(Closed) Were you disappointed with your proposal? Were other people?

posted 12 years ago in Proposals
Post # 62
Member
111 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

ya so mine was kinda wierd… i wish it was a little more planned but hey im engaged finally!! we have been together for 10 years now and have a 3 year old, a condo and all the stuff! we are already married basically except the whole legal thing lol. so we were in the mall looking at clothes for our daughter and he was like lets go in here (jewlery store) and look at watches so i was like ok. so we go in and i obviously start looking at rings ( i knew i was getting one soon but didnt know how soon ) and he was like oh try that on and it was awesome!!!! so he was like oh i cant afford that so sorry blah blah so we left the store. well he is very into video games…. very very into them ( kinda annoying but i there could be worse hobbies) so he was like why dont u go to the gap and get some stuff for her and i have to go reservse some games that are comming out. ill meet u at macys in like 20 min. i was like ok… so im in front of macys 20 min later and hes taking forevor. he finally shows up and we are walking to the car and get in the elevator and he pulls the ring out we just tried on!!! and proposes… he couldnt wait lol

Post # 63
Member
19 posts
Newbee

No it was amazing and just lovely we whent to the movie for our first date and had our first kiss at one certain part we both remeber so 5 years later they have a rerun of it sudenly he says “get dressed we are going to see a movie” and i was so happy it was that movie he waited till the part we kissed at and propossed in front of everyone!!!!

Post # 64
Member
246 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

There was never a defined proposal in my relationship, we both wanted to get married from the day we started dating. We were friends before then and knew it was both of our’s goals. Then, at some point during our dating time it became an unspoken goal for US. We began going to church together, we began scoping out neighborhoods, one day we decided to make our desires known to the church, we set a date and started planning. He stressed about a grand gesture when he bought my ring, but I let him off the hook for that because I knew that was not “him.” After the ring was on my hand, he started callingme his fiancee… It just FLOWED…

Post # 65
Member
61 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

My fiancee did the low-key thing, too.  I had no doubt it would be done this way (though I am a public and open person, I wouldn’t have minded it being bigger, I am NOT disappointed because it was so him.  We had snow in North Carolina.  He LOVES snow and it never snows here.  So, we were outside playing and went back in.  I noticed the bird feeder was empty.  I went into the garage, got some bird seed, came back in and he asked me to come look at one of our dogs.  He was on the floor, one one knee, handing the ring to me.  I looked at him (mind you this is 7 years into our relationship) and said…wait for it….”I have bird seed in my hand!!”

Ah, Miss Romance strikes again.

I finally said yes.  🙂

Post # 66
Member
72 posts
Worker bee

My fiance was very low-keyed about it as well. He did it on my birthday morning at like midnight. Ha apparently he had the ring on the cats collar for most of the night, but I wasn’t holding the cat like I usually do. So he put the cat on my lap and I saw the ring and he said “Will you marry me and be Focker’s mother?” ha yes Focker is one of our cats names…I was super excited about it, but kind of disappointed because everyone was asleep so I couldn’t call anyone. Then he had already shown the ring to all of the people we work with and friends and family so there wasn’t any excitement over “Let me see your ring!” (Which sounds terribly vain I know), but it’s a beautiful ring for a wonderful sentiment and I wanted to show it off ha.

Post # 67
Member
458 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Ours was spontaneous and actually happened before I was ready.  It was Christmas 2008, the first Christmas we spent together after 2.5 years as a couple (previously we had spent it apart, with our families who live in different states). 

At the end of the day, we were standing in the hallway at his apartment, just talking about how much fun we’d had and how we wanted to spend many more holidays together.  All of a sudden he said, “If I had a ring, I would ask you to marry me right now…Would you?”  I don’t think either of us was sure he was serious, but of course I said yes.

But as I said, I wasn’t really ready to get married.  We didn’t tell anyone about it, and we decided to put off “real” engagement until I was ready.  It’s been almost two years since then, and we are finally looking at rings and starting to plan, but there isn’t going to be another proposal.

I think my mom is disappointed that she doesn’t have a super-cute proposal story to tell about me. Whenever a couple we know gets engaged, she makes a big deal of telling me about their adorable proposal.  She also insists that my FH should call my dad and ask for his blessing, etc., and I keep telling her, “We already told you we’re getting married…don’t you think it’s a little late for that?”

