(Closed) Were you dating someone else when you met your SO?

posted 9 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Were you seeing someone else when you met your SO/FI/spouse?
    No, I was totally single. : (89 votes)
    32 %
    No, but I was casually dating different people. : (42 votes)
    15 %
    Kind of. There was someone I was seeing, but it wasn't serious. : (51 votes)
    18 %
    Yes. I was in a relationship with someone else when we first met. : (98 votes)
    35 %
  • Post # 77
    Member
    620 posts
    Busy bee

    @Uracil

    Oh OK…it sounds like he had broken up with Thymine before you officially bonded.

    I hope your relationship translates to a success.

    Post # 78
    Member
    923 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    We were both totally single when we met.  To be fair, I had gone on a 1st date the night before I met him, but I knew nothing would come of the other guy…I wasn’t interested that much in the first place, and lost all interest whatsoever after I met Fiance.

    Post # 79
    Member
    850 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I was single, but he “technically” wasn’t. He was married when we met (at work, so we didn’t really talk) but after his wife left him for another dude, he contacted me and we began dating. He told me he was divorced, but his divorce wasn’t yet final, so he was still technically married, eventhough she was already living with the new guy. I felt weird about it for awhile, but hey… she was the one who left him. He assured me he was over it and finally ready to begin dating, so we took it VERY slow, but I really am grateful that she let him go!

    Post # 80
    Member
    59 posts
    Worker bee

    i was casually dating but single, he was married at the time.

    Post # 81
    Member
    2457 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    I left my high school sweet heart who I had been with for 2 years for Darling Husband. We were both friends with him, I am not proud of it but I cheated on him with Darling Husband for a week or so b4 we got busted. He gave me a choice and I chose Darling Husband That was 10 years ago. I guess it worked out for the best, but I wish it hadn’t happened quite like that.

    Post # 82
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    9053 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I voted “kind of” because we MET as classmates and then co-workers three years before we started dating.  We were part of campus security, so we’d be stuck together wandering around campus looking for trouble twice a week, so we had lots of time to chat and become friends.  It was second year university and I was still with my highschool sweetheart. 

    When we started dating that relationship had gone on breaks on an off for about six months.  We were currently “broken up”, but still calling to “be friends” and would end up sleeping together, and then fighting, then getting back together, then breaking up again, and trying to determine whether we kept getting back together because it was meant to be, or if we just couldn’t stay together because it wasn’t.

    I was desperately trying NOT to fall back into that pattern when I decided to distract myself with hanging out more with my old college buddy, and things just clicked.

    Post # 83
    Member
    107 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    If there was an ‘Other’ option, I would’ve chosen that one. xP

    Technically I was single and had been single for 2 years. But I was still very much in love with my ex, who I had had an extremely intense and crazy relationship with. I thought I would never get over him!

    Around this 2 year mark, I finally got to see how pathetic I had become at my college best friend’s birthday bash. I offended so many of her childhood friends b’cuz I was just a downright b*tch. I’m grateful that she’s even still friends with me!

    Anyway, I forced myself to change myself back to the bubbly, carefree, super-sociable person I was during college. I re-met my now FH, whom I had briefly met when I was in high school. He had just gotten out of a relationship the week before, and things had ended pretty badly–things had been rocky for months, and then she cheated on him.

    We were both looking for a no-strings-attached good time, and we started partying together and hooking up. A month in, I got pregnant. And it had to be an intervention of fate b’cuz: 1. I was on birth control and 2. I never would’ve stuck with him otherwise. He is so different than any of my ex-bfs (i.e. the nice guy), but I feel so lucky and grateful that he’s my man now. I could never say this to my family, but thank god I got pregnant with him! 🙂

    Post # 84
    Member
    5373 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2014

    We were both single (: I had gotten out of an awkward relationship a few months before and he had never had a girlfriend haha.

    Post # 85
    Member
    1888 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I was dating a guy that went from friend of 2 years to bf. We had only been dating about 3 months, but it was completely long distance. When I met SO, we were on the same team in college and I spent a couple hours with him (and the rest of the team) every day. We had so much fun together and laughed a lot, whereas my ex was a bit too serious about things. The ex texted me that he loved me one night, I ignored it, and it was then I knew I had to break it off with him to explore things with SO. Two weeks later we were official!

    Post # 86
    Member
    162 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: January 2010

    Kind of a yes and no. When Darling Husband and I first met, we were 13, so at that point, no, I was definitely single. However, 11 years later, we went on a 10-month long break and in that time I started seeing someone else. I was with that guy when Darling Husband and I started reconnecting. I broke it off before anything happened, though.

    Post # 87
    Member
    151 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    My Fiance and I were both single when we got together. However, I had gotten out of a previous relationship about six months before we got together.

    Post # 87
    Member
    8 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    That horrible moment when you’re engaged to your first love – that guy who quoted the Notebook to you, took you to Church with his family every Sunday, and proposed to you in a Disney Princess fashion. Perfect on paper, but something was still always missing.

    And then your husband – the true love of your life, your soul mate, the most gorgeous lover you ever had – sits down beside you that next semester. He becomes your best friend, but as your innocent friendship grows that “missing piece” becomes more and more obvious in your other relationship. The attraction, yet the connection – it’s all there. As your caring male best friend, your future husband starts giving you “relationship advice” for your other relationship and you realize that no other person has ever understood you more. You are now in complete denial and totally confused. 

    It was the absolute most hurtful and confusing romantic situation.  Someone had to get hurt and it certainly hurt the hell out of me to make things right. 

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