(Closed) Were you surprised about the opinions your FI had when you started planning?

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@autumnmountainbride:  Hubby had a few things he cared about that I really didn’t expect. I knew he would want to select music (all corny 1980s songs) and food (he loves to eat). But, I really didn’t think he would care so much about aesthetic details. For instance, he really did not want me to get a gold colored Maggie dress (According to him “it doesn’t look bridal. Brides wear white.”) and he was really big on what type of invites we needed to have ( he said “I like the one’s with the cardboard holder thing. They look neater.” He meant a pocketfold enclosure.)

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

My Darling Husband really wanted a photobooth, videographer, fruit tart instead of cake, and a lot of flowers. Other than that, I did pretty much everything else. It was the flowers comment that threw me for a loop, because we ended up with about triple the amount than I was orginally thinking. Not complaining though! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

My Fiance tends to have strong opinions on things, or no opinion at all. Last night when I was showing him dresses, he said he LOVED a bow sash, because it made me look like I was wrapped up as a present for him. Guess I’m having a bow haha!!

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@autumnmountainbride:  My husband let me make all the major decisions. However he did ask could we have the wedding reception at Golden Corral to save money…I love him!

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

My Fiance was INSISTANT that we have chocolate cake, he HAD to have a vest and tie for his suit, and was really upset when I said I wanted flowers instead of figurines for the cake toppers.  He also is making sure our exit song is the MANAMANA Muppet Song.  He is so special ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 8
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Sugar bee

All my fiance cared about was the venue. He helped me pick the place— otherwise, I made the decisions after I ran through the options with him.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee

He did pick the shape of our wedding cake and we compromised on the flavor.

Post # 10
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Honey bee

I was surprised that he wanted to be involved as much as he has been. I guess because a lot of my friends husbands always just said “tell me where and what time and I’ll just show up”. But my Fiance went to every vendor meeting, asked questions, looked at inspiration pictures. He’s actually been amazing through the whole thing!

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

My fi was a lot more involved than I expected as well!

He wants me in a white dress, not ivory and specifically asked for a mermaid gown

We chose the venue and food together, and decided we had to have a chocolate fountain

He said we MUST have a Lamborghini as our ride from the ceremony to the reception

He suggested our peacock theme so we can use both our fave colors (even though I planted that thought lol)

He chose our photographer and our dj

Only fresh flowers…

The list goes on and on!

Post # 12
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

– Not too much pink (which I knew, and only my flowers/the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses will be pink)
– Wants a flower bout (I was going to do non-flowers)
– Very specific about his tie–we didn’t like any of the ones the tux shop brought in for us, so we went to four different stores and looked online and finally found an okay one (well, okay to me–I think the pink is too bright, but he likes it)

He’s gone to all of our vendor meetings and whatnot, but he’s leaving a lot of it to me because I care more about the centerpieces than he does lol.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Hbomb84 … that is hiliraous! the MANAMANA Muppet Song… sounds like something my Fiance might suggest! My Fiance gave his opinions on Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses- wanted knee length and not floor length, the cake, and wedding colors and venue location. Those are the only big decisions that we have made so far so i am sure that there are more opinions coming.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

No pink (I’m on board with that)

No square cake (I agree!)

No traditional wedding songs (“Here Comes the Bride” etc.)

The venue has to be on one floor, and have an awesome bar (check and check)

Post # 15
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Newbee

Mine has been almost irritatingly involved ๐Ÿ˜‰

I don’t really have a problem with his opinions and ideas except in flowers. He vetoed my bright flowers idea and then suggested dark blue, which is hard to find flowers in and isn’t the greatest colour for a May wedding. And then he vetoed purple, which is my favourite colour. Somehow we decided on raspberry red (like a light burgandy), blush pink and apple green. It’s not my favourite colour combination but oh well. I’m sure it will look lovely and I’m not the one wearing burgandy! But I do get really sad when I look at all the beautiful pictures of bright flowers and decorations ๐Ÿ™

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I was definitely surprised he wanted and big wedding. I didnt want a wedding I wanted to elope he gave me the colors he wanted in the wedding. It shocked me because given the fact he is so manly that I didnt think he cared as much as he does. He said we can compromise on anything but a small wedding.

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