(Closed) were you completely shocked when He Proposed?

posted 6 years ago in Proposals
  • poll: We're you shocked/Surprised?
    Yes : (76 votes)
    39 %
    No : (63 votes)
    32 %
    I was waitng : (45 votes)
    23 %
    Other... : (10 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 3
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    14495 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I honestly thought he was just drunk, which he swears he wasn’t.  He had a horrible divorce and swore he would never get married again and he is the type that makes up his mind and that is that.  So when he did ask, I almost fell out of my stool and kept asking him if he was drunk.  I even asked him the next day if he meant it, because once I called my mother it was a done deal.

    Post # 4
    Member
    1426 posts
    Bumble bee

    Completely and utterly shocked and surprised. And thats how he wanted it.

    Post # 5
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    2759 posts
    Sugar bee

    I voted “other” because I proposed to him πŸ˜€ I think I shocked him pretty well, though.

    Post # 6
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    383 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    We had shopped for rings and he had said “it will happen by the end of X month” but when it happened the month before, I was shocked.

    And he’d taken what I liked in a ring, and he’d changed it just a bit so that it was more him too. It was perfect.

    Post # 7
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    3626 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    No, I knew he had the ring, and I knew it was happening within the week, but I wasn’t expecting it when it did happen.

    Post # 8
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    1310 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    I knew it was coming because we had discussed general timelines of our lives (I wanted to be married in the next few years, he was getting close to 30 and felt the same way) and we had talked about marriage too. And all that stuff like kids, handling money, when would we want to buy a home etc. Things you generally do post-marriage.

    I think most women know… I think that’s why most men propose, because they’ve discussed it and are positive they’ll get a yes! Whenever there’s a declined proposal you can bet it was intended as a “surprise.” I think it’s great if the actual proposal itself is a surrpise, but the fact that he wants to propose, should not be – usually πŸ™‚

    Post # 9
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    2775 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Well, we’ve been together for 6 yrs so i was waiting. I was expecting him to do it the night before he did it and he didn’t propose just to throw me off! When he proposed the next day, I was completely caught off guard!!

    Post # 10
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    3148 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2010

    I was completely surprised!

    we had been dating for a few years, so it got to the point that with every holiday and anniversary, I was hoping for a proposal. we knew we were open to marriage (we had discussed it), but I wasn’t sure when he would be ready and was “waiting” for almost 2 years.

    so, a certain christmas was approaching and I had a very strong hunch, much stronger than before. I painted my nails. the holiday came and went w/o proposal. I was bummed, but I moved on. then he hauled off and proposed a few days after Christmas, at home, on our couch. 

    it was a genius move because I didn’t see it coming at all!

     

    Post # 11
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    6349 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I was really surprised!

    I mean, we’d been talking about marriage for about 2 or 3 years by the time he proposed (we’d been together 5 years and 4 months when he popped the question, and started seriously discussing marriage after about 2.5 years together), and I’d half-expected him to propose about 6 months before, on our big summer holiday. As it happened, early in January he suggested a short break away, and as I had leave booked for early Feb, I sorted out 3 nights in Spain. In hindsight, this was completely unlike him and should have had me suspicious, but he said he wanted to get away because his mum had been in hospital and we’d been super-stressed (we had), so I fell for it.

    The proposal story is hilarious; there were SO many moments when I should have guess; he got worrried on the plane because we had to put our bags about half-way down, and kepy looking back, and I was like ‘What are you worried about?! We have all our valuable with us!’ (the ring was in the bag lol). Then he wanted to buy a couple of bottles of wine at the supermarket when we got there, and I only wanted to get one because we’d have to carry it, so moaned and moaned then made him carry it :-s

    We then had a siesta as our flight was very early, but I snoozed the alarm and we didn’t wake up until 9pm, at which point he flies into a panic about the restaurants being shut (low season is very quiet and things close early). I was like ‘Chill out! If we have to get a McDonalds we do, it doesn’t matter!’

    We then walked down the seafront and he suggested coming back later with a bottle of wine; I looked at the sea in disgust and went ‘Oh God no, it looks like oil!’ (it was dark, so the sea looked really black)

    I then made him go to a few bars until about 1am, thinking that was what he’d want to do, but he was itching to get away. He then suggests walking back down the seafront, at which point I whack out a map, and proceed to demonstrate how doing so would be going massively out of our way. I then refuse to get a taxi (he’s panicking about a 20 minute walk in the early hours with a ring lol), but he hailed one on the way.

    We get back to the apartment, and he suggests opening a bottle of wine; I say “Really? Do you not think we’ve had enough tonight?” but grudgingly get it out and head onto the blacony, complete with brown granny-blanket I’ve found in the cupboard to make a point about how cold I am. We open the wine, and have a few sips, and then he pulls me up into his arms, and gives me a lovely speech about how much he loves me. At this point, I’m thinking ‘Aww, how sweet.. But how random!”. He then goes into his back pocket for the ring, at which point I look at him in disgust and exclaim “Are you scratching your ass?!”. He then just went down onto one knee and asked lol, and I was SO shocked I was speechless

    So no, didn’t expect it at all, despite god knows how many things which should probably have given me a clue. I think I’d always expected him to propose on our big holiday, and would definitely have expected it if he’d waited until our Mexico trip in the June; as it was, I just didn’t put two and two together, and never guessed for one second that he’d planned it all planning to propose πŸ™‚

    I love that it was such a surprise, and I love the proposal story; the fact I never guessed makes it funnier πŸ˜‰

    Post # 12
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    3618 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    I was totally in waiting, and nagging him, but he did catch me by total surprise when he did it.

    Post # 13
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    2280 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    No, I pretty much saw it coming! The poor dear wasn’t as subtle as he thought. πŸ™‚

    Post # 14
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    15 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    I was completely surprised. He said I looked like I re-booted. I don’t even remember what he said to me because I was so shocked.

    Post # 15
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    962 posts
    Busy bee

    I was totally in shock, which is surprising since I knew it was eventually coming, since I had been a waiting bee, and since I had nagged the poor boy within an inch of his life (lol…kidding). But really, it was very romantic and surprising. Most importantly, the fact that I had set a timeframe (as in “I would like to be engaged by our second anniversary”) and that I had made my own needs known didn’t take away from the beauty, shock and splendor of the moment for me.

    Post # 16
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    7431 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2009

    Yup, completely surprised

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