(Closed) Were you disappointed with your proposal? Were other people?

posted 12 years ago in Proposals
Post # 106
486 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

I loved my low key proposal!  My fiance came home from work and we were supposed to go out to dinner that night….my dog could not leave him alone!  She kept licking his pants (he is a chef so I figured she was licking some food or something).  Then the two of them went to the basement to get laundry (he was hiding the ring) and she refused to come back up…  I was sitting on the couch waiting for them as we were getting late for our reservation when the two of them came barelling into the living room – he got down on one knee and said he couldn’t wait a minute later and that he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me.  I was so ecstatic I didn’t even notice he had a ring lol! 


Apparently he had a more elaborate plan but our dog knew too much! I loved the way it happened and wouldn’t change a thing

Post # 107
534 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

My guy proposed to me in such a meaningful, romantic, and  defining way of our whole relationship ….and I was totally clueless! I had been waiting a verrrryyy long time, and had become resentful, so the fact that he not only proposed in a special and thoughtful way, but also got the ring I had been wanting, helped to make the wait worthwhile! 

He told me we were going out to dinner, but that his family was at a park (made up of several gardens) and it was pretty there because his sister had some homecoming decorations set up for photos or something (nice *totally random* throw-off story, eh) apparently we were “only stopping for five minutes” we got to the park, and he suddenly had a bouquet of roses, I was like, but we’re just seeing your family? And where did these come from? Lol I kept them and brought them with me. He took me to the rose garden, to a gazebo decorated all in white lights, there were roses all around it too, it was gorgeous … The lights lead up the path to the gazebo too, he had a stereo playing our song, he told me to wait a minute, of course my heart was pounding at that point, I was like … IS THIS HAPPENING!? (turned out he made me wait cause he forgot the ring in the car lol) but then he brought me inside, and said some sweet stuff, and got down on one knee and asked me if I would marry him. His family was all around hidden in the bushes, they all slowly came out as I got the ring, taking pictures and everything, I gave everyone a hug and was practically crying lol … It was so gorgeous and romantic!

It was also extra special because we had talked about possibly getting married there, but once we got down to the details, we realized the logistics of it just wouldn’t have worked out (bad parking, nappy bathrooms, no decor allowed, etc) and I was SUPER bummed, so the fact that he proposed there was sort of a way to still incorporate our rose garden into our wedding, and that made me MORE than overjoyed! Another (cheesy but I can’t help it!!) reason I loved the fact that he proposed to me amongst flowers was because we actually met one summer working at a greenhouse together, our first convo was over a compound-type-area loaded with pallets of gorgeous multicolored spring pansies …flowers just seem to be a reoccurring theme in our relationship!

Post # 108
534 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

Eta: I was NOT disappointed with my proposal, and neither were other people cause I had a story to tell! 

Post # 109
86 posts
Worker bee

So I’m new to this board but I definitely can relate to having a less than “perfect” proposal. So, here goes. My fiancé and I have been together almost seven years and engaged for approximately two. In September 2014 (my birthday) we had a less than ideal day. Selfishly, I was looking forward to a memorable day with my boyfriend and didn’t think much about him not feeling well (I’m terrible I know). Well, in an impulsive move I grabbed my car keys, drove to my parents house an hour away and sat in the yard fuming. I didn’t want to talk to him, didn’t want to see him and was determined to never see him again. In the heat of the moment he sends me a text message with a (less than clear) photo of an engagement ring he had purchased for me. My first reaction was surprise and regret. How stupid could I be? I rushed back to his house sure he would propose. Well, that’s not what happened. We didn’t really talk about it and he never showed me the ring. So I assumed he would pop the question soon. Well, you know what they say about assuming.

Fast forward five months. After weeks of dropping (not so subtle) hints about the ring and him saying “soon” I was fed up, convinced he had only sent me that text to make me come back. So, what do I do? Back to my parents house I went.  More ignored phone calls and angry text messages. I was done. After some time I slipped some shoes on and headed out the door. I started to drive, not really sure where I was going. Moments later I get a phone call from my aunt asking me to stop by, saying she needed help with something. Thankfully, I said “ok”. I arrived soon after, prepared to move some piece of furniture. Instead, I looked to the dining room and saw my boyfriend turning the corner from the living room. She told me I should listen to what he had to say. I could see from the look on his face he was nervous. Then, in my aunts kitchen, with me dressed in an dirty old sweatshirt and sneakers he asked me to marry him. Without a second thought I said yes. The three of us sat around the island in her kitchen drinking cheap champagne and eating cheese doodles. 

For a while after I was overwhelmed with feelings of regret and disappointment. To me my engagement day should have been a happy day. I was convinced he had only proposed so I wouldn’t be mad at him. So one night recently we had a long talk and for the first time I realized how wrong I was. Knowing he didn’t want to lose me and trying to figure out how to convince me how much he loved me were his reasons for his proposal. We could have had the stereotypical proposal with a candlelit dinner, roses and a cameraman hiding in a nearby bush ready to capture the moment. And I would have hated it. The fact that it was imperfect is what made it perfect. Nothing about our relationship is traditional. Including our engagement and I wouldn’t have it any other way.

Post # 110
619 posts
Busy bee

I totally know that “disappointed” kind of feeling that other people have when you tell them the story. 


I had the most PERFECT proposal, it was so authentic and so genuinely us. We were visiting my parents the week prior to Christmas. I rarely get to see them (maybe once a year), because I live about 2,000 miles away from them. He secretly asked my dad the morning after we got there (didn’t know that until later). The next day we went to the historic town square and walked around a bookstore and then sat on a bench outside and he suddenly got down on one knee and said, “Heeeyyyyyy Kat…?” I swear he said Katrina but he swears he said Kat. Neither of us remember much because he was nervous and I was covering my eyes whispering “ohmygodohmygodohmygod” over and over again until he said “Seriously though are you going to say yes?!”  


To other people they’re like “….oh that’s cute…” But when I told my childhood friend that I grew up with, she started crying right away. People close to us know how special it was for me to be in my hometown and in a space that I grew up doing so many things, I hit so many milestones on that town square…. (I literally walked across my HS graduation stage right where we were sitting when he proposed.) And the fact that he wanted to do it during a time where we could celebrate with my parents in person instead of calling them on the phone… that meant the world to me. 


I told him I thought the grand gestures were silly. This may have been low key to some people, but it felt like a “grand gesture” to me. It was perfect! 

Post # 111
82 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

Mine was very low key..

It was Friday 13th (the day before valentines day) when I was whining in the kitchen to my OH about how he always leaves the dishes for me and I turned around and he was down on one knee having a giggle to himself. Safe to say the dishes were soon forgotten about! 

I have the feeling some others though it was a bit boring – theirs were alaborate off on holiday type affairs but we are just laidback types of people so it was in keeping with who we are. And it always gets a laugh when I tell the story. To tell the truth had my OH planned a dinner or getaway I would have smelt it a mile off!! (We had gone on our first ring browsing trip only a few months prior) 

Post # 112
30 posts

I’m very slightly disappointed, especially when I hear other people’s stories, but it’s more my fault than my FI’s for the proposal.

He was planning to propose to me on Christmas Eve by giving me a wrapped “present” and proposing once I saw it was a ring at my grandparents house and have all of my family there. So it was going to be low-key and sweet and I had NO idea he was going to propose; it was all a surprise. I wasn’t expecting it at all, and had never seen the ring prior to.

However, a couple days before Christmas Eve, my Fiance managed to lose his wallet (We still haven’t found it btw, but we know it’s in the house). I’m home from college for the time being, and there isnt enough room in my parents’ house (my brother moved back home and took residence in my old room), so we are sleeping/living in a tent with an air mattress in the basement. Fiance hid the ring under the mattress so he wouldn’t lose it, and managed to forget that he left it there. So when he lifted the mattress as we tried to look for his wallet, I stumbled upon the ring box instead. Me, not knowing what it was, tried to open the box and see and he snatched it from me before I could. I kept badgering him about what it was, and he eventually decided to propose right there, in this tent with fairy lights strung up with duct tape and with me wearing sweatpants and one of his band shirts and my hair an absolute mess. But honestly, I wouldn’t have it any other way, because 90% of the time that’s exactly what I look like. Heck, it’s what I look like right now as I type this!

So, would I have loved his plan? Of course! But I’m also happy with how he proposed to me, even if it was unplanned. It was just so authentic and real. We’re not really romantic people to begin with, and afterwards he told me that he had been wanting to propose to me for days during the downtimes when it was just the two of us cuddling and talking about how much we love each other and whatnot.

Sorry for the sappiness. 😛

Post # 113
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Soon2BMrsSmith :   I completely understand how you feel. I have been with my FH for 4 1/2 years. He asked my dad for my hand in marriage 2 1/2 years ago. We have been on six major vacations including Hawaii and Vegas and New York City. We have been on several cruises, and he did not make any moves. Two nights ago we went to dinner at a nice restaurant that we frequent overlooking the bay in Miami. It was super romantic, but instead of doing it there,  or even on the boardwalk on the way back to the car, he decided to wait until we got home. We were sitting on the couch… There was no ring on a dog, which I think is cute. There were no candles, there were no roses. It was like any other night, except that he turned to me to say I think you deserve this ring after waiting, will you take it?   I was so dumbfounded that I had to ask him, do I say yes to that? Does this mean we are engaged now? He never got down on one knee, he handed me the box with the ring inside, and never uttered the words will you marry me?    I have talked to him about how I feel, because he asked me why I wasn’t more excited. I know I should be excited that the man I love is finally proposing, but I expected a little effort. Something extra to make it romantic. I got nothing. At least you got a dog. I feel your pain though!    I literally sat there in my head thinking I should say no right now. The only reason I didn’t is because I have waited so long, I didn’t think he would do it again if I said no. 

Post # 114
3855 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

Staaaaaaahp it with the Zombie threads, Bees. 

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