(Closed) Were you disappointed with your proposal? Were other people?

posted 12 years ago in Proposals
Post # 93
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2016

Bumping the thread! I loved the way he proposed. We’re long distance and can only meet up a couple of times a year and this time we met up to go to a wedding. This was the day after the wedding and both of us would go back to our respective countries the next day. So this was in a hotel room and we were about to go for dinner.

I usually get a Pandora charm whenever we meet up so when he said “I’ve got a present for you” I just smiled and thanked him.<br /><br />He hands me the box and it’s way bigger than usual so I’m just quiet first and then ask if I should open it.<br />I opened the box and saw the ring I just started bawling my eyes out and hugged and kissed him. When I stopped crying he just asked me if I knew what it meant and I answered “Maybe, tell me what it means.”<br />So he asked me to marry him and that was it. Very low key, he did not really plan when to propose he just knew he wanted to do it during the weekend. I loved it because it was very us, no people around and I didn’t think he would propose at that time and I had told one of my friends that I thought he would propose this way. 

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Post # 94
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

We knew from the first meeting we’d be married- we talked about a future from the first date. After a year I asked him for a ring; the next time I saw him he put it on my finger. Then we had wild and amazing sex…it was like a hot air balloon ride, fireworks and a Busby Berkeley dance number all put together. Couldn’t be more perfect!

Post # 95
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2025

I’m not engaged but a coworker of mine got engaged and her story was very low key but something about it struck me. She was just sitting in bed, eating a “greasy breakfast sandwich” and he couldn’t wait anymore so he asked her right then. He later told her that the ring was burning a hole in his pocket and he just couldn’t wait to ask her any longer (he’d picked the ring up the day before).

Nothing extravagant, but simple, sweet and personal at the same time.

Post # 96
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Wannabee

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jennifer_espos:  OMG… I know this is a few years past, but I was reading your words and it sounded like it was coming from inside my head.  Up until the “getting down on one knee” part.  My guy felt he “couldn’t” because we were in a booth.  <sigh>

Post # 96
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: December 2017

I regret to say that I am disappointed in mine, and I wish I could have a do-over but it happened and we are busy planning our wedding and there is no sense in changing it now. I have long been difficult to surprise, and he knew that, but I don’t think he took me seriously when I told him how bad it really is.

I wasn’t suspicious about our double-date dinner plans with my sister until Fiance told me HE booked the reservation (at this point, his every move made me suspicious, so naturally I immediately knew something was up because any of the other 3 of us had direct access to the reservation system for dining where we ate (theme park; we work there and he doesn’t).

Anyway, I am suspicious now. I realized that restaurant happens to be close to a beautiful wedding gazebo I have told him I love. I knew right away what would happen, and my suspicion was confirmed when, instead of casually walking in its direction like we naturally should have, we walked past it and turned around back toward it. He even TOLD me he wanted to go look since he knows I love it. I knew for sure this was it.

WE started walking to the gazebo, and right next to it I saw (in the dark) a black umbrella, opened up on its side (my sister was hiding behind it with a camera). There was a vase of roses in the back of the gazebo, with a black ring box on the ledge above it. I was so disappointed that I knew all along, that I wasn’t surprised in the least and for the first time ever I didn’t want him to propose. But through my awkwardness, he did, and I dont remember if I even smiled or not, but he didnt speil anything cute and lovey, I didn’t cry or feel emotional at all, and I only felt uncomfortable through the process. I am happy I get to marry him, but I had been looking forward to the proposal for SO long that the way it happened left me painfully disappointed, and I have been trying to move on but it’s tough.

Everyone who asks me how he did it also asks “were you surprised?” and it hurts all over again. But it’s not like I had the option to tell him I knew what he was doing, and to please try another time to actually surprise me. I totally appreciate the thought and effort he put into it, but I wish I could have had the typical shocked and teary reaction as I squeal “yes!” and we hug and are super excited…none of that. 

I haven’t even felt excited or emotional over the normal things that would do it for me, and I feel like watching proposal videos now will only make me cry through sadness, not adoration. I wish I could control my emotions and truly feel happy and excited and enotional. I don’t know why I am not feeling it.

Post # 97
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

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detronyx :  Wow.. I mean from my point of view it seems like he tried really hard to make it sweet, romantic, and special. Roses? A photographer? He remembered your comments about the wedding gazebo? How long have you been engaged?

