Post # 1
Last i talked to you helpful ladies i was a complete mess!!
My and to boy took a while off we got together and talked face to face..
This weekend i dont know what got into him and he begged me to give him another chance.
We both have alot of growing up and learning to do so we did decide that we would take it slow by getting to know eachother all over again really starting over we know we cant be together right now. There is things he does need to get sraight and some mending and trusting we need to gain back.
So we decided we will not be together but i can see he is showing much signs of caring and he did tell me while we were broken up him and his ex did hang out and they did kiss. He told me being with her showed him that he cant try to fill an empty void he was trying to fill that she wasnt me and he really did miss me.. He told me i am the only girl that he wants to be with and he is too.
I too did the same thing i hung out with one of my exes and we did kiss but my feelings and my heart is with him.
Yesterday he wanted to see me three times we only got to see eachother 2 but thats perfect for me it was brief when we did it was really nice having no pressure good vibes i know we are not together and it might not happen for a while
but we are having sex should i stop or continue too
Post # 3
Only you can decide if sex is right for your relationship right now.
My opinion, though? Hold off on sex right now. You two need to work on the emotional aspects of your relationship and sex can often cloud your judgement/how you really feel. When you feel like your relationship is solid and healthy then I believe it is okay to introduce sex back into it.
Post # 4
Sex can make things worse depending on the situation. I would stop right now if I were you until things are more stable.
Post # 5
i agree and i believe that thanks ladies.
I mean i dont want him to think he can have his cake and eat it too
i want him to want me more for sex i know i am the only one he wants but that could always change because we are having sex i think if i am not having sex with him and let him know that he will realize i am not just some girl that you can have sex with we were engaged and getting back on that level doesnt require sexx
i will hold off on the sex my question is i dont know how to tell him i dont want to make it too much you know all emotional how would you guys go about it do i just tell him i think we should hold off on sex for a while and just enjoyour time hanging out together.
how should i tell him this thank you ladies for confirming what i believe in
Post # 6
If you don’t want to be in a relationship with him right now, then you need to not be sleeping with him in my opinion… That’s a whole other barrel of emotions to throw things off.
Post # 7
yes we both do want a relationship at the moment we do but we need to fall in love and get stuff araanged together all over again.
it hasnt been any kind of emotions that are really thrown off expect the fact that i dont want him to have a part of me and i dont want him to think he can
problem is i kno he will respect me and he will take a look outside the box but i dont want to get emotional when i tell him how do i tekll him without babbaling and just tell him or do i continue to hang out and just tell him i am not ready