Post # 1
My fiance got me a beautifull e-ring that I’m totally in love with! After looking for wedding bands, we decided on a guard to match my e-ring. It’s beautiful and matches my e-ring well. However, I feel like I REALLY have to get used to the idea of the amount of bling. Sometimes I think I like the e-ring without the guard better, because it looks more dainty.
I’ve also entertained the thought of an anniversary band that I could wear instead of the wedding guard sometimes when I feel like ‘dressing down’ a little. My fiance didn’t like the idea of that too much..
Were you instantly in love with your wedding ring? Or did it have to grow on you? Did you think your wedding ring + e-ring looked a bit ‘too much’ and did you get used to it? Would you ever ask for a new wedding ring after years of marriage if you didn’t like the style anymore?
Lots of questions, let me know what you think!
Post # 3
I was! : ) But I’m not particularly picky in terms of jewlery, and I definitely didn’t have a clear-cut idea of what I wanted.
Post # 4
I totally feel ya. I LOVE my e-ring and even though the weddng band is pretty and matches my ring I don’t love it. My e rign is so thin and dainty and the band just makes it look thicker. My fiance likes just the r-ring too. We even considered now having a band but I know down the line I would have wished I had one from my wedding day. My friends said they felt that way too and it grew on them and doesn’t feel so blingy anymore. But my fiance is also ok if I don’t want to wear my band all the time when we are married.
Post # 5
I was; but I actually fell in love with the band first and then refined the engagement ring to best go with it. So we bought them at the same time from the same designer, and they were always designed to be worn together.
Post # 6
Yes and No, I guess. I was instantly in love with my original engagement ring, but months later when wedding band shopping it grew into a love / hate relationship when I realized that the prongs made a gap in every ring I tried on. Then I finally chose my wedding band (which I completely LOVED) and my engagement ring looked all wrong next to it. I ended up getting a wrap as a Valentine’s Day gift before we were married, and then the band that I fell in love with to wear with them. I loved it because I wanted a band that could be worn alone, and the wrap allowed the ring to sit next to it without being overwhelmed or causing a gap.
If you really want a simple band as a stand in, I would explain to your SO that you LOVE your rings, and you don’t want anything to happen to them when you’re gardening, or swimming, or traveling to places you don’t want to be too blingy in. There are always going to be times it’s not a good idea to wear a diamond (Chlorine can damage metal, sandy beaches can scratch them, etc.) It’s not a question of it being insured (which is the answer I’ve heard some bees say their FI’s told them when posed with the same question), it’s sentimental. If those rings are lost or stolen, yes you could get replacements but they would never be the same. Good luck!!
Post # 7
I thought I wanted a thicker band than my engagement ring has, but it suits me TINY finger well. I will like it BETTER once I have my band soldered to it though.
Of note: my friend wears her engagement ring on her right hand and has a diamond blingtastic band… like 3 or 4 rows of diamonds that she now wears on her left hand. She did that rather than a traditional band from day one.
Post # 8
I’m with you! When I first saw my band and e-ring together, I thought it was way too much bling and definitely had to get used to them being together. Now, I can’t imagine them being without each other! It mmight just take some time to get use to it!
Post # 9
I have a solitaire 1ct round white gold e-ring with NO sidestones and a super thin band (it’s 1.5mm at its widest point and tapers to 1.2mm at the stone). My wedding band is a plain, 1.5 mm rose gold band. I don’t get to wear it yet, but I do love the combination. I probably won’t ever wear just the wedding band–the design of my e-ring was made specifically so it would be something I wouldn’t have to take off, and anything I do take it off for, I wouldn’t wear my wedding band then either.
I don’t think wedding bands need side stones. I considered a half-eternity band, but I love the stone in my e-ring so much and I thought they would detract. I was also afraid of losing the stones–I’m VERY hard on rings.
I love my combination, and I think you can too! It might take a little searching, but it’s definitely possible.
Post # 10
my set is a 1/2 ct solitaire with a super delicate band, no side stones. I actually wanted to bling my ring up with the wedding band, I think it looks a little plain when it’s alone.
I do feel like dressing down sometimes, but mainly because I want to be more comfortable (my set is fairly comfortable, but I can still feel it). so I have a different band that has a few small diamonds that I like to wear alone, it is so comfortable I can barely feel it.
Post # 11
I was instantly in love with my e-ring. It was perfect for me. When shopping for a wedding band, at first I thought it made the set a little too thick, but it was only a matter of maybe a day tops after getting married and seeing them both on that I got used to it. Now I think my e-ring looks odd without my wedding band.
Post # 12
I did but then again, I knew exactly what I wanted for the band as soon as I got my e-ring. So I’d already had the mental picture in my head to be used to. 🙂
Post # 13
Love my e-ring am MEH over the wedding ring. We couldn’t afford what I really wanted, so we just went with uber cheap and plain.
It is growing on me now though and I do feel like it makes my e-ring stand out more.
Post # 14
@misrusticj: Thanks for sharing your experience. I’m glad to know i’m not the only one, because I felt a little guilty for not loving it as much (while I picked it out myself). I think it’s great that your fiance is flexible when it comes to you wearing the band all the time. Good to hear your friends got used to the bling, I probably should too 🙂
@MerryWidow: Thanks so much for the advice! I think I’ve finally found peace haha. I think your idea is great about having a simple band. I actually already have one! It’s a plain thin white gold band which the juweler gave us when we bought the guard. I frequently go to the gym, and I didn’t like the idea of wearing my diamond ring while working out. I hadn’t thought about wearing it on any other occasion than working out. Now I’m thinking.. I can wear the band on my left hand and e-ring on the right. Then I would love to add a dainty diamond anniversary band to the plain band, which would give me the classy look I’m really looking for. I talked about it with my Fiance and he did bring up the insurance part. I made the sentimental argument. He think’s it’s fine as long as I mainly wear the guard. I just really like the idea of having the option to play with the look a little. (I’m a person who wears different shoes every day and matches her fragrance to the outfit) Anyway, thanks again for the advice!
@2PeasinaPod: Thank you, I’m pretty positive now I can get used to it. I’ll surely give it some time! 🙂
Post # 15
i had to get used to my band and ering together – i love them both and have from the very beginning but i was so used to just wearing my ering it felt and looked strange with my weddingband. now its completely opposite! i like it so much better as a set.
Post # 16
@misabell: Thanks, your combination sounds lovely! Mine is a solitair with sidestones plus the guard has sidestones too.. so lots of sparkle.. I already have a plain wedding band for practical reasons and I’m thinking about having a 3/4 diamond eternity band with it. I personally love the classy look of plain with diamond band. This so I can dress down when I feel like it.
@janie-janie: thanks for sharing. Was the band you wear for dressing down included in the wedding ceremony or purchased afterwards (if I may ask)? My Fiance would prefer me to wear one main w-ring and not just change it all the time. I think, as long as I include it in the wedding ceremony, it should be considered a wedding ring and I feel I should be able to change to mood or occasion.
@pinkshoes: Hope I’ll be the same!
@Mrs.KMM: That is definitely something to cherish! Makes ring shopping a whole lot easier 🙂
@SarahSmilesDec28: I actually love the classy look of plain. I guess it depends on the e-ring if it truly matches, but if it does I would surely opt for it.