(Closed) Were you disappointed with your proposal? Were other people?

posted 12 years ago in Proposals
Post # 32
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

We talked about it for months and then went ring shopping together.  We ordered the ring, it came in a couple weeks later, picked it up and “proposed” that night at home.  When people ask about how he proposed and I tell them…they kind of look at me funny but oh well  ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 33
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’m actually one of those who was a little disappointed with my proposal.. and I talked to Fiance about it, so I kind of got a second one ๐Ÿ™‚ We had been talking about getting engaged for such a long time, and he knew I was going to say yes, so he was trying to trick me right up to the last moment. Which led to him asking if he had to get down on one knee.. uhm, yes please! He did have grander plans, but it kept raining every time he had planned. My second “proposal” was in bed as we were talking. He said all the sweet things, and told me how happy I make him, and gave me my ring again. So that’s the one I count, but I tell everyone else the first story since that was the real proposal.

Post # 34
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

It’s funny this is up today. I’m not dissapointed, per se, but underwhelmed for sure.

The symbolism was good; standing on the lot we are building our house on. But there was no speech, he didn’t tell me why he wanted to marry me, he just kind of handed me the ring box and said “So will you marry me?” Obviously I said yes, and we kissed and hugged… and then went back to discussing grading the lot for landscaping…

Fitting for our low key and practical lives? yes. Emotional? no.

But I’ll take it! I’m not complaining!

Post # 35
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I loved the set up for my proposal – we were at a park bench along a river at sunset and it was very casual but fun, like us – but the actual proposal left me a little surprised that there was not more to it. He got down on one knee and simply asked “will you marry me”. No sweet stuff, no fluff – just the big question. I was a so surprised by the quickness and blunt question I was completely stunned – I think if he set it up more with words I would have expected something… so I’m kind of happy it was low-key.

Post # 36
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I was so happy with the way my fiance proposed. We had looked at rings a couple of months earlier and I picked the one I wanted but we didn’t actually buy it at the time. Little did I know he called the store two days later and bought it and then it sat in his room for 5 months! When the proposal actually happened though I knew it was coming. We went to visit our college for a weekend and we were walking around campus. We then walked up to the really pretty grotto area and sat for a little while talking and just relaxing. I started to get nervous when he got very quiet. Then he proposed and I was so excited. I loved that it was just the two of us. I had said from the beginning I didn’t want it to happen at a restaurant or with alot of people around so it was perfect for us!

Post # 37
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

Last summer my FH had to go to Alabama (we live in Maryland) for 5 weeks for job training.  We had been dating for almost 4 years, owned a house together, and new that we would eventually get married. I had been getting a bit restless but I knew he’d come around when he was ready. I guess absence really does make the heart grow fonder because he was so homesick he couldn’t stand it. By day 3 he started dropping hints about getting engaged. I was so happy just to hear him being the one to initiate conversations about getting engaged that I could not stand it. I flew down at the end of his training in order to make the long drive back, with a stop in Williamsburg for a few days of R&R.  I had booked our weekend at a very romantic resort and while at dinner overlooking the most beautiful scenery, he grabbed my hand and just said how this is the perfect place and time to get engaged….he said he’d already looked up where the local Jared’s was and wanted to go there the next day together to look for a ring. So we did just that and I picked out my own engagement ring and new all day that we’d be picking it up and he’d be slipping it on my little finger!  So, no bells, surprise, or elaborate plan but at the end of the day, I get to marry my perfect match so who cares!! I was ECSTATIC!!

Post # 38
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

FH and I actually didn’t do an official proposal. I don’t remember when we decided to get married, actually, it’s just been understood for awhile. Then at some point we were discussing next year’s schedule and we realized if we didn’t want to wait until 2011 we’d have to plan a wedding for next fall. So unromantic, I know, but I think an official proposal with one knee and a speech would make me so nervous I couldn’t enjoy it!

Post # 39
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

My proposal came while we were broken up! We had broken up because he needed time to be convinced that I was ready and willing to lead a dual-military life. He told me that if we got back together, we would be headed for marriage.

