditions make you feel uncomfortable.  Enjoy your day.

Post # 9
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3221 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

@sweet5k:  I love all of your ideas! It’s a breath of fresh air from the dramatic extravaganzas weddings tend to be these days. Something low key sounds offbeat and romantic.

Post # 10
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3260 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@sweet5k:  Ok, in that case:

I’d keep the cake cutting and the MOH/Best Man toasts.

Seating… you could go either way, as it’s a buffet.  Assigned seating is more formal, and general seating less formal.  An English garden is much more formal than most outdoor venues, but I think on that one just do what feels best to you.  If you want to relax that element, people will feel relaxed.  If you want to make it formal, people will feel fancy and important.  It’s a win either way.

The dances – they are unecessary, but, if they don’t bother you, I would also see how important they are to your father and his mother.  You could always do both at the same time, and choose a short song, so that it only lasts 90 seconds, and the announcement can be simple and to the point, and you can just get started and get on with it.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@sweet5k:  I think that might be unusual, but I would not consider it in any way inelegant.  It maintains the more intimate atmosphere you seem to be after.  I would not, personally, consider it informal; it’s just a touch more relaxed.  I think that’s an excellent choice.  Perhaps position it next to the wedding party’s table, or between a bridal party table, and a groom’s party table, each seating both the parties and their guests.

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