(Closed) We’re inviting children to our wedding… just not yours…

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 47
780 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I’ve been following this thread b/c like the OP, we have a very small wedding planned at a small venue.  OP, can you update us on you and your FI’s decision?  Thanks!

Post # 48
1684 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

If I had kids, I wouldn’t put the money/time into going to Disney and not take them.

That said, there’s no reason those kids need to go to the ceremony/reception. It’s what, a few hours out of the entire trip? They’d probably be happier in their hotel rooms eating room sevice pizza anyway. (I think we all overestimate how much children actually enjoy/want to attend these kinds of things. I remember being a kid and dragged to weddings etc. Boring. So. Very. Boring.)

So I think it’s unreasonable to expect parents to leave the kids back in Boston, but I think it’s perfectly okay to let them know that you wish their kids could be at the ceremony/reception but there’s not space. Maybe you could get an extra room/suite for the evening with a hotel sitter for the parents with kids too young to stay by themselves for a couple hours?

If you’re doing things like organizing a trip to one of the parks with all the people that’ve come for the wedding, you should definitely include their kids, even if they aren’t at the ceremony.

Post # 49
1941 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

It’s interesting to read all of the responses, because FH and I are seriously debating whether or not to have a “no kids” rule – his family has 45!

Anyways … I do have to agree with other PPs here, if I were invited to a Disney wedding and my hypothetical children were not, I would definitely not be going, and be prepared for our relationship to be strained if/when I found out that other children had been invited.

Sorry you’re having to go through this :/ Is there a small room you can rent out and have a babysitter for a few hours? That’s probably the only saving grace you’ll have, other than just not inviting the parents of these children you don’t have room for.

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