Post # 1
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Blushing bee
I was thinking tonight, and was kinda botherd by it. I realized that in all of my relationships I was always the one that started the chase. In my serious relationships I had never been the one to be chased first… My Fiance and I were talking about it tonight and I was the one that had to get him to notice me… Grrr… Kinda made me feel bad about myself… I think every girl deep down wants to be persued, and I never was… I think Im just over reacting because Im tired. So my question for you ladies…Were you the preditor or the prey??? 🙂
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
Neither actuallly. Our relationship seemed to be the natural outgrowth of our friendship.
Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
he didnt persue me but then again i didnt chase him – one day a very good friend held my hand as we crossed the street and didnt let go…. changed everything from that day 🙂
Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
With the FH, we were like MissHobbit, our relationship grew out of friendship.
Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
I would say I was the predator, but only because Fiance had a girlfriend when we met. They broke up very soon after, and then it was pretty much a mutual chase/natural progression.
Post # 7
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Honey bee
Darling Husband and I sort of ran into each other sideways. He moved in with me after a bad breakup (I was roommates with some old friends of his) and we were pretty much attached at the hip from then on…neither of us really pursued the other, we just fell into each other.
As for past relationships, though, I was most often the “prey”. Unless I was drunk and made a move. I’m quite shy.
Post # 8
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Sugar bee
A little of both.
I was ending an abusive relationship when I met my partner, and we both pursued each other at times.
Post # 9
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Sugar bee
Well if you asked SO he would say I was the predator. What do I think? I like the way @FutureMrsMcK: put it: we ran into each other sideways. I have never felt more loved, more needed or more wanted than when I started dating SO. He like to remind me I ran up his texting bill by a couple hundred dollars in those first few weeks but he seems to forget he drunkenly professed his love for me after a week of dating.
We both just seemed to fall into each others laps and we couldn’t bare to be separated.
Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
I was just like you in all my previous serious relationships. I always felt like I was chasing after the guy.
I guess that’s why Fiance impressed me SO much. I was definitely his “prey”. He was all about me, and had no shame in making it known from the first minute we were introduced. I used to tease him that he must have a secret journal with sweet things to woo a woman written inside ;o)
I was dealing with a crazy ex when Fiance and I were first casually dating. I tried to keep my distance from Fiance only because I didn’t want him to be involved with drama. I already cared, and respected him too much for that. But it happened anyway…Crazy ex ran into Fiance and moritified me by having this convo:
Crazy ex- “Please just leave her alone, just for like 2 weeks so I can see if I can have a chance to get her back.” (*which was interesting because he didn’t care THAT much when we actually were together…)
FI- “Honestly, I can’t leave her alone for 2 seconds, let alone 2 weeks.”
See! How sweet was that?! Five years later, he has never left me alone 
Post # 11
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Blushing bee
Cute stories!!! btw..Just noticed, but sorry about poor spelling…Never been my cup of tea..
Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
@Mrs.tobe:Oh we all have crazy ex stories…
Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
@MissHobbit: Oh I have waaaay too many! Bahahahaha!
(wait, maybe it’s not that funny.) *hangs head in shame*
Post # 14
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Sugar bee
Predator, for the first time in my life! It took months of dropping not-too-subtle hints for him to ask me out. It took me a while to get over it, especially after he told me of how many women he chased at our office, really unattractive ones too, but not me. His story to this day is that he thought I was so out of his league, he never even considered the possibility. He thought I was talking to him just to be nice and polite.
Post # 15
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Sugar bee
I was the “predator” for all of about 1 day – which was just long enough to get him to finally realize that I really truly liked him and wasn’t just playing.
Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
The first day I met Fiance, we sort of made out that night (TMI? sorry!), and I definitely initiated that. I thought it was just a one-night thing, though, until I checked Facebook and Fiance asked me if we had “something interesting” between us. I wasn’t completely convinced, but then we kept hanging out and there definitely is something interesting! I guess I started pursuing, but he kept up the chase :).