(Closed) We're not pregnant! And we never will be!

posted 10 years ago in No Kids
Post # 17
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Interesting it was so easy for him. A friend of mine made this decision in her early twenties, and hasn’t yet found a doctor to do it. She had several tell her she would change her mind later. She hasn’t yet. :

Post # 18
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Honey bee

I plan to have kids myself, but I’m really happy for you!  I know how hard it can be for young people to find a doctor who will take them seriously.  Congrats and good luck!

Post # 19
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

There is nothing wrong with knowing you don’t wish to have children and I am so happy you have found a partner that shares your enthusiasm. 

I *think* we want children.  I am turning 33 and he’s 36…and boy, the more we live, the more we like our life, as is, a little bit more!  We were definite when we got together, then it became the idea of just one…and I think we’re both kind of questioning what we want.  Oy.  Stupid breeding habits.

Congrats – and good luck in the surgery (glad its not me – ouch haha). 

 

 

Post # 20
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

My DH had a vasectomy about a year ago (right before we got married also), and it was the best decision ever. We’re both younger as well (mid-twenties for him, early twenties for me), and my doctor would not budge on me getting fixed. We both knew we have zero interest in having children and desperately wanted to prevent an “accident”, so he volunteered. His experience was similar to your SO’s. The doctor didn’t give him a hard time, insurance completely covered it, and we were able to have it scheduled quickly. It was an outpatient procedure, and I even got to go back there with him. It looked rough, but he wasn’t in any pain at any point (a little uncomfortable for a short while, but nothing serious). He recovered quickly, and we’re so glad we don’t have to worry about BC anymore. The only thing I miss is not having a period on the Depo shot.

He is super open about having it done (not in a creepy way, just if it comes up with friends/family). He thinks he should have done it a lot sooner, and we’re both happy with our decision. Neither one of us understands the stigma and fear that’s attached to it. Speaking from experience, it’s completely unwarranted. 

Post # 21
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

Congratulations! My husband will be getting the snip as soon as our doctor will let him. He’s completely fine with the idea.

Post # 22
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

@SecretSharpie:  Congrats on being able to make such a big step!  That is awesome you both are on the same page.  When you know what you want (or don’t want) you just know! 

Post # 23
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Busy Beekeeper

We aren’t child-free, but after our second daughter is born DH is getting the old snip-a-roo. 2 is plenty for us thanks! He’s kind of nervous but we know men who have done it and they said it’s not bad. Did you know the most common time for men to get a vasectomy is during the March Madness tournament because you get a week off from work haha!

Post # 24
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

That is so exciting! Congrats to you both.


Post # 25
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

We just got married in September, and are young (22 and 24 now)… We DO want kids… But, while we were dating, DH told me that when the time came, he would be the one getting the surgery not me… And he gets mad when he hears about husbands wanting their wives to get it instead…

“It’s so much worse for women! Why would you ever do that to your wife? It’s hardly even invasive for men… Don’t worry, Babe, I’ll get it done so you don’t have to!”

haha 🙂 It was so funny to me that he felt so strongly about this!

Congrats to you and your Fiance 🙂

Post # 26
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

@Jenlon:  I wish my husband felt this way!! Actually, I am more nervous about him getting somethign permanent than me for some reason. I am looking into 2 friends whose gyno’s have either done it for them, or know someone in their 20s who have gotten it done. I am hoping that by summer, we will be permanent too!

Post # 27
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

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Post # 28
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I think it’s funny that doctors say “you’ll change your mind” I mean, that isn’t the doctor’s problem. lol.

Post # 29
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

My Fiance got snipped during his last marriage after they had two kids.  It’s really nice to not have to use any birth control.

Post # 30
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1956 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’ve known for many years that I don’t want kids so I was pleasantly surprised when I started dating my now finace and found out that he’d had the procedure done over 10 years ago (after his 2 daughters were born). Congrats on your decision and best of luck on the surgery and recovery!

Oh, and BC-free sex is pretty awesome. *wink, wink*

Post # 31
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Congratulations! That is wonderful news and I am so happy he found it so easy. I am planning on bringing up getting a TL with my doctor in a month, I am mid twenties so I can only hope to be taken seriously, but YAY for being childfree! My husband has said that he is willing to get snipped for me, but I can see the terror in his eyes when he says it, he has never had surgery, and I have several times, so I will be the one in our relationship to get fixed. Make sure you celebrate!

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