(Closed) Were you shocked by any RSVPs?

posted 11 years ago in Emotional
Post # 17
1980 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014


That is just shocking– there is no excuse for that, IMO.

I will say that if one of the declines you get is from a non-family member, it may be a money situation. I’m sure noone needs to hear one more time how much the economy sucks right now, but my boyfriend and I are struggling to even pay our bills! If we got invited to a wedding of a friend, we probably wouldn’t be able to afford to go. Boyfriend works construction and doesn’t have a suit that fits, we would have to buy gas and a gift, etc. I know that sounds petty, like can’t you buy gas and a dress shirt for my wedding?, especially if it is a close friend– but honestly, we just could not afford it right now. No way, no how.

I also wouldn’t feel right about going without a gift. If I had to choose where to put my $100 bucks (going without a gift and spending the $100 on a suit for boyfriend and gas, or declining and sending a $100 gift) I would ALWAYS choose the decline. I would want to do the right thing etiquette-wise, you know?

Just consider that maybe your guests can’t afford it, but wish they could be there.

Post # 18
5992 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

unless there has been a family argument or financial issue, then i would expect siblings – especially a grandparent (unless they are too elderly to travel) to be there. heck, i travelled more than 2hrs just to go see a movie with a friend so if it was my brother then hell yeah i would be there


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