- Miss Leopard
- 11 years ago
- Wedding: March 2014
That is just shocking– there is no excuse for that, IMO.
I will say that if one of the declines you get is from a non-family member, it may be a money situation. I’m sure noone needs to hear one more time how much the economy sucks right now, but my boyfriend and I are struggling to even pay our bills! If we got invited to a wedding of a friend, we probably wouldn’t be able to afford to go. Boyfriend works construction and doesn’t have a suit that fits, we would have to buy gas and a gift, etc. I know that sounds petty, like can’t you buy gas and a dress shirt for my wedding?, especially if it is a close friend– but honestly, we just could not afford it right now. No way, no how.
I also wouldn’t feel right about going without a gift. If I had to choose where to put my $100 bucks (going without a gift and spending the $100 on a suit for boyfriend and gas, or declining and sending a $100 gift) I would ALWAYS choose the decline. I would want to do the right thing etiquette-wise, you know?
Just consider that maybe your guests can’t afford it, but wish they could be there.