We're gonna look at rings this weeeeeeeek

posted 1 year ago in Waiting
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee

No advice just happy dances!!!!

WOOHOO!!!!

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: St. petersburg, FL

No advice either- I’m so happy for you! This is such a step! ๐Ÿ˜Š

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2020

catthebee37 :  so exciting! I just went and looked yesterday and I’m kind of floating on cloud 9 haha ๐Ÿ™‚

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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2020

It was funny, I ended up liking a setting I thought I hated (I still don’t love the online photos).  I like a three-stone with a diamond center and two pear sapphire side stones.  The store had so many lovely shades of sapphire (more medium blues than dark navy) which really sold me.  I’m still trying to figure out if we should buy a new round center stone or use a 1 ct oval that we already have.  The problem is that when we took it to the store, it looked super warm.  I wonder if that’s not just by comparison though, since everything in the cases was super white (they were also almost all CZs for display).

 

Either way, I liked some details from one ring and some from another, so it would be a custom project.  No idea how long it would take.  We requested a quote from David Klass to compare with our local jeweler, but my boyfriend is leaning towards the local guy even though the prices are a bit higher.

 

I’m still really torn about the diamond though! Obviously there is the price to think about, but also it’s a totally different shape/color than I would probably otherwise get.  Hmm…

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Helper bee

No advice but that’s so exciting!!! Can’t wait to see it ๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2020

catthebee37 :  how did ring shopping go? find anything promising?

 

i went home and scrubbed the oval diamond (it was pretty dirty, even after the jeweler cleaned it) and it looked amazing.  i could barely put it away lol.  so we are definitely using that, which has made things a lot easier! now trying to source two sapphires which is proving to be really difficult, since we want pears of a certain size and color.  have you found any good resources for sapphires?

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee

catthebee37 :  Exactly how long does he think it will take to get a ring? Have you guys had a timeline discussion at all? Even ball parks of I’d like to be engaged this year and married next year?

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee

It might be time to break down the math for him. 

According to him you have 4 years to get engaged, get married, get pregnant and have the baby.

So working backwards:

39 – have kid 48 months

-10 months pregnancy

– 6 months trying to get pregnant, provided there are no issues, Stats bare out that 80% of healthy couples are able to get pregnant within 6 months. 

– 12-24 months married but child free

– 6-12 months wedding planning & wedding

So based on this calculations if everything goes perfectly And you only take 6 months to plan wedding, you spend 12 months child free post wedding, then you get pregnant within 6 months of trying he’s got up to 14 months to work with prior to proposal. Which is pretty delusional.

If you want to be human beings, with things going wrong and actually have time to plan your wedding, and enjoy 2 years child-free and account for not getting pregnant within the average time line, you realistically need to be engaged and start wedding planning in the next 1-2 months. 

Either way if he wants to follow his time line you guys need to be engaged this year and actively planning a wedding by the end of the year.

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2016

this is so funny “If every step of this process takes 3 months, we won’t have a marriage license until I’m 90 and he’s dead.”

I agree with the PP that you need to have a conversation about what all the various timelines that you’ve discussed mean in terms of a forward plan.

But you also need to have a bit more flexibility in your own mind or you’re going to be stressed about every step. He might have been throwing things out there when he’s mentioned various timelines but not actually applied that thinking to himself and what those mean for him. My husband makes comments sometimes about “when he’s 40” like it’s hella far out in the distance and I’m like “Do you realize that’s in less than a year? You’re not 25 or 30 anymore, dude. If you’re going to make that happen you better chop chop.”

So your comment “if he’s planning to propose on our cruise then he needs to do this and that and the other thing so we can dot dot dot.” caught my attention because I tend to do that as well and earlier in our relationship I used to get all “YEAH! We have a PLAN!” and he’s like “Where did you get THAT?” and then I’m like “I put together the CLUES from the 8 various CONVERSATIONS we’ve had on topics.” and he’s like “We were just talking. That wasn’t CONCRETE.” and then I’d lose my mind and go “Well what the fuck were we talking for, then?!” Now I know to clarify when we’re having a conversation about something we may like to do in the future and when we’re talking about something we’re going to take action on to make happen. 

Also, I just wanted to share that I love this gem cutter’s work and you might want to go visit his site just to see what he’s got going on over there:

http://www.precisiongem.com/

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