Long story short, as he put his shoes on to head to his mom’s place (he was leaving for Army training, so he was putting some stuff in storage anyways, even if we weren’t breaking up…) he casually mentioned leaving his winter coats for “when he came back”. Thinking he meant the next day, I said, “can you just take them now? I need the closet space.” His response was something to the effect of “Yeah, but I’ll be cold in December when I come back here…” Suddenly it clicked and I realized that he meant he was coming back to ME. That was pretty much it, though he “offically” proposed a few months later when I went out to his post to visit.

Post # 40
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I don’t know if I would call ours “low key” or not, but it was perfect!

We went camping over the New Year’s Eve weekend at a Forest Service cabin. We skied in with our packs and arrived just in time to beat the darkness. We changed into dry long johns and made dinner and were just sitting around after. i was reading and he asked me to come sit with him by the fire. We were looking into the flames together and then suddenly he was on one knee telling me all the reasons he wanted to marry me! I was so surprised I hardly heard what he was saying, and my first response was, “Really?” (Of course my next response was Yes!)

And then we got snowed in. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 41
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

We were on a cruise, he was sitting on the bed (clothed) and I was sitting in his lap (in just a towel) when he pulled out the ring and asked me to marry him. He said he wanted to do it at dinner but he was afraid I might say no….like I would do that to him!!  POint – if you thought I’d say no, would you really do it on a cruise when neither of us can go anywhere and it would be totally ackward for a week!?!? Haha it was funny, and we laugh about it now.  Very cute way to propose, I knew nothing about it, and it was realy nice to just be the 2 of us while he did it Wink

Post # 42
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Mine was NOT low-key. . .but I was kind of disappointed.  He told almost all of our family and friends ahead of time, and they were all there watching us.  It felt immensely high pressure and uncomfortable with them staring at us (he had asked them not to run around the back of the cottage to watch but they did it anyway).  Then, I only got to tell my 3 work girlfriends about it, since EVERYONE ELSE knew already.  I was the last to know.  The opposite of what I wanted.

However, I also got to share the moment with many people we are extremely close with, I got to see how much he loves me with the crazy amount of planning he did, and I still got to jump around screaming with my fun work gals.  It worked out! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 43
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

ehh…our proposal was in our apartment at 1am in the morning on our pull out sofa couch.  Not so romantic as stories go.  I don’t love it, but I’m not dwelling on it. 

What’s romantic is the reason behind it….we were both ready…we both wanted it…and he just wanted me to know – he wants to spend the rest of our lives together.  And honestly, for me (not belittling anyone else’s experience), I don’t mind not having the ultimate, complicated, uber planned out, surprise proposal…I have HIM.  HE, who knew I wouldn’t want a ring  (and who doesn’t want to encourage the whole comparison of rings competition/enviousness), so he bought me a set of jewelry that’s so ME instead.  HE, who, imho, shows the ultimate romance by doing all the vaccuming & dish-washing (I HATE vaccuuming).  HE, who loves my funny faces & quirky voices, & who lends me an air of seriousness when I need it.  HE, who dreams right along with me – I mean how many other brides get a horse-drawn glass coach, princess dress, & fireworks at their weddings WITHOUT the dreaded (imho) bouquet toss, cake cutting, & obligatory hours of dancing to music that is NOBODY’s top choice selection?  To me THAT’s romantic. 

Post # 44
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Blushing bee

I was thrilled with mine, but certain relatives, including my Grandmother (who I love dearly) won’t tell others how Fiance proposed. Ce la vie!

Post # 45
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Well ours was low-key but he did the most amazing thing that I would have never thought of someone doing. He got me a photo album where he had the front engraved with what he wanted to say in the proposal. It is the most amazing letter I have ever read and makes me cry every time I read it. I love that I have it right there to always look back on. When I got done reading the letter and was all teary eyed he asked me to be his wife.

Post # 46
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

It makes me a little sad that some people are disappointed by the proposal stories…isn’t is the thought that counts?  I understand that it wasn’t what you expected, but you’re engaged to a man who loves you madly!  I hope that doesn’t sound judgemental, because I certainly don’t mean it to be.  I just hope everyone’s staying positive!

I’ve definitely gotten the “Oh…that’s how he did it?  That’s nice…” response, but the people who know us know that the way my dearest proposed to me was perfect, genuine, and sincere.  He proposed at my worst…runny nose, no makeup, grossness, and told me that he loved me regardless of what I looked like or felt like.

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