- 4 years ago
Hi bees! I’m moving into my SO’s place in a few weeks, and I am incredibly excited! I just started packing last night.
We’ve talked a lot about how things will work: how much each of us will pay, what we expect each other to use this new lower-rent savings on, how we’ll divide living expenses like groceries, and I’m feeling strong on that front. At this point, I’m honestly more worried about the physical merging of our stuff.
A bit more about our situation:
SO is a super clean person. Everything in his apartment has just the right place and is free of clutter. It’s one of the things I love about him. Cleanliness is hot. Which brings us to me…
I am a messier person by myself than when I spend time at his place (I’m usually at his place 4-5 nights a week, and at my place 2-3. He sleeps over at my place maybe once a month). When I’m at his place — I’m suddenly a new person. I’m always fantastic about cleaning up my dishes right away, not leaving dirty clothes on the floor (my biggest biggest problem), and am good about cleaning up and putting away things I’ve used throughout the day. I want to continue to be this way when I’m at his place permanently, and not overwhelm him with the messy me he’s never had to live with.
To help prevent this, I am throwing out a ton of my stuff. I’m donating tons of clothes, any books I don’t have a sentimental attachment to (most of my reading is on my Kindle now anyway), kitchenware. I have been living with friends I went to college with who took care of putting together all of our common living space, so I don’t have any living area furniture to worry about. The way I see it is, if I’ve been doing just fine without this stuff 80% of the time while I’m at his place, I should be just fine without it 100% of the time.
I am planning to donate my current beat up bedroom furniture, and buy a new bedside table and chest of drawers to better match his bedroom. But now I’m worried that I won’t find the right place for the stuff I do plan to bring. As I pack, I’ve been careful to think through where I envision it fitting into his apartment. It’s a small space (yayy city living!), so there aren’t lots of unused rooms or corners for me to just pile stuff up in.
Oof. Anyway, I know it will all end up just fine. But I would love to hear any of your stories, as well as any advice you have to ease the growing pains 🙂