Post # 68
Member
1 posts
Wannabee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I had a heartbreaking experience. I think it’s because of all the craziness that led up to the last minute proposal. We were in a long distant relation for years and there was a lot of strain on the relationship. He asked my father’s permission for my hand in marriage in 2010 but did not propose to me until we were on the brinks of breaking up which happened in September of that year. The proposal nothing special, unromantic. When we went looking for a ring, he hesitated and kept trying to persuade me to look at cheaper jewelry stores. I wasn’t familiar with jewelry and the only jewelry place I have ever stepped into was Tiffancy & Co. The entire time we looked at rings at Tiffany & Co, he kept telling me that i wouldn’t like their rings. It got so overwhelming that I ran out crying. After 10 minutes of public humiliation, we left Tiffany’s and went to an Italian family-owned fine jewelry store that I heard of over the radio. As I was trying to pick out a ring, he would try to persuade me to get an unpleasant-looking ring. Once I picked the ring I liked and we were ready to make the purchase, that was when I found out he couldn’t get me the ring because he was in terrible debt. I had to pay for my own ring on layaway with the agreement he would pay me back. We drove home with me feeling lost and hurt. 

 

In 2008, right after his mother died from cancer, his dad dropped the ball on his family and my husband, who was my boyfriend at the time, took over as a father figure and the financial backbone. He had just graduated college and found a decent job. His father and brothers pressured him into buying them a house with the guilt trip that that was what their mother would have wanted. They also promised they would help pay the bills- they didn’t have good credit to do it themselves. After he bought the house for their large family to live in, his brothers quit their jobs. One of the siblings got married and had a baby while remaining jobless AND living there. My husband took care of his siblings and paid the bills while trying to put one of his younger brothers through college. The brother who went to college used my husbands credit card to pay tuition without his permission and dropped out soon after. It was like one episode after another and our future got caught up in everyone else’s poor life decisions. My husband did what he could to come up with the money and when we picked up the ring, his card didn’t work so I paid for the rest of it so we could take it home. it was dark outside and we sat in the car as he opened the box and placed the ring on my finger. Coincidentally, the song You Belong To Me played on the radio and we both cried. For two years he had gone through the loss of his mother and his family falling apart. The cherry on top was facing the embarrassment of not being able to propose to me in a romantic Hallmark way and having to explain why he couldn’t get a ring for me while the ring was in my hands…. in front of the jewelry store staff. 

 

Whenever i I look back, I try not to feel sad about it but I still feel hurt and disappointed. I understand he was being a good son and brother but I got bumped down to the bottom of the list for a couple of years…. I’m the one who is still helping him get out of debt today and yet I look like a selfish person for feeling unsatiafied. We love each other very much and my husband is truly a gentle and loving person. I just wish we had a happier beginning. 

Post # 68
Member
948 posts
Busy bee

How does anyone find such an old thread? Why would someone want to answer a question to such an old thread….?

Post # 69
Member
1817 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

My proposal was perfect, he did it during a photo op with one of my favorite actresses.

I loved it, but every time I tell the story people look, confused and disappointed. It doesn’t have the typical romance and cuteness but I honestly could not imagine it any other way.

Post # 70
Member
1817 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

View original reply
BookTea:  I honestly never even look at how old threads are. If someone is talking on it obviously it is still relivant, so oh well.

Post # 71
Member
1630 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I loved my proposal, others were disappointed by it. My mother has made it perfectly clear that it wasn’t good enough in her opinion. To me his proposal was totally us and perfect for us and I am more than happy to tell anyone who feels otherwise that they are out of line. Ultimately a wonderful guy asked me to spend my life with him and that’s all that matters!

Post # 72
Member
216 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

View original reply
MissComicBook:  that is SO cute! I bet that actress remembers you forever!

 

My ex proposed to me on South Beach during vacation, in front of a huge crowd of strangers. I’m extremely shy, so I was mortified. The fact that he KNEW I would hate being asked in front of other people probably should have clued me in to that relationship’s future demise haha.

My current boyfriend (and hopefully future husband!) knows that I would prefer a private proposal, and since he is shy as well, that is most likely what I’ll get 🙂 

Post # 73
Member
819 posts
Busy bee

I was not dissapointed at all. I am a very private person and hate attention. He woke me up in the morning and he had already put the ring on my finger and he just asked. It was nothing that he had thought about doing, he just felt like that was tehperfect time. 

If he would have done something a little more flashy I dont think I would have enjoyed it, I would have been too concerned about the attention it was drawing. 

Post # 74
Member
1817 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

View original reply
CateM10:  Thanks! She actually mentioned it during a Q&A when we saw her again this past year, we had a whole conversation because I couldn’t resist shouting to her that that was us.

Post # 75
Hostess
525 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

mine was low key. I personally dont like having all the attention on me where others are taking pics and watching, and told him well before, turns out, he was planning to take me away to ask!! He cancelled the original plan and asked me on a nice night out for dinner on the weekend, jsut the two of us, then dinner and drinks to celebrate and a get together with our friends right after. It was perfect for me Aand loved that it was jsut us two and no one else watching 🙂

The topic ‘Were you disappointed with your proposal? Were other people?’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors