(Closed) Were You Good With Kids Before You Had Them?

posted 4 years ago in Parenting
Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

i’m an only child. i don’t like children and before i had my son i had never held a baby or changed a diaper or anything like that. you will never find me volunteering to babysit or even watch somebody’s kid for longer than 5 minutes. with that said, i absolutely adore my son, he is my favorite little person in the whole wide world, and i left my job so i can spend every single waking minute with him. go figure!

Post # 17
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

atlbride2013:  only child here. Never babysat, never been comfortable around kids. I go back and forth about having my own…

Did u have a strong desire to be a mother even though u didn’t enjoy children?  

Post # 18
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

SunshineSmiles:  kids have always liked me, but before I had them, I did not want to have to deal with them. I didn’t encourage them to like me, they just did. Now, I am a mom and kids still love me, but I love them right back. I play peekaboo with babies in stores (not in a creepy way) and think nothing of making weird faces to get a giggle out of a toddler or holding very meaningful conversations with 6 year olds in my family.

I think becoming a mom brought out my maternal instincts, which is great because when I was 1st pregnant I worried that I’d feel the same sense of disregard for my baby as I did for everyone else’s at that time. With my 2nd, I worried that I could never love anyone as much as I loved my 1st, which also proved to be untrue. I love different things about each of them, but can honestly say that there is no favoritism. 

Post # 19
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015 - Farm

I’m an only child and most of my cousins are older than me… I’ve never been good around younger kids (especially kindergarten or younger) I’m uncomfortable and not sure what to do and can be impatient… but Fiance has a almost 5 year old daughter who was 3 when we met. I took it slow and just made an effort to bond with her. It’s not always easy – I still have my awkward moments and she can test my patience if she won’t listen. Sometimes I just have to walk away and let Fiance take over if I get overwhelmed…. but I’m learning every day! I love her to death and she’s made me have my heart set even more on having my own children with Fiance. The way she runs up to me and hugs me makes all my awkward worries worth it! I hear all the time it’s even easier when it’s your own child… and I feel like raising our own will even help me with my step daughter. 

Post # 20
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: Crichton Church, Dumfries, Scotland

Nope. When I had my daughter the last baby I’d been around was my brother – he had just turned 18 and I was 5 when he was born. I now have 2 kids and I’m a stay at home mum and love it. Still tense and awkward with other people’s kids though. I’m not naturally goofy or anything and generally have no clue what to do or say! 

Post # 21
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Buzzing Beekeeper

I’m an only child. I babysit my friends 2 year old and almost threw up on her on my diaper change. That s**t was f’n nasty. I’m not a natural parent, I hope to adopt but am a but scared of the little youngsters I might have. I don’t hate kids, they scare me because I want to do the best for them that I can.

Post # 22
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

heputaringonit:  i wanted kids, but it wasn’t an all-encompassing, burning desire, more like a “this is the logical next step now that we’re married” desire. i absolutely hated being pregnant (had hyperemesis) and did have worries about loving my son enough. but from the moment he was placed in my arms, it was truly and absolutely love at first sight. i mean, i love my husband, and i love my dogs, and i love my mom – but this is a different kind of love, very hard to explain. 🙂

Post # 23
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

meggyo:  Awesome to hear. I’m also not a kid person with a LO on the way. I figured my own would be 100% different.

Post # 24
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’m due in July and neither of us have much baby experience. I don’t think you have to be a “kid person” to love and care for your own child.

Post # 25
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

SunshineSmiles:  i am currently expecting my first and I was surrounded by kids/babies prior to getting pregnant. I have 2 nieces and 1 nephew and then my cousins all have toddlers – I think I am pretty good with them but even if I wasn’t, Darling Husband & I always wanted kids so we would have winged it. There is no manual that comes with having a baby, there is nothing that is going to prepare you 100% for having a baby Lol, I am not worried that our parental instincts will kick in once baby is here!

Post # 26
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

SunshineSmiles:  NOPE! Still am not. I love my children and my nieces and nephews but I do not really care for other people’s children at all. 

I love being a mommy, getting down and playing with them and now spenging time with them as they grow older cutting up and having them laugh at my old music and stuff, but I just do not want other kids around me too much. I don’t want to hold them, even friends and other family members babies will only be held for about 5 mins. I don’t want to play with them, nothing. 

ETA: I am the oldest of 2

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