Post # 32
My hubs to be was in a frat, but I wasn’t in a sorority. He pinned me about 3 months into our relationship and then his frat chair said he couldn’t do that. He had me keep the pin but I had no interest in wearing it either way. He’s never heard of anything in this post about lavaliers or whatever.
Post # 33
a college boyfriend and I were both greek however this tradition wasn’t big at my school. we did however have one engagement candle pass that was super exciting! (most people didn’t get engaged until graduation, when it was too late to do the candle!)
Fiance is GDI so no letters for me!
Post # 34
@aemason14: she can wear them! we used to have necklaces and bracelets and everything just to wear for fun!
Post # 35
Fiance is a GDI :'( our chapter doesn’t even do candle ceremonies so I didn’t get anything when I was engaged. Neither did a senior who got engaged right before me though.
Post # 36
@aemason14: Yea, she definitely can wear it. I wore the lavalier my big gave me with my letters alongside the lavailer Fiance gave me with his letters. Girls don’t give guys lavaliers 🙂
Post # 37
I never heard of this before, but I do wear my bf’s sweatpants that he got from being a sorority girls date at one of her formal’s and wear his kappa sig sweatshirts whenever I’m bumming around 🙂
Post # 38
Yes! My boyfriend at the time, who is now my wonderful fiance, (Sigma Chi) lavaliered me at one of our (Tri Delta) open chapter meetings. Therefore, there was really no need to do a candle passing. But yeah, it definitely served as a precursor to our engagement.
Post # 39
Fiance wasnt greek, but I did have a candle pass when we got engaged (last semester of college)!
Post # 40
Never heard of it in my chapter or my school, but then again engagements before graduation were extremely unusual.
Post # 41
My fiancé “dropped” me as we reffered to it on valentines day this year. We got engaged on December 1st 2011.
My sorority sisters turned their backs on me after I got engaged to my fiancé because I got a full time job to help our loving parents pay for the wedding and couldn’t attend many of the events for the spring semester.
But I am so very proud to wear his letters. I couldn’t imagine marrying a man more wonderful who comes from such a strong brotherhood. So I didn’t get a candle lighting for my engagement or lavalier. I will have my lavalier pinned to my bouquet at the wedding.
For his fraternity you absolutely do not lavalier a girl unless you intend to marry her or love her very deeply because you can only lavalier someone once
Post # 42
I’m a GDI, but my fiance ‘dropped’ me, as we call it at my school, a few months after he proposed. He’s a Pike, and the men all have to ‘approve’ and vote on whether he gets to do it or not. They all come to the house after meeting (if you’re in a sorority) or to your apartment (for me) give you roses and sing this REALLY romantic song called ‘Dream Girl’ on bent knee to you, and then gave me a lavalier necklace 🙂 It’s usually a pre-engagement move, so when he proposed I didn’t think it would happen to me. I was so surprised and happy, I cried. I’ve always been really close with his brothers, and as I’ve never found a sorority I “fit” with, it was extremely meaningful to me to be able to wear their letters. At his chapter, it doesnt happen very often, especially not to girls not in a sorority. I’d say it was the second most memorable/meaningful moment in our relationship, besides the proposal.
Like PP’s have said, guys rarely lavalier girls they dont intend on marrying. I know with Pike, they only get to ‘drop’ one girl during their membership, so they better make it count!