(Closed) Were you told I love you growing up?

posted 7 years ago in Parenting
  • poll: Did your parents tell you they loved you growing up?
    Yes : (63 votes)
    75 %
    No : (21 votes)
    25 %
  • Post # 3
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2012

    My mom never said she loved me… not once as a child… once last year when she was wasted but now I’m 25…. I never met my father so I don’t know if he caused that issue or not (she tells my other 3 siblings she loves them) oh well.

    Post # 4
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    491 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    My family always said I love you.  We always say it before we leave the house or before hanging up the phone.  But, FI’s family rarely says it. I don’t know if I’ve ever actually heard them say it to each other, and we’ve been together 8 years!  But, I know they do love eachother, it just goes unsaid.

    Post # 5
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    362 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    I don’t think I heard it from my parents until I was at least 23.  I can’t even remember my mom and dad telling each other.  My family just wasn’t really open emotionally.

    Post # 6
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    3314 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    For both my husband and I, it’s a pretty common occurance to hear our families say they love us.  πŸ™‚  We are pretty lucky in that!

    Post # 7
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    5118 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @mrsawesome09: Same here. My family is all over the I love you’s. Any time we see each other, call each other, anything. Even my sweet little high school brothers still tell me they love me on the phone, no matter if they’re with their friends πŸ™‚

    FI’s fam never says it. I didn’t notice it right away, but I did have to let him know how important it was for me to hear it from people I love. Now, he sincerely tells me all the time and ends all of our phone calls with ‘I love you,’ but I still don’t ever hear it between him and his folks. I wonder how this all plays out when we have grandkids…

    Post # 8
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    14494 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I can’t even imagine not hearing it everyday from my parents.  I still hear it almost everyday as I speak to them often.  I think that part of it had to do with my dad working in life insurance, you never know when there will be another chance to say it so always take every chance you get.

    Post # 9
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    1835 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2010

    Growing up, my siblings and I always knew it, but never heard it from our parents. They would say other things like “I’m so proud of you!” or “You’re so special to us.” but never the actual words “I love you.” Now when Darling Husband says it to me and wants me to say it back all the time it feels… uncomfortable? I don’t know. I figure he knows it, I show him in other ways, why does he always have to hear it? But I guess it’s normal and I’m just a freak! πŸ™‚

    Post # 10
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    5153 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    My parents always said it and so did my husbands. My father, however, doesn’t show love by saying it and being emotional which used to be very hard for me and still sometimes is. He will fill my gas tank, send me a book, tell me about something that he cares about but not on a personal level, etc and he shows love that way. 

     

    Post # 11
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    3068 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Nope, I had two extremely abusive parents.

    Post # 13
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    658 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    My family always says I love you and hugs are always given when we walk in the door and when we leave. Even on the phone, we never hang up without saying I love you. My Fiance’s family isn’t like that at all except for his mom. He says his sister would say what the hell is wrong with you if he told her he loved her. While living together and dating, I would often get upset if he would leave to run somewhere quick and didn’t give me a hug/kiss and say I love you. He is getting much better at it though. It is different when we leave his parents house (esp his dads) if we are visiting because i feel i want to give them a goodbye hug but they would prob think I am strange. Life is short and it can change so quickly to not hug or say I love you.

    Post # 14
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    5921 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    My husband and I both grew up in households that said “I love you” often.  Maybe not so much all the time, but after phone calls, when we were leaving, etc.  My mom still texts me every once in a while just to say I love you.  Haha! We always end all phone calls that way too.

    Post # 15
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    42 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    My parents didn’t say it that often when I was younger so it’s really weird to hear my hubby say it multiple times a day to me now…but a good weird πŸ™‚

    Post # 16
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    242 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    My mom tells my brothers and me all the time, every time we say bye or anything she says “I love you” and we say “I love you too.”  Never heard it much from my dad growing up. I know he loves me, we just don’t say it. We do sign emails “love, ___” though so i guess that kinda counts?

    FH’s family says “i love you” always. all the time. all of them. not gonna lie, it weirds me out a bit. my family is VERY different and not at all touchy-feely or lovey-dovey.

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