Were your family and friends supportive of you taking your Husband's name?

posted 2 years ago in Relationships
Post # 16
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9173 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

i always planned to take my husband’s name.  not a soul said anything to me positively or negatively.  and if they did, it really isn’t their business.

Post # 17
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819 posts
Busy bee

My sister had an absolute fit when I told her I planned to make my current last name my middle name and then take my fiance’s last name. I know my parents won’t like it since they’ve made some comments about the name situation, though I haven’t told them anything yet. I figured people wouldn’t like my decision, but I was honestly pretty shocked at how strong my sister’s reaction was, and it made me feel so awful about such a personal choice that I’m not going to tell another soul until all the ink is dry. Same thing for future kids– we have names picked out but no one is going to know what they are until the birth certificates are signed and official! At that point, nobody can do anything about it, and I’ll feel much more confident about sticking to my guns.

Post # 18
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1148 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

They haven’t made remarks about it except excitement of calling me Mrs. First Maiden HisName. Mostly for the novelty of me being married now. For them it was to be expected, but I didn’t do it out of tradition (I’m not traditional) I just wanted to, and I decided to keep my maiden as my middle name so I haven’t let go of it completely. But my mom was upset I was keeping my maiden name at all. She associates the name with my dad and when I explained that this was the name of my birth, so it’s about my identity and not his so I don’t want to let go of it, she said “Why don’t you take my maiden name then? Your dad’s last name is so weird, at least my name is more common” “Because I’ve never had your name!” loll.

Post # 19
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9429 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I always planned to take my DH’s name; no one ever said anything either way.

Personally I have zero attachment to my maiden name, and I wanted our kids to have the same names as us.

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