(Closed) Were you looking for something long-term when you met your SO?

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Were you actively looking for a LTR when you met your SO?
    Definitely! : (37 votes)
    15 %
    I was casually looking (what happens, happens) : (75 votes)
    30 %
    Not at all : (133 votes)
    54 %
    Obligatory "other" : (2 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    5977 posts
    Bee Keeper

    I wasn’t looking for anything perse, but I had been single for a while. I wasn’t expecting anything to happen when we got together.

    I had invited him to my little birthday outing that night, and it turned out that my ex was going to be there with his new girlfriend. I was pretty bummed about that, but it ended up being one of the best nights of my life since it was the time that we really hit it off. Everything sparked from that moment, and I’m glad he came :o)

    Post # 4
    Member
    827 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I had just moved to a new city, and met him literally that first weekend.  I had just broken up with my ex, who was terrible to me and emotionally abusive, about 3 months before that.  Had no intention of getting into any sort of relationship!  But we hit it off, and 4.5 years later, we are getting married in a few months!

    Post # 5
    Member
    6661 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I’m between casually and definitely. I was absolutely analyzing everyone I went out with to see if they had long term potential, but I was pretty open about accepting dates (within reason). I sort of had a relaxed attitude about dating in general.

    Post # 6
    Member
    971 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2008

    When I met my Darling Husband, I had no idea he was going to knock me up before I turned 19, so I voted no. 

    Post # 7
    Member
    2392 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Oh, not at all.  I mostly just wanted to get laid.  ๐Ÿ˜›

    Post # 8
    Member
    1313 posts
    Bumble bee

    I asked my SO on a date three days after I “officially” broke it off with abusive ex (although it had been “over” for a long time)

    SO and I worked for the same company and I thought he was cute. I just wanted to go on a date with another guy, but we hit it off.. 110% unexpected.

    Post # 9
    Member
    8738 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I was actually helping my ex-bf (we had just decided we could be friends) rush my FI’s fraternity.

    Finding someone long term was the last thing on my mind. I was focused on introducing my ex to these guys I knew, and I was actually quasi-interested in another guy at the frat (not FI).

    I met Fiance that night for the first time, and 7 years later we are getting married.

    Post # 10
    Member
    5273 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2009

    Absolutely not! And neither was he.

    But we liked each other and wanted to date w/ no strings attatched. So we had an “open relationship” for 6 months were we only dated each other, but didn’t care if we went to a party and made out with someone else i.e. cheating never happened b/c we were open. We were in college and in our crazy days so this fit just right. All my friends thought I was crazy, but I loved our arrangement.

    After 6 months the thought of us not being committed was getting to him, and I was ready to give it a go, so we decided to become exclusive ๐Ÿ™‚

    Post # 11
    Member
    2090 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Neither me or my husband were looking for anything serious when we started dating. We had both recently broken up with people (him with the first serious post-divorce relationship and me with a shortterm and nonserious relationship). I asked him out because I thought he was cute and I figured there was nothing to lose, and my husband broke a promise he had made to himself not to date for the rest of the year when he accepted my invite to grab drinks.

    I moved about 1500 miles away for school about 6 weeks after we met, so I was not looking to start any LTR when we got together…but he was too good to give up ๐Ÿ˜‰

    Post # 12
    Hostess
    11283 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I wasn’t looking. I’d sort of given up looking and moved in to a flat with a best friend and we were going to have some girl time – lots of rosé and shopping etc and a month later she met her boyfriend too.

    Post # 13
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    1556 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    Not at all!  He was actually a friend of mine for a long time before we officially started dating.  And when he did ask me out, I went because he was my friend and because my friends encouraged me to do so.  I had just ended a relationship about a month earlier and dating someone else was not something I was looking for. 

    I’m so glad I listened to my friends!!

    Post # 14
    Member
    3176 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Just the opposite. I had been looking and then I transferred schools and decided I wanted to be single and have fun, a week later I met FH.

    Post # 15
    Member
    1664 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I voted “not at all.”  I was having a very on-again, off-again dating relationship with this tool when I met FH.  I was also in my first year of law school and didn’t want to date anyone from school.  We were just friends for a few months.

    Post # 16
    Member
    10367 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I’ve never been able to casually date, so yes, I was looking for something serious!

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