Were sick of drama and eloping

posted 2 years ago in Family
Post # 18
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2011 posts
Buzzing bee

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handlecat : How could she cancel your contracts? Was she paying?

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gatsbyaffair : “After the wedding Mother-In-Law got angry and screamed at me for attending my own wedding reception that I paid for.”

What in actual f*ck?

Post # 19
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

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sunnyland :  

Yes. It got worse. She wanted to sit with my husband at the sweetheart table, and signed him up for wedding prep stuff with her as the bride and him as the groom.

Sometimes it’s not the DIL.

Post # 21
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

My fiance called me today and said “Hey can we have a half-elopement”

And I was like “Wat”

And he said “Yeah we would have a wedding, totally as planned, and invite your family, but not mine.”

That sums it up pretty well. Poor guy.

Post # 23
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I don’t think the other bees on this thread have read your previous post. You are only 21 or 22 and your fiance is only 24 or 25, you two have only been together for a year, and, unless something has changed, he still lives at home.

I would say that, rather than focus on getting married so you can live together (since his family doesn’t approve of cohabitation outside of wedlock), you two need to focus on several other important things. Your fiance needs to either move out or decide that he agrees with his parents and continue to live under their roof and respect their values. You need to reevalute whether you two are ready for marriage. His family pitching a fit should not be grounds for your fiance to call off his wedding. Your relationship should be rock solid enough that bad behaviour from family members does not threaten your relationship. You also need to understand that every story has two sides. If you marry this man (boy?), you are also accepting his family into your life. Try to see the situation from their side and start to mend your relationships with them.

Post # 25
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

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jmm23 :  No one is saying that someone who is 21 doesn’t have the right to find love. The point is that you’re young, you have time. Clearly your fiance has some stuff to figure out. It’s not like you’re 38 and feeling the pressure of time. Sort out his living situation, work on your relationship with his family, and strengthen your relationship as a couple before you get married. Spending the time on those things right now will save you from heartache, stress, and strained relationships in the future.

Post # 26
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

Eloping is the best!!!!!!  Best decision we ever made.

Post # 27
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Helper bee

Fiance and I halted our wedding plans 4 months into it, due to just too much drama from his side of the family. His mom couldnt make up her mind if she wanted us to save our money and not have a big wedding, just stay dating for awhile longer, or go ahead and take the path of least resistance and elope. It wasnt just her either.. his brothers acted as if I was gutting him in the bathtub, for his kidney. The negative attitudes from pretty much all of his close family was enough to make us want to leave them all out of it. So we cancelled everything we had already booked, sold my brand new $1300 wedding dress and bought a super cheap $50 dress, found an elopment package that included flowers and photographer, and ran to the beautiful snowy Rocky Mountains in Estes Park Colorado, and eloped. 

It was the most beautiful, perfect, romantic, drama free experience we could have ever imagined!! We don’t regret it for a minute! In fact, the only regret we have was that we didnt decide to do it sooner, and save a few bucks that we lost out on when we cancelled the venue. 

I will always be #TeamELOPEandEFFthedrama

I do suppose I should thank them for acting like a$$holes.. they saved us about $20k *grin*

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