Try to focus on his sweet gestures rather than the fact that you suspected it was coming. You said you were “difficult to surprise”, but proposals don’t have to be a surprise.. you should kind of know a proposal is coming if you’ve communicated to each other your desires to marry. It sounds like you have yourself a sweet and thoughtful man who did his best to make the proposal special and memorable. Don’t discount it just because you weren’t as surprised as you wanted to be!!!

Just keep in mind, the proposal is just the beginning to what you should most be looking forward to: being able to spend your life with someone.

 

Also, this thread is 7 years old so you might want to start your own. More people will reply that way.

Post # 98
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

Our engagement came out of a very simple and very spontaneous proposal: We went to a party, and stayed way longer than we’ve ever stayed at any party. We left very very early in the morning, at 4 a.m.  We were kind of dressed up; I had on a cocktail dress and he was in a nice suit without a tie, and neither of us was tired (weirdly), so we decided to drive to the eastern shore of Maryland to watch the sun rise, about two hours and a bit from home. As the sun came up over the water in St. Michael’s, MD, he leaned over and kissed me and asked me to marry him. I smiled, waited a minute (for drama, haha) and said yes … quietly. There was a long silent pause, then we both exploded into laughter and shrieks. I wouldn’t have wanted anything different, and it was so authenticly “us”.

Post # 99
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Helper bee

My partner (now husband) & I both chose a ring together, however we had to wait for it in the mail from a jeweller overseas. 

The day it arrived in the mail, I actually signed for the parcel lol, so it wasn’t really a surprise. I gave the parcel to my partner and we went about our day, until we headed into buy groceries, he bought a bunch of pink roses. I was with him, so I had a feeling he was going to propose that night, why else would he buy roses?? ๐Ÿ˜€

We got home, it was late afternoon and we decided to go to bed for a nap together, he rolled over and was about to go to sleep, but then he rolled back over with the ring box open & the roses he hid under the bed & asked me if I wanted to marry him. 

I burst into tears, even though I knew it was coming at some stage, and of course I said yes.

 

It’s not a fairytale proposal like in the movies, and I don’t regret it at all. I honestly loved the fact it was raw and just us in bed with our cats. I don’t need a romantic dinner for 2 or to be proposed to in front of strangers, what was important was us in that moment.

Post # 100
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Busy bee

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sjbee :  We were in the car sitting in the driveway around 2 pm on our way to the beach. I had greasy hair, sweatpants on, and chipped nails. I went inside to get my nail polish remover, came back and he asked if I forgot anything. He kept asking and I asked him if he thought of something specific, then he held out the ring and said “Will you please say yes?” It was odd at the time and I called him a turd for waiting until the one day I didn’t put dry shampoo in my hair, but I wouldn’t change it for the world. It was very us.

But yes, people are always so disappointed in the story. Good thing I don’t care ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 101
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Worker bee

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detronyx :  Girl, you got a super romantic proposal! I best some of the bees here would be green with envy! Just because you saw it coming before it actually happened in no way makes it any less special. And if it makes you feel any better, I never got a proposal. I just suggested to my man that we forget all formalities for now and just start planning the wedding. He agreed and it worked for us. A proposal is a one moment thing, marriage is for life. 

Post # 102
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

I didn’t have a proposal and I don’t care. We’ve been together 3 years and had talked since early on in the relationship about getting married at some point. I can’t even remember exactly when we decided on it being next April. For ages it had been a ‘we should start saving up to get married’ and then we just started doing it. We don’t have rings yet, I’ve seen one online I like but we’re going on a trip to a bigger city next month so waiting to see if we see anything we like there first. I’m marrying the man I love, I don’t need anything more! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 103
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Worker bee

I am hoping for something low key, but I should mention that I certainly hope we’re not sitting on teh couch and he pulls out the ring. Something simple that also is special and required thought and planning will do. 

Post # 104
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

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mrsv2be :  I understand that everyone is entitled to their own feelings and I am not trying to invalidate yours…I am sorry you have a bad memory, but you so could have made this moment happy. it sounds to me like you CHOSE to let it be terrible instead of being light hearted and remember that sometimes “life” happens and everything isn’t a perfect fairytale. Your SO loves you and asked you to be his wife….

Post # 105
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

We had a low key proposal and I love it. We met at Target in the shoe section, so he took me to Target to “look for new shoes for work” and did it there. I’m the type of person who gets very uncomfortable in overly romantic situations and I don’t like being the center of attention, so it was perfect for us. I later found out that he had originally planned oit this big romantic thing up at our hunting cabin (we are an extremely outdoorsy couple and spend almost every weekend from May until November at our cabin), but he couldn’t wait any longer once he bought the ring, so he did it the day he picked the ring up. ๐Ÿ˜Š

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