(Closed) Were we rude on 2 counts…or totally fine?? Please give an honest opinion!

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Did we deal with these situations in a way that was ok, or not?
    Sorry, but you were wrong on both counts! : (0 votes)
    One out of two (explanation below) : (12 votes)
    25 %
    Both were okay : (36 votes)
    75 %
    Other : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    Member
    1638 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    @Miss Sequoia:

    You are allowed to wear what you want to both your ceremonies. If it comes up, just state that it is your preference.

    As far as guests, it is rude to invite someone when they are not invited. Call and make the true excuse that you are at your budget/space limit and will only accomidate who was invited.

    Post # 4
    Member
    606 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I totally think wearing a white dress to the courthouse is fine.  The plus one for singles is totally up to you, I would just say be consistent

    Post # 5
    Member
    1403 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    1. You can wear whatever the heck you want to the courthouse, and anyone who thinks they deserve an opinion about that needs to get their head checked.  If people ask, tell them the truth, and frankly correct them if they make a fuss!  Some people need to take a chill pill…

    2. Just talk to the guy who received the invitation and explain the misunderstanding and allow him to invite the girl he wants to bring.  You don’t have to invite his “+1” for him.  If you get word that the girl feels offended, then you might want to talk to her in person to straighten it out.  People understand that misunderstandings happen.  🙂

    Post # 6
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    7771 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I don’t get it- I mean- I don’t see the problem/ situation with the white dress.  Are they upset you aren’t wearing one in the church?

    I would tell the guy that you weren’t planning on +1s. but allow him to invite her.

    Post # 7
    Member
    4755 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    People just want to SEE the white dress they’re not actaully upset you’re not. I can’t identify with a sari so I’d be like alright no seeing a pretty white dress. So that’s why they LOOK mad, but they aren’t just a touch dissapointed there isn’t THE dress (as in the traditional white one). Ignore the looks and change the subject. It’s purely your choice.

    As for the extra guests be firm, don’t tell or ask your parents either. If you allow 1 you are going to get killed for denying others so you must decline ALL extras. Just lie, I’m sorry but we’re at capacity already and are unable to accomodate an extra guest. Apologize and tell them you really hope they will still be able to attend. DO NOT GET BULLIED. Like I say if you okay 1 you have to OK all.

    Post # 9
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    5110 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 2011

    wear anything you want to either courthouse or your spiritual ceremonies. wear hot pink spandex wear a wedding dress! Its your choice its your day.. and the plus one thing.. that is up to you and your Fiance. But keep all of the plus one regulations the same for everyone. 🙂 

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