(Closed) Were you dating someone else when you met your SO?

posted 10 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Were you seeing someone else when you met your SO/FI/spouse?

    No, I was totally single.

    No, but I was casually dating different people.

    Kind of. There was someone I was seeing, but it wasn't serious.

    Yes. I was in a relationship with someone else when we first met.

  • Post # 47
    1268 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    i was dating someone when i met my Fiance. in fact, i had been with my then boyfriend for over 3 years. we were both kind of feeling like things had already fizzled out, but were trying to make it work. when i met my now Fiance he completely swept me off my feet. i had to deal with the “breakup” with my ex for almost a year. it was so worth the drama though! my Fiance is amazing!

    Post # 48
    5147 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    None of those really fit my situation.

    I voted “Kind of. There was someone I was seeing, but it wasn’t serious”.



    My actual situation was that I was in a miserable marriage and on my way out of it. I had already decided I was getting divorced at that point, just trying to figure out how it would all work out.

    My fiance and I were just friends at the time. We started dating in the time after my ex-husband and I had seperated but before we were officially divorced.

    Post # 49
    148 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    he wasn’t, I was single and loving it πŸ˜‰

    After talking to him non-stop for three days, I decided to call it off with my “friend with benes” the FWB was not happy.

    Post # 50
    81 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    We were actually both dating other people when we met–my ex actually introduced us!  Granted, this was about two years before we started dating, but I still think it’s funny.  πŸ™‚

    Post # 51
    7052 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I was a single chick here.  And honestly?  I seriously thought I was going to be single forever.  I was totally ok with that!

    I was content with my job, love being the mom to my son, have enough money to take a few mini-trips each year, had a nice house and vehicle. 

    But there, on that one night HE had to walk into my life at a sushi bar. Laughing

    Post # 52
    5103 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I was in a relationship and had been for two years, he was not. We met through two of our very good mutual friends who had begun dating (and we met in a bar…nice, right?!). 

    It was very innocent with me in the beginning. I cared for my ex and he was a very important piece of my life, but he and I were not good for each other, and we knew this.And no one REALLY wants to hurt another person, right?

    As for that first meeting, I saw my Fiance at the bar before we were even introduced and my eye couldn’t help but linger (c’mon, I’m only human!). When we met it was pretty clear to both sides of friends that we were interested. So the friends started making us “accidentally” be at the same functions, etc. Fiance wanted to move more quickly, but I still  had baggage. Fiance never gave up, and pursued me, and made me feel like no other man had.

    After breaking up with the ex a week after meeting Fiance, we took it slow for my sake. Yet 5 years later….here we are. Still giddy and still in love <3

    *so cheesy…. πŸ˜‰

    Post # 53
    1850 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I was seeing a guy exclusively but we hadn’t put a title on it yet. We lived an hour apart, and there really wasn’t a whole lot to it. We texted throughout the day and he called me every night, but ultimately we didn’t really have very much in common. At the time I thought I really liked him, but examining the relationship now, I realize that there is no way in hell it would’ve worked. We were just so different and I’m not even sure why I thought I liked him???

    I was actually waiting on my nightly phone call, when I met SO in the lobby of our dorm in college. SO and I spent the night talking and I was so into him I forgot the other guy even existed! The next day I got on my computer and saw there was a message from the other guy asking why I hadn’t answered my phone and saying that I was probably hanging out with some other guy. I just replied and said that I fell asleep watching a movie and that I didn’t think that us seeing each other was going to work out because of the distance. He said I think you’re probably right and then we never talked again.

    Post # 54
    1361 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I was in a relationship with a mutual “aquaintance”.

    Post # 55
    2857 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011 - Bartram's Garden

    I wasn’t, but he was.

    We met at work, but he had a girlfriend at the time and we were just friends. They broke up maybe six months after I met him, and then he dated another girl we worked with, very briefly. A few months later, we finally got together.

    Post # 56
    424 posts
    Helper bee

    I met my fiance on an airplane while i was kind of dating someone (was in the fizzle out stage) I had a split second where i had to reply yes or no when he asked if i had a boyfriend, and i am SO glad i said no. πŸ™‚

    Post # 57
    13561 posts
    Honey Beekeeper

    We knew each other when we had significant others, but we never actually started hanging out (as friends, and then dating) until we were both single.

    Post # 58
    1251 posts
    Bumble bee

    I had broken up with my ex of 4.5 years four days before we met. He was single.

    Post # 59
    210 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I was on the rebound!  You will never hear me say that rebound relationships never work out.  I’d just broken up with a 2-year bf a couple of weeks before we met.  Interestingly, when my parents met, they were BOTH on the rebound from serious relationships.  They’ve been married 31 years.

    Post # 60
    41 posts

    He was single, I was in a serious long-term relationship… we were both very much attracted to each other, but neither of us wanted to do something I’d regret (though I was unhappy in the relationship I didn’t know how to leave and refuse to cheat, ever).

    We ended up breaking off contact and then got back in touch a year later… I was still with the loser, and he had a girlfriend. But then I ended up breaking up with the loser (he cheated on me) and he ended up breaking up with his girlfriend (she wasn’t right for him) and then a couple months later… well. πŸ™‚

    Post # 61
    502 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I was casually dating other people, but once I met him I was only dating him. I had just gotten out of a long term relationship with my ex a couple months before meeting him. I wasnt ready to jump into a new relationship so I dated a few guys who were interested in me when I was with my ex and then a few my old roommate set me up with. I should tell you that I am NOT the dating type. I am all about long term.

    He was the only person out of the people I was dating that we met on a whim. I did a freelance website for a tattoo shop and the owner had told me I could have as many free tattoos and piercings that I wanted. I went in for my tattoo and my husband was my artist πŸ™‚ He sent me a cute email that evening after I thanked him for the tattoo saying that he thought I was adorable. I gave him my number and he called me that night :). We were inseparable from then on.

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