(Closed) We’re having 2 ceremonies because of Stage Fright, how about you? (long)

posted 8 years ago in Ceremony
  • poll: How are your ceremony emotions?
    I'm more nervous : (1 votes)
    6 %
    I'm more excited : (7 votes)
    41 %
    I'm equally nervous AND excited : (8 votes)
    47 %
    I'm indifferent/other : (1 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 3
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    348 posts
    Helper bee

    That sounds great!  SF city hall is so beautiful, and this way you’ll be able to really enjoy the moment when you get married, and then (hopefully) relax during the second ceremony.  As long as your parents are fine with this option, it sounds perfect.

    Post # 5
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    Aww I’m sorry this has been so hard for you!  I’ve always been kinda anti PDA, and although I am excited for the ceremony, we have decided to just do the traditional vows.  We’re both not really mushy, and kinda shy about our feelings.  I think it’d be a lot more nerve racking to read ones that we wrote. 

    Edit to add (because I always push submit too quick): I think your 2 ceremony idea is a really good one, sounds like it’ll help ease a lot of your tension 🙂

    Post # 6
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    1523 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Aw, Nexus, I’m sorry that you are having so many problems with this! Glad that you found a good solution though!

    I think I am only nervous about falling on my butt and possibly not saying my vows correctly! For me, I am excited to say really heartfelt and intimate things to my Fiance in front of family and friends. We have many private moments now and it seems exciting to be able to tell our closest family and friends how much we care for each other during the ceremony. Just my way of seeing it I guess.

    Post # 7
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    6572 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2010

    i don’t know that it has to do with the fact that we’re putting all of our emotions out there in front of everyone. it really doesn’t matter what’s going on, i don’t want to be in front of people! period. so yes, i’m nervous about the ceremony. what we’re trying to do to cure that is have a small/semiprivate ceremony of 30 people. i don’t know where i got that number, but i know my fi wanted family and friends there so that was my comprimise number that i thought i wouldn’t freak out at. we’ll see! i’m still very nervous, i don’t want people looking at me, but i’m hoping the trick of concentating on my fi will work!

    Post # 8
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    300 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Sounds like you found a great solution . . . though I don’t think I suffer from this kind of stage fright, you do raise some great points – it is an intimate moment, and probably one of the most personal ones you will share with your partner during your life.  It is strange to think that lots of us don’t bat an eye at the thought of sharing this moment with 100s of other people.

    I think the solution you reached is a great one that will take into account both your/your partner’s feelings as well as those of your families.  And how fun to have a “surprise” ceremony for your guests!  Good luck, and thanks for sharing this post!

    As for the officiant, have you thought of asking a friend?  That could be another fun twist if he/she is friends with others invited and is in on the surprise.

    Post # 9
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    5154 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    Sounds like a great solution!! 🙂

